I'll put it into perspective another way for people who might be hating on this mytake.
In my case, my parents are both 30+ years older than everyone elses parents my age. Because of this I've essentilally had to take care of them all my life, and never had those experiences other kids had like playing catch with your dad or doing things with them. they were never healthy enough.
So I've sought after women younger than me to provide that spark that I've been missing, that thrill and fun that they provide, even if they generally aren't intellectually where I want them to be, I'm not looking to marry now anyway, but to spend time with someone who knows how to have a good time.
Depending on your environmental situation it greatly effects how you choose your partners and what sort of enjoyment you seek. But do I think its healthy?
I might have those. My dad isn't around but he support me with money. I really care but I never see him as much as I wish. Basically, the women in my family always end up with raising kids alone... I am not that strong. I mean of couse there's married women but in my eyes I say as I pretty much screwed. I like older guys because they seem respect but it has nothing to with my father it's just a perfer.
I know, I'm just saying it can be a problem and giving an example from my own experience. A girl's expectations are based largely on her father and if he is a really great husband and father she is going to have a difficult time finding a guy like that. They are rare.
It's not that girls are to be blamed for having daddy issues... but it's still not a good thing. The only question is how bad are the issues and how well is she dealing with them. It's a very individual thing.
My dad passed away when I was 5, but that doesn't mean that I want to "date older guys". Everyone handles things differently. Some are broken and take years to heal and some heal sooner than later.
The only effects (other than grief) that are still with me now are that I feel uncomfortable when I'm at a friends house and the whole family is there. Being just my mom and I for years, it is weird to see a man in the house. And I feel more awkward around boys than I probably should lol.
How much older though? Like 10+ years? I'm not quite sure if I have daddy or mommy issues but I suppose anyone could be suspectible regardless of those issues. I can see this will be a rising debate on GAG but overall that was a nice little take.
well... maybe maybe... i have dad and my childhood was in full happy family... but he never was close with me emotionally and also was very strict. I was afraid of him a little... so now i prefer mature men, almost twice older than me.
This is true. Very true. I would also go on to say the absence of any strong male figure in a girls life (brother, uncle, etc) can also contribute to these issues.
How does a girl without a father know that something is absent from her life?
The environment a person is raised in is considered "normal" to them because they have no metric to compare against. A person raised in a violent household thinks violence is normal. A person raised in a fatherless household thinks that is also normal.
Interesting theory I'll admit but it's not going to apply to every girl with "daddy issues" there are a lot more things that could play a part in it and besides that some girls just like older men and some think men their own age aren't mature enough and then some of them are just whores for lack of a better term
yep. I've seen guys trash talk women, but then idolize their moms whenever they come up in different conversations. from what I've seen lots of players are like this.
So why is the opening statement about it applying to people who didn't have their father in their lives and or was neglected. I was physically and mentally abused to the Gods!
Friends call me daddy issues because of the girls I attract. Girl #1 dad and mom divorces at ages 2 he was never around: Girl#2 dad died drunkenly saving some one from drowning while partying on a river. When she was an infant. Girl# 3 & 4 never knew their father. They requires constant attention, insecure and at times I just couldn't do it anymore. At times I felt bad when my negative comments seemed to cut to the bone and cut them deep. At times I was in the wrong and they would apologize to me. It's like holding a hollowed egg in your hand and knowing you can crush it easily and not do it. That's why my relationships with them fail I'm not a manipulative douche and I don't try and become some ones savior. Their constant need for male validation, insecurities and extreme jealousy was too much. I've got veteran scars, know the signs of daddy issues. I feel bad for them... yet I miss the drama at times.
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I'll put it into perspective another way for people who might be hating on this mytake.
In my case, my parents are both 30+ years older than everyone elses parents my age. Because of this I've essentilally had to take care of them all my life, and never had those experiences other kids had like playing catch with your dad or doing things with them. they were never healthy enough.
So I've sought after women younger than me to provide that spark that I've been missing, that thrill and fun that they provide, even if they generally aren't intellectually where I want them to be, I'm not looking to marry now anyway, but to spend time with someone who knows how to have a good time.
Depending on your environmental situation it greatly effects how you choose your partners and what sort of enjoyment you seek. But do I think its healthy?
no way.
or... some men can stop acting like a d! ck and act like real men
yea!
I might have those. My dad isn't around but he support me with money. I really care but I never see him as much as I wish. Basically, the women in my family always end up with raising kids alone... I am not that strong. I mean of couse there's married women but in my eyes I say as I pretty much screwed. I like older guys because they seem respect but it has nothing to with my father it's just a perfer.
yeah!
yeahh... I am convice I am going to die alone (:
I have an increased appreciation for the wonderful man I get to call my father. No daddy issues here.
nice
That can be it's own problem. I have three aunts who never married because "they never met a man who was worth a damn compared to their father".
