Do men enjoy romance? Do they want fireworks, rooms full of roses, and grand gestures?

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SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

I think that generally... no. The things you just described... I associate very much with what women tend to want (if I'm going to be super general).

So, gestures... don't need to be "grand." I think for a guy though, a meaningful gesture showing him how important he is to you; or how much you care for him; or how you've been paying attention to what he says he likes or hates. Things like that are something guys like. But... don't think "grand." Think "meaningful." (a "gesture" can be as simple as saying something...(that you genuinely mean))

Fireworks and rooms full of roses? No. I don't think that guys give a shit about those things (again, if I'm being general). I have yet to meet the guy who would be made happier by rooms full of roses. I think you can easily freak a guy out with that kind of grand gesture (not by any means will it always freak a guy out. It depends of course on where you are in the progression of things.)

Small things that show he is important to you; or that you're thinking about him when he's not around; or that you're actually paying attention enough to remember things he says.

So, for example... remembering that story he told you about how he loves...(I donno) cinnamon-toast-Oreos (you know... the cookie). He talked about how it always reminds him of happy childhood memories of summers in "wherever-he-lived." It's a shame you just can't get cinnamon-toast-Oreos "wherever-you-live-now."

If you were to find some way, to get ahold of these cinnamon-toast-Oreos... say... for a birthday... or Christmas or something. That is the kind of thing a guy would love. Especially if there's a bit of time between him mentioning that story.

Also, anything that took a woman time and effort to do/make/arrange something for you. (whether it's a gift-holiday or just in general).

So if his favorite band is coming to town in a few months. Planning for him to be able to really enjoy that show... would also be something a guy would love (or a sports team if he's crazy about one team in particular. So backstage passes, or box-seats or something like that... is about as "grand" a gesture as I can think of when it comes to stuff guys like.

It's taking something you know he already wants to do... And helping to make it even better than he was hoping it was going to be.

I guess that's also a matter of thoughtfulness too.

Maybe that's the key? (I don't know. I'm just seeing that connection between the two things right now. I haven't really thought about it before)

I think though, that you're best to stay away from the (stereotypically) romantic. I've always thought of that as stuff guys do for women... because women tend to appreciate grand gestures, and/or rooms full of roses.

(although... a room full of roses is gonna freak a lot of girls out too. Again, it all depends). But I think the odds of the person liking that are way higher for a generic girl, than for a generic guy. Then again, this is indeed a specific guy. So use your judgement. I'm sure you'll be fine.

🙂

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

When it comes to romance, the most important thing is the love languages of an individual. For everyone, that's different.

For me, I appreciate quality time with my partner. I don't mean going out to something fancy or watching a show together. I like going for hikes or camping or kayaking and genuinely having my partner give me attention, talk to me, and listen to me... to connect with me. Physical touch adds to that a lot. And it makes sense as my tops are quality time, physical touch, and words of affirmation.

When it comes to acts of service, I think helping to organize camping trips or trips in general together for a weekend trip would make me extremely happy. Making healthy, no sugar food and desserts would also be a huge plus (I can cook just fine for myself, but to have my partner do it for me is greatly appreciated).

And finally when it comes to gifts, I definitely don't care for flowers. I do love potted plants that are functional and aesthetic in a house. Like snake plants, spider plants, aloe, etc. I gifts that show they actually cared to think about what I like. Like getting me some camping gear, a protein shake that I've had my eyes on for a while, etc. I don't like a girl spending money on me though, so anything over the top makes me feel a little awkward and would make me want to tell her to return it.

dragoblack · Accepted Answer

We do want romantic gestures, but logical ones that isn't stupid expensive.
why blow away money with fireworks, or spend thousands of dollars on roses, when a meaningful gift that supports his hobbies & interests could mean the world to him and be something that reminds him of you. Guys don't need flashy, they just need meaningful.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

From what I've observed and been told, guys seem to feel the magnetic "pull" towards a gal and the rush of "waves in their ears" (tuning out the world around them) when a girl has really gotten their attention. Will they notice anything else other than what they've tagged in their mind as "theirs"? Possibly not.

