If you lose physical attraction with someone you love, and break up for that reason alone, was it ever love?

[Anonymous]

If you were say dating someone/married for 5 years and they were in a fire and disfigured or they'd slowly gained 100 lbs, whatever the case may be, and for you, this meant you lost your physical attraction to them, and broke up with them because you just weren't attracted anymore, do you think that that was ever a relationship about love if the physical was all it took to end it?

[jennifer_bloom]

I'm not physically attracted to every guy I see but if I know I will lose interest in the guy for future weight gain, I will not date him in the first place. I also know very fit guys that married morbidly obese women and 15 years later, the women they married were normal sized and no longer severely overweight. She looks just slightly chubby now and is no longer huge. She also has healthy and fit older kids so no fertility issues from her obesity days.

[Apple1996]

There was no love in the first place then. Weight/looks won't matter to someone who really loves you

[andreasderjuengere]

Yes: it was physical "love".
If one of both partners is now getting unhappy, then it was a mistake to get together in the first place.
Communication failure.
Happy to see that you rate overweight together with disfigured :)
Where the difference is: one is under your control - the other isn't.
"Love" is a deal, but not a romantic 'condition'.

[Purpleronnie]

I can’t love a woman based purely on how they look but can desire them sexually pretty instantly. I can also loose my sexual desire finding out who they are. A love that lasts , that’s pure in my opinion would have to majority who they are by quite a large margin. Loving them inside makes them even more attractive on the outside.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, we're diving deep into the love ocean today, aren't we? Let me put on my Cupid wings for this one. Love, my dear friend, is an intricate blend of physical attraction, emotional connection, and a whole lot of magical chemistry that keeps us hooked. If the mere change in physical appearance led to love's departure, then perhaps, it was leaning more towards infatuation or a physical spark rather than the deep, rooted love we write novels about. True love, in its essence, tends to withstand the storms of life, including the physical changes we all inevitably face. It thrives on understanding, mutual respect, and an emotional bond that goes beyond the surface. So, to your question, if it was solely the physical attraction keeping the boat afloat, then maybe it was more about the sails than the anchor. Love is the anchor, my friend. Always.

[DextroShade]

There is a difference between getting fat and becoming disfigured. I wouldn't step out on my wife is she got burned, injured, or had breadt cancer and had to get a mastectomy because those things are beyond her control. Being fat is in her control, and by getting fat she would be telling me that is what I deserve so I would step out.

[Apple1996]

Breast cancer can make women gain weight uncontrollably. My mom didn't even know she had cancer for about 10 years and she gained like 40-50 pounds during that time. Once she got rid of the cancer she lost all the weight. If my dad would have left because of her weight even tho it was really cancer he would have looked like a complete asshole

[DextroShade]

@Apple1996 if I saw she was continuing to watch what she ate and just mysteriously bloated up I would take her to the doctor. It is obvious when someone gives up and lets themselves go, especially when you live with that person.

[Apple1996]

Weight gain slowly happens overtime. Like I said my mom's cancer was undiagnosed for what they think was 10 years. She only gained a few pounds a year. Also she was going to the doc consistently for check ups. Cancer isn't something they are checking for

[DextroShade]

@Apple1996 how convenient.

[Apple1996]

Yeah cancer gets passed up a lot in people under 50 cuz doctors aren't looking for it

[Yahoo13]

Honestly it would depend. If they were themselves I could still love them if they choose to let it turn them bitter and negative and a completely different person inside than you fell in love with I think that would be hard. Things can happen and people can get past them and be the same person and stay positive or they let it get to them and get stuck from it.

[JacobJordan]

Love isn't surface level. It goes beyond the surface and into who and what you are as a person. So no if the only reason for ending is physical then it wasn't love

[Nikki1989]

Obviously the love never really existed.

[PeachyPie93]

No I don't think that is true love, that is conditional love lol.

[DextroShade]

Men and women don't get unconditional love; that is only for children and pets.

[PeachyPie93]

@DextroShade Maybe for you, but I want to actually find real love not this pathetic fake ass love everyone has.

[DextroShade]

Grow up, every adult relationship comes with conditions: my wife wouldn't love me if I beat her and treat her like shit and I wouldn't love her if she bore another man's child. In the real world most sane rational adults have these boundaries or conditions for relationships.

[PeachyPie93]

@DextroShade That's not what we are talking about here but anyways good day to you 😂😂

[theworldisameatball]

controversial take but physical attraction is more important than people want to admit. being connected to someone physically creates desire, which is important in eliciting feelings of love. so as nasty as it sounds, yeah its nasty

[Bobby88t]

I think so.. i rapidly gained weight and became impotent too. She wanted to break with me because i couldnt satisfy her and cheated me

[KrakenAttackin]

You mean you suddenly get the "ick" because your husband sneezed?

[Anonymous]

no, if your SO just gives up and gets really fat because of laziness, they changed, not you.

[Apple1996]

Peoples looks change overtime. That's apart of a relationship

[Opinion Owner]

@Apple1996 they can change by just aging, or they can change due to behavior.

[Apple1996]

Those things too. Everyone changes

[Opinion Owner]

@Apple1996 and some change manually which leads to physical changes

[SolitarySolace]

Love doesn’t exist. Only platonic love does

[jahaims]

Nope