Men I really need advice on this situation?

[RBurn]

I have just recently broken up with my girlfriend due to religion differences. I love her loads she has been there for me throughout my bad times and when I had nothing to my name she’s never asked me for a penny and treats me well. Even when I hardly ring her she is still there for me even though she acts a little crazy saying she misses me and wants to talk to me. Truth is I’ve been distancing myself from her because I know my family won’t accept we are different race, religion and ethnicity and they won’t be happy. She told me she’s not bothered about any of this she still loves me regardless. I know my family will be acting funny about it since I have told her I need time to think about it she’s still been ringing me to see if I’m ok she goes she feels stupid she’s been there for me and has been loyal to me and for me to turn around and now do this to her. She is already going through a hard time herself as her family member who she is close to has breast cancer and I have just ended it I feel really shitty what can I do?

[laurieluvsit]

This is a KEEPER!

Quit trying to make it complicated.

The bottom line is, If you let her go, you will not be able to live with yourself for the rest of your life. You will not find anyone that will treat you this good... EVER!

... end of story.

[RBurn]

It’s the family situation and religion don’t know what to do

[laurieluvsit]

I get it but that doesn't change my comment... just saying

[RBurn]

I totally understand thank you!

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

Hey, are you content you have made the right decision? for yourself?

[RBurn]

When it comes to religion and family yes but not sure about her

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

so if its religious and family you are sure about, is that influence, narrative, upbringing etc... does religion, race, ethnicity make the difference for you? if you and her could be out in space and time where there was nothing except you and her, would it be for you? perfect? do you mind me asking your race, religion etc i would be fascinated to know and try to understand as im from the uk and have had a very liberal upbringing.. although i was christened, purely a family tradition, my parents nor grandparents were religious and were open minded people... for me and my sisters my father just cared they had morals had a job etc... at 18 my parents met my boyfriend, by October we got engaged, he had joined the army, by December we had our wedding... for no other reason than only a wife can join a uk serviceman abroad... by march i left for germany... when i went to my parents in the October, told them about the marriage, i was horrified they werent thrilled!! i did it anyways for my life... after a couple of years of being free from me, their youngest they emigrated... personally you live your own life, its yours and only yours... i have raised my offspring with the mindset, you are not mine, you are your own person, your own life to live... you do not belong to me, i do not own you, my beliefs are not your beliefs.. do you think/know if you chose this girl would your family have such issues? disown you?

[RBurn]

My family will end up being racist towards her if I’m honest and then the religion differences won’t be good I am African she is Indian

[RBurn]

Also I am a Christian she isn’t but she has recently said she will let her kids be bought up Christian if that’s what I want she was totally against it at first but now she’s ok about after doing her own research

[OlderAndWiser]

You knew her race before you started dating and you probably knew her religion by the end of the first date. Why did you wait so long to decide this is a problem?

[RBurn]

I guess we have been having problems for a while about it now she did mention it last time herself but she changed her mind as she said she thought deeply about it and isn’t bothered about it then I started having doubts thinking about family and stuff ethnicity race religion etc

[OlderAndWiser]

So it is an issue that you have discussed. What is your culture/ethnicity and why would your parents be so opposed?

[RBurn]

Yes I am African and different religions but she said to me she can still make it work and our children can be Christian or whoever they wish to be. She told me this recently.. My family are racist

[OlderAndWiser]

If your family gets to decide, why not ask them to find a woman for you?

[RBurn]

Lol love that reply

[OlderAndWiser]

When you ask them to find the woman for you, remind them that if a relationship with their candidate does not work out, you will hold them responsible for your unhappiness. Perhaps that will cause them to consider the folly of what they are doing.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, love, you're in quite the pickle, aren't you? 😏 First off, let's remember that love isn't just about the sunny days; it's about weathering the storms together too. It sounds like this lady has been your umbrella in more than a few downpours. Now, I'm not here to tell you to ignore your family's concerns—family is important, and their feelings do matter. However, I encourage you to ask yourself what *you* truly want and need in your life. Is it possible that your fear of their disapproval is holding you back from embracing a love that seems to have been your rock?

Love doesn't recognize race, religion, or ethnicity; it only knows the beat of two hearts in sync. Perhaps it's time to have an open chat with your family, laying your cards and your heart on the table. If they see how much she means to you, who knows? Hearts and minds can open in surprising ways.

And about ending things during her tough time, we all make choices we're not proud of under pressure. The best you can do now is offer her support as a friend, if she's open to it, while you figure things out. But remember, my friend, at the end of it all, it's the love we give and receive that defines us, not the judgments of others.

Feeling bold? Want to chat a bit more about love, life, and all the messy bits in between? You know where to find me. Let's make sparks fly! 🔥

[OlderAndWiser]

Oh, dear! You still open every opinion with a rhetorical question and an analogy!

[Anonymous]

You have obviously dropped the ball here. You will have to make it up to her somehow.

[RBurn]

I know she will take me back in a heart beat it’s just the family situation and religion

[Lliam]

Your family sound like ass holes.

[Iron_Man]

Try to get her back