Some guys aren't the "grand gesture" guys. They're shy and quiet and keep things intimate between you and them... there won't be a pile of flowers on your desk every week, but there might be a nice coffee and your favorite scone on a Sunday morning that you're both able to stay in... ;)

beenherebefore · Accepted Answer

I believe men and women see romance gestures in a different way. While we appreciate a room full of roses and surprise gifts. Most men would appreciate an unexpected home cooked meal, a nice lingerie and a freaky night. Men are easy and like being rewarded.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to sprinkle a bit of love magic! 🪄 Men are not immune to romance, my dear! 🎆 Some might enjoy grand gestures like rooms filled with roses, while others might prefer sweet, quiet moments of connection. Just like women, every guy is different. It's not always about the fireworks; sometimes it's the simple acts of love that really spark joy. 💖 So, take the time to know their preferences and surprise them with what makes them feel most cherished! 😘

OlderAndWiser · Answer

When I proposed to my wife, I took her to the restaurant where we had our first date. I had an engagement ring in my pocket. I told her we were meeting my cousin and his girlfriend for dinner, but I told her the girlfriend got sick and they wouldn't be at dinner. I had spoken to the restaurant manager in advance and arranged for us to be seated at the same table where we had our first date. When we entered, I gave the manager my phone so an assistant could video my proposal. After five minutes, I got down on one knee and made my proposal. She said "yes." I stood and put the ring on her finger, I kissed her, and the entire restaurant applauded.

Yes, some men are romantic.

Summeroflove · Answer

Every single man is different okay what every man wants and needs is just so different the same with women it’s about compatibility. Do most men expect it? No. But would they appreciate it? Absolutely.

A real genuine relationship is a give and a take. It’s equal effort by both persons unfortunately you have people sometimes it’s the man sometimes it’s the woman who makes everything about themselves. You do everything for me I do little to none for you unless there are strings attached or for more skilled manipulators during the love bombing phase.

TrueConfection · Answer

I think so. My husband is more romantic than I am.

AviatorTom · Answer

We guys enjoy romance, but we are driven more by basic biology.

MrOracle · Answer

Men like romance, but you are describing things that WOMEN find romantic. Men, as a rule, don't care about any of those things you listed, but we do them because you (women) like them.

For us, romance is going to a cabin or hotel room, away from all the cares in the world, and spending alone time with our girl. Eating, cuddling by a fire, watching a movie, and knowing there won't be any interruptions or demands on our time together.

We don't care about the decorations or the style or anything related to status. We just want time together with no outside demands. That is the male version of romantic, at least from my perspective.

RingOfFire · Answer

I don't think men want romance in the same way that women do. Speaking for myself I know I don't. I get tremendous enjoyment out of seeing a woman enjoy that kind of romantic gesture. For me, that's the part I enjoy. I enjoy seeing her enjoy my romantic gestures. That's what constitutes romance for me and puts me in the same mood that I put her in when I do those things for her.

That's what makes the mutual romance for me.

Call it "getting her in the mood.” And it's not all about sex for me anymore than it is for her. Sure that's part of any intimate relationship. But the romance is transformative all by itself without the need for anything else.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, possibly, no and maybe.

It always boggles my mind how women on this site have no idea that men have feelings. It's like your gender has never really even considered that we're human beings as well.

It's not that guys do not want romance. We're just realistic about receiving it. We don't even recieve compliments (unless there's an ulterior motive behind it. And that's called buttering someone up, not a compliment).

It's not that men don't want romance. We just value peace a whole lot more. In general we'd rather be with a woman we know loves us but isn't romantic than a woman who swings wildly from manically romantic one minute to angry and cold the next.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

My idea of romance is some huge guy wants to get you. Then we arm wrestle over you with chainsaws. And I suggest to buy him drinks. Then I sneak something into his drink. Then when we arm wrestle, I drive his hand into the chainsaw. His blood starts spurting everywhere.

Now you are my prize. I will do all your fireworks stuff. Valentine's whatever. Because I had to beat the strongest guy in town to get you.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Thats not romance to me, and no I don't want any of that.

I'd prefer a hug/cuddling, and quality time spent doing hobbies and projects together, and also sex/making out. Those are way more romantic than any of the stuff you mentioned.

The every day normal stuff that we both enjoy doing, that is the best in my opinion, and I would never get tired of it.

Yannae · Answer

I don't want my bed full of roses. Fireworks are fine, let's just not set them off ourselves, I've seen one blow his hand off. I don't do Romeo "you're the best, I love you forever and ever" fairytale talk.

I don't mind flowers. They smell nice. I love dancing, so if you're into that, fast and slower, I'm game. I love serenading.

