If a guy cares, will he contact you even if he's mad? Or should I apologize first?

[enchanted09]

I was dating a guy for about two months. He told me that he had been hurt very badly by his ex girlfriend and that he didn't want to rush into a new relationship. I understood what he meant, and I promised I would never do anything to hurt him. He told me that he didn't want a girlfriend at the time, but that he wasn't completely opposed to the idea of making me his girlfriend in the future. However, it got to the point where I felt like I was the one chasing him. I was falling for him and he was too closed off to let me in. I started getting tired of waiting. He told me himself that he was holding back because he didn't want to get too close to me because he was scared that I would hurt him. About 5 days ago I asked him to hang out with me. He said he was busy. For some reason I got really mad and came up with all of these scenarios in my head for why he didn't want to hang out. I ended up telling him that I didn't want to see him anymore. I expected him to chase after me and he didn't. We agreed to still be friends, but this Saturday I saw him and he didn't even say hi to me. I know he saw me for a fact. I'm pretty sure he's mad at me. If I were him, I would be mad at me. I have too much pride to apologize, but now I'm starting to feel like I really should. I acted irrationally and expected him to chase after me when I had only talked to him for 2 months. My friends have told me that if he cares, he'll contact me first. I really want to talk to him about it but I don't know what to say.

Should I talk to him? Or should I just let it go? I really can't stop thinking about him, and although it's getting easier, I'm starting to realize that I actually miss him :\

And if I should talk to him, what should I text him? I'm scared that if I start with a simple "hey :)" he won't reply, but if I start with an "I'm really sorry," he'll think I'm desperate.

as you can tell, I read too much into things lol

btw, I don't know if this makes a difference, but we're both 20 and in college (different colleges, so if I don't text him, I probably won't see him again)

[Anonymous]

I agree with the first answerer...let it go for now. He could just be hurt, not pissed and think you don't want to see him, or he could just not care. Regardless of how he feels, the point here is that you're more invested than he is, and you're beating yourself up over why he won't hang out, why he isn't testing you...don't worry, I was in the same situation, and it got to the point where I was getting way in over my head over it. If he wants to contact you again, he will, and he very may well do it. But until then, they to focus on other things...it'll be healthier for you mentally. If you still don't hear from him in a few weeks, shoot him a casual text and ease back into talking to him if you really don't want to pass him up.

[Lily67475]

Loose the pride and apologize. It will make you seem like the bigger person. And just putting this out there but he might be the one. And if he does forgive you don't hurt him ever again. Cause he's definitely a keeper.

[DAKILLATM]

If he cares about you, he'll be the first to initiate contact again. Try not to think too much about it, it'll only make you feel worse. Now what you did isn't correct either; if he can't hang out, then he can't hang out, you shouldn't try to force people into doing that as they'll be quite startled. I'm not lamenting you, but try to avoid doing something irrational like that.

I'd say let him make the move, because if he cares, he'd forgive you and y'all can talk again. If he doesn't, then I recommend you to move on.