How do you feel about the saying ‘Behind a good man is a good woman’? (Page 2)

[IslaTheWitch]

no, not behind, on his side

[TonyMetal___86]

What's wrong if she's behind? 😏
Does it make her less human?

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 I like to see things from the same point of view. It makes it easier to understand

[TonyMetal___86]

Ah ok, no problem, i'm someone who believes that the man is the head of the house and family, he leads and the wife follows...

That's why i asked you...

Ofc only if he's a real man!

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 good for you. I prefer partnership

[TonyMetal___86]

It is a partnership, the wife's opinion is always taken into consideration and if i was married and i felt that my wife's opinion is better than mine than my decision will be to do her idea, my job is to pick what's the best for both of us...

Feed my future wife, take good care of her, provide a warm safe house to live in, protect her and earn money to pay the bills...

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 as I wrote, I prefer partnership. It means he doesn't decide, we do it, together. He doesn't lead because partner relationship doesn't need a leader, only maturity. He doesn't need to provide, because we both do it. It's called partner relationship we are equal.

[TonyMetal___86]

You can be equal but with different roles, you don't need to do everything that i'm doing and i don't need to do everything that you're doing to be equal...

About maturity and making decisions together well i'm not against it but in case there's a disagreement, someone must make the final decision, as you can see all the companies, countries, cults, religions... etc have a head, one head for a reason...

Anyways, i respect your choice, you'te you and i'm me that's all...

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 I don't treat my relationship as a company, cult or whatever. We are two people willing to be together. We can talk things out, we can align, compromise and negotiate. But as we build it together there is no one deciding person. We both have to make an effort.

and partnership doesn't mean we do the same. But we CAN. If both partners want to work they do. If not, they agree on split responsibilities. It's simple. We don't need roles, because each of us is good on something. So we align and cooperate

[TonyMetal___86]

No problem, that's what i meant about the roles issue, i'm someone who is traditional, that's why i look for a woman who adores becoming a housewife, she does her role and i do mine!

That's how it works for me...

Others might choose 50/50 or a house husband i don't know...

When it comes to me, i'm simply like that!
In the end, i believe that a man is a man and a woman is a woman...

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 sure, just dictionaries differ between people. for me man and woman are different genders of the same species. They can do the same or different things based on what they want. You see them as set in stone roles.

[TonyMetal___86]

I see them as equal and the same but with different roles and mindsets, it's like there's a picturen with 2 pieces of puzzle, when they match they create the full photo, if both were identical than they don't need each other nor love each other and do not complete each other...

Also that's why even in making a baby, both are needed but in different ways 😌 that's what i believe in!

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 I believe we match as a puzzle on a personality level

[TonyMetal___86]

True! For me it's on all other aspects too...

[negrl4a69]

How about being every great man is an even great woman

[tzdc21]

Sometimes it's accurate and sometimes it's not.

[laly520]

by his side not behind him n vice versa

[TonyMetal___86]

What's wrong if she's behind? That's what they say, does it makes a girl feel less than a human if she's behind him?

[laly520]

@TonyMetal___86 I know what u mean
I had to point it out cuz around year 2015 some certain extreme groups online started to make it sound (the phrase) so bad n they twisted the meaning of it so I had to make a remark since many still believe what those were spreading back then

[TonyMetal___86]

These people are stupid and shallow...
Let me ask you something, when you want to protect someone in danger, do you stand behind them or in front of them?

Women were behind men because men were the protectors of women and their families and the women were behind to give them all the support that they need to win and conquer, it means working hand in hand and having the back of each other against anyone who wants to hurt them... etc

That's how it looks to me 😌

[laly520]

@TonyMetal___86 not surprised tbh
u r one smart guy n mature enough to understand how life really works

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks miss @laly520 and i'm glad because you're a smart lady to realize the truth 😊

[Nikki1989]

True, but that works both ways.

[Jay-_-]

I like the saying wish it was that way 🧍🏽😂

[Anonymous]

a lot of truth in it.