Bigmell · Answer

Yes, guys do want that, but most don't know how to receive it because that's not normal for man. Its mostly the guy giving romance and the woman receives it. One thing i always wanted and Most likely will NEVER happen... That the woman im dating/ relationship with gives me a dozen roses. If she did or does stuff like that... She's a keeper, ring on it keeper.

lucas262 · Answer

I think a man would rather have consistent effort. Not the if you do this I'll do that. But I take care of him, I give back, I respect and do for MY man. Seems today women think they should fo Nothing and get everything, men do not need much but what they need is important to them. BE consistent In the small important things it'll mean more than some grand thing, men don't care about that, we'd rather give that.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course we do, but PLEASE don't waste all that money on a room full of roses or some other expensive gift. There are much more practical, and less expensive ways to be romantic. Unlike some women, we do not equate how much money was spent with the "grandness" of a romantic gesture.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

They do but romance looks a bit different for men. For men romance is a hot pizza and a cold beer, it's a good long nap after a hard day's work. It's a few hours on your favorite video game or watching your favorite movie. For guys romance is far less grandiose and more directed at fulfilling a want or need.

strateguy632 · Answer

I was assigned male at birth (still am) but i don't need any romantic stuff. Nor expect. I don't hope to feel fireworks of excitement when i see her, nor roses or expensive stuff. I can give romance by offering to dance with her.

Stevepro68 · Answer

I would say more than you would expect. most men like the sort of attention that give them a feeling of acceptance and security. A room full of roses maybe not so much. But that level of effort is seen so rarely for most men it would stand out.

RavVid · Answer

I like to be the one making the grand gestures with my girl succumbing to the grand gesture and being all gooey over it.

I might feel usurped if it went in the other direction. Don't know because it has never happened.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I disagree with how you defined romance here. To me, you described it as a YouTube clip post-produced with Adobe After Effects between two ads babbling about dryers and energy drinks

Shiprex · Answer

No we don't in general but we like attention and focus as well as respect. We like to be SHOWN affection through being given time and appreciated for ourselves.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Yes. Most men love that…especially when they know their woman appreciates it. So ladies… let the man do their job.

DonaldDarko · Answer

I do or maybe more like I did. Maybe not quite in that way. More like driving for miles in the desert, hiking, exploring. Inventing things together more quiet and introverted I suppose.

SotiCoto · Answer

Yes they do. No they don't. Both are true for different men. Go figure, eh?  Generally though I'd err on the side of  NOPE .

glennos89 · Answer

Gives us a blowjob and we are happy that's all you need to do

Cormac995 · Answer

in a short answer yes many of us do or at least the male versions of those gestures.

Anonymous · Answer

If your going to do anything romance for a guy just make them a home cooked meal and afterwards take it to the bedroom. Guys usually aren't that hard to please. Unlike a lot of us girls who have higher expectations unfortunately.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Yes I want it all without spiralling into debt or pay day depression lol 😂 😆

Ironic_Method · Answer

I personally don't like any grand gestures. Small things are great, though.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I certainly do. The gestures are nice from time to time.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Translator  I love fireworks, I'd also say I am romantic but more of a lone romantic

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes Valentine’s Day that sounds just like it

Sazidhassan · Answer

I am aromantic it doesn't make sense to me... I am more into physical intimacy to show my love

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

Do men want to be wanted.. Hm. Is the pope catholic?

izzyleelee · Answer

i think it really depends on the man. i always make sure to understand how much romance a guy likes before doing anything too romantic :)

Anonymous · Answer

No. Men only enjoy delicious food to fill their stomachs. They don't understand romance.

wkhan_87 · Answer

Romance is very important for better relationship between couples

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, I like romance... if it's with the right girl.

ILoveRocks · Answer

I actually think men are more romantic than women most the time.

Johtolol98 · Answer

yes definetly i would love this but everyone is different in how they want things

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Some men do, but typically not as much as women

exitseven · Answer

Even after all these years I still like it.

LiaRaven · Answer

Some of them

AngryCarl2 · Answer

No, men just want you.

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

It's really not needed.

WonderingManII · Answer

Sounds good to me. <3

Vegasrunner · Answer

No. Sex will suffice.

zagor · Answer

Just a bit of head.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I wouldn't mind them.

Panthero80 · Answer

I consider myself a romantic.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really Sexual excitement what we want

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Sure.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

nope

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