@Tromba - you know, it IS possible to have a great relationship with your father and NOT think that no man could possibly be better than him.
I know, I'm just saying it can be a problem and giving an example from my own experience. A girl's expectations are based largely on her father and if he is a really great husband and father she is going to have a difficult time finding a guy like that. They are rare.
The higher your expectations and standards, the more okay you are with being alone. Desperate people don't have high standards.
It's not that girls are to be blamed for having daddy issues... but it's still not a good thing. The only question is how bad are the issues and how well is she dealing with them. It's a very individual thing.
that's right
My dad passed away when I was 5, but that doesn't mean that I want to "date older guys". Everyone handles things differently. Some are broken and take years to heal and some heal sooner than later.
The only effects (other than grief) that are still with me now are that I feel uncomfortable when I'm at a friends house and the whole family is there. Being just my mom and I for years, it is weird to see a man in the house. And I feel more awkward around boys than I probably should lol.
How much older though? Like 10+ years? I'm not quite sure if I have daddy or mommy issues but I suppose anyone could be suspectible regardless of those issues. I can see this will be a rising debate on GAG but overall that was a nice little take.
glad you liked the take
well... maybe maybe...
i have dad and my childhood was in full happy family... but he never was close with me emotionally and also was very strict. I was afraid of him a little...
so now i prefer mature men, almost twice older than me.
oh my dad was present in my childhood and is still present... but we don't have that good "father-daughter" relationship...
i have daddy issues and still turned out decent except im a very insecure and anxious person... most girls with daddy issues sleep around
although i agree with the fact i want an older man in his 30s...
i am same as you i don't sleep around and i am very insecure too
I don't get why women would think to sleep around to replace their father - no-one wants to sleep with their father!!
@Hannah591 I'm pretty sure it's because they want a mans approval, obviously no one would want to sleep with their dad
@RedRobin I agree with you
well... i know i am pretty dumb but why only talk about girls.
i mean these situations should affect boys too i guess... I don't know.
maybe... its possible
Tell how this issue affects guys, I want to know.
This is true. Very true. I would also go on to say the absence of any strong male figure in a girls life (brother, uncle, etc) can also contribute to these issues.
yeah!
I have daddy issues 100% by definition. People shouldn't judge.
yea people should not judge
Yep it isn't like I can help it either.
hmmm
You can't choose your family that's the point I'm trying to get across.
i know... n that's not fair
The truth about daddy issues is I don't think I'll ever understand what they really are :D
*facepalms*
How does a girl without a father know that something is absent from her life?
The environment a person is raised in is considered "normal" to them because they have no metric to compare against. A person raised in a violent household thinks violence is normal. A person raised in a fatherless household thinks that is also normal.
i have my father but he is only physically here!
Interesting theory I'll admit but it's not going to apply to every girl with "daddy issues" there are a lot more things that could play a part in it and besides that some girls just like older men and some think men their own age aren't mature enough and then some of them are just whores for lack of a better term
Is there such a thing as mommy issues?
i guess so
Yep. I have those
yep. I've seen guys trash talk women, but then idolize their moms whenever they come up in different conversations. from what I've seen lots of players are like this.
Yeah I love this take and. It's very true having also lost my dad at a very young age I know exactly how it feels thanks for the take
glad you liked the take
Very good MyTake. Should've added more details and examples though. :)
i know :'(
You good. It's just that I wanted to read some more.. I was getting into it Lol
sorry man :'(
Lol 😝
I wish my daddy issues came from not having my father in my life.
my father is present\(physically) but i have daddy issues
So why is the opening statement about it applying to people who didn't have their father in their lives and or was neglected. I was physically and mentally abused to the Gods!
Friends call me daddy issues because of the girls I attract.
Girl #1 dad and mom divorces at ages 2 he was never around:
Girl#2 dad died drunkenly saving some one from drowning while partying on a river. When she was an infant.
Girl# 3 & 4 never knew their father.
They requires constant attention, insecure and at times I just couldn't do it anymore. At times I felt bad when my negative comments seemed to cut to the bone and cut them deep. At times I was in the wrong and they would apologize to me. It's like holding a hollowed egg in your hand and knowing you can crush it easily and not do it. That's why my relationships with them fail I'm not a manipulative douche and I don't try and become some ones savior.
Their constant need for male validation, insecurities and extreme jealousy was too much.
I've got veteran scars, know the signs of daddy issues. I feel bad for them... yet I miss the drama at times.
drama? really? u think its intentional or something?
AT times yes to get my attention and at its just lack of maturity and insecurity. It's still drama