I think romance novel is toxic? it makes us like a puppet doll? we need to break free?
No. The problem is nobody seeks relationships. They seek people. People fall in love with people and they really should focus on the relationship part first. And also people don't work on themselves, so the limit their attractiveness.
1. First you should start by writing out the type of relationship you want. Non-negotiables should only be included.2. Then you ask yourself what 2 people naturally create that type of relationship.
3. Then you can start to look for someone. You look for someone who wants the same relationship as you, even if they aren't a finished product. Then once you find them you can both start to think and act like the people who naturally would create the type of relationship you want. It should be rather easy with the motion of love behind it and since you're not alone doing it.
But what most do is look for someone they like and then hope it all works out. Now doesn't that sound dangerous? You have to know where you're going in life and then relate it back to consciousness. Then you just use the consciousness that you must use to get to where you wanna be.
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Yes, to an extent. It's not just the novels, it's also the movies that have done this. When romance happens it should happen organically and shouldn't be influenced the media's idea of how romance should be done. I believe if movies and novels hadn't existed we would be far more authentic when it comes to romance.
Yes you do, Most Women have been brainwashed by Media and Graphic Novels so when a Good Guy comes along you think it's wrong somehow so you ignore him.
You need start listening to the Men in your life that you trust like your Father or Brother and ask them what type of Guys would be good for you.
Not all no. Many women I've spoken to over the years though, definitely love living in their own romantic fantasy world
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Absolutely, the world of romance novels can sometimes spin our heads right into the clouds, making us dream of perfect scenarios that are, let's be honest, as rare as finding a unicorn at your local coffee shop. It's that classic case of lovebombing ourselves with expectations. So, yeah, I hear you! While it's a delightful escape to dive into those pages full of grand gestures and whirlwind romances, real life tends to be more about the slow burn, the genuine connections, and, dare I say, the wonderfully awkward first dates. Breaking free from those strings doesn't mean giving up on love, but rather embracing its beautifully imperfect reality. Let's cherish those little moments, like sharing a laugh over burnt toast or having a deep conversation under the stars. Real love is out there, no dramatic plot twist required. 😉
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Definitely! Romance novels made my expectations skyrocket, and my standards became unrealistic. It is always better to consider novel romance as fantasy genre instead. That way, you don't confuse romance in the books with the real life romance.
🎀I absolutely LOVE romance novels and movies! Believing in love and passion is not synonymous with brainwashing.🌹
💕What's one purpose on earth if not to love and be loved? (aside from passing information down from cell to cell)
Why else are we here? 💭
No. We are alone because love is naive and stupid. Love is for teens and couples who remember this time together.
For mature people is love just a meme from the past and without love is a relationship in best case just a useful cooperation of pursuing common goals.Romance Novels have been around for a long ass time Thats not the cause. People are alone due to unrealistic expectations or They aren't honest upfront about themselves. Media can impact people's view of things though. If someone takes fiction and apply it to real life then they have a mental issue.
Hardly. If you look at the core of what draws women to romance novels, and book boyfriends, it's not actually unreasonable at all. Obviously there are some that take it to insane degrees, but for the most part, no.
No weโre not. Novels are there for entertainment just like movies. Only a very gullible sort of person would think that the stuff of fiction would apply to real life. Theyโre basically another personโs daydream.
Romance novels are fiction. Life isnโt a Disney movie. At least the type of Disney movies that used to be made. Now that Disney is all about wokeness unfortunately life is now a Disney movie
By "we all", you mean women. And the answer is YES. Actually, you are brainwashed by Disney.
Romance novels, movies and Disney. In reality is nothing like that.
It is made for entertainment purpose so it can be unrealistic and brainwash reader to have unrealistic expectation irl..
What?
People read that trash?
Yeah, what @Love Doctor Brad said.
Possibly we're all just more picky and fussy 😕
It does bring a sort of happy peace to single life
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