Can such bad boy fall in love with one girl?

[Anonymous]

I met very bad boy , he said he doesn't remember how many girls he had, and that he is easily bored with one girl.

His longest relation was 4 months. He likes to have one night stands and first time he had sex at age 14.

I felt in love with him.. is this even possible he can fell in love with me?

he wanted to have sex with me but I said no..

and I'm virgin and completely different than him.

But I think about him all the time . Is this even possible he may fall in love with me? Or I should forget him?

[MrOracle]

You like this guy because he is confident, exciting, attractive, and even a little dangerous, but you're already trying to change him in your mind. Many women LOVE to get with a bad guy, thinking or hoping they are going to change him and make him a good guy. They get this idea from books and movies, but in real life, IT NEVER, EVER WORKS.

You simply can't change a person's nature; only they can do that, and they only do it if THEY want to, never because someone else wants them to. And, even if you DID change him, then he'd no longer be the person you fell for, so you wouldn't be happy anyway.

Learn this lesson now: if you can't deal with a person the way they are RIGHT NOW, then move on, because 99+% of the time, the way they are right now is the way they're going to be for the rest of their life.

I know that you aren't likely to listen to this advice, because it isn't what you want to hear, but I promise you that if you don't listen to it, you're only going to end up feeling used and hurt and stupid a month or two from now, when you've fallen for him and he's moved on to the next girl, or you find out he's cheating on you. If that's who he is, HE WON'T CHANGE.

[kambo_trick3y]

This. This guy has probably had 100 girls he's banged and hurt. Don't be score number 101.

[UberTroll]

Exactly, and those other 100 girls were probably thinking the same thing as you're thinking now.

[Asker]

but why? why won't he fall in love? he already had many girls, isn't this time to find love ? ( he is 25)

[MrOracle]

There are the types of guys who just go a little crazy with girls during their college years, due to all the freedom and opportunity, and there are the types of guys who have that "bad boy" as part of their very nature. T former guys do grow up, but this guy is the latter, and those guys don't change. They don't value love and relationships like you do, and never will. They only value the "thrill of the new", and once you're no longer new, he's off to the next one.

[Asker]

yes I'm so stupid but I think about him all the time , he excites me.. he's so handsome and ideal.. and I'm so stupid girl..

[MrOracle]

It's the danger and "challenge" that is a big part of the excitement, but you need to accept that the "danger" is real: you'll end up hurt, and the "challenge" is rigged in his favor, and you'll always lose.

[vmajj92]

I agree, but I think bad boys fall in love with the girl they can never have

The one who is perfect in their eyes

But the real question is. How do you know a bad boy is in love?

[Anonymous]

"Is this even possible he may fall in love with me?"

No. Stupid women make this stupid mistake all the damn time. While it's awesome and romantic and wonderful to think about a Bad, Bad Boy™ changing his wicked womanizing ways for you through the Power of Love, it simply isn't going to happen. Ever.

Seriously. Bad idea. Let it go.

[skibunny]

Be very cautious and make sure you know this bad boy for a very long time before getting involved with him, otherwise you will get hurt.

That being said, my boyfriend was this way since age 15. Same situation, I was a virgin, but we have been best friends since then and about a year ago he asked me to be his girlfriend. It took a lot of serious conversations and rejections from both of us before we got together. But since we've been best friends for so long we have a strong connection and trust. That is the only way the relationship will last, is if there's trust and open communication without judgement from both people.

[CrystalMinds]

Well, it is possible, but I watch too many romcoms. I think if he thinks he's too young to settle down, he's just gonna fly around from girl to girl. It's a good thing you said no though, he might think you're an easy catch but you showed him you're not, show him that he has to work for your love. If you have to work for something, you're more thinking about keeping it because you put a lot of time and effort in it. That's what I think.

Just give it time and get to know each other, let him see what a great girl you are and he might fall in love with you. But try not to lose your heart in this.

[Asker]

so it was good decision to said him no when he wanted sex? we were about to do it but I said no ( even I really wanted , because I am in love with him) . So it was good decision ?

[CrystalMinds]

Yeah, it was. That way he knows you're not just a random hook up.

[pineappleshortcare]

Occasionally, but it doesn't happen with the flip of a switch. Usually, they ruin 2-3 good things before they figure out that they need to turn their life around. Don't be one of those "good things" who gets damaged while this dude crashes through life like a bull in a china closet.

Also, since you're a virgin -- you may not realize the difference between your body craving someone and "falling in love." If you barely know this guy, it's just a chemical reaction, a desire like we feel for piece of delicious cake we see on television. It's lust!

[imperatriz]

No, he will never fall in love with you. Such people are not looking for relationships, only sex.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, this is only your desire. The reality is so much different.

[Anonymous]

No. Stupid women feel they came tame the bad boy but trust me, it doesn't happen.

[vmajj92]

Don't do it. If he carEd, he wouldn't rush sex

[Asker]

you said " bad boys fall in love with the girl they can never have" so maybe it was good that I said no when he wnated have sex? because he will think now he can't have me? and may fall in love? is this possible?

[Moloch]

LOL go ahead, learn your lesson.