Should I delete him him off Facebook because it tears me up?

[Anonymous]

I'm 19btw not under 18

This guy that I'm in love with is now ignoring me and has nothing to do with me, I've been in love with him for 3yrs and now I'm finally starting to try to move on..

I still have a tiny bit of hope for us in the future but for now I've got a new guy I like and have not contacted the guy I love in a month.

The thing is, every time I log on too Facebook and see that he's online or is tagged in pictures it literally sends me into meltdown mode and hurts so bad and I usually end up crying.

I want him to think I'm doing okay and see the pictures I put up of me having fun and being around other guys but I can't handle it when I see is name or picture on Facebook!

I'm scared if I delete him though that not only will he not be able to see I've moved on and not chasing him but also the chance that he would potentially contact me through it..

I'm conflicted because I'm hurting either way. =(

Any advice?

[Anonymous]

wow I read your question and thought I accidentally wrote all this! I'm going throgh the same thing, same exact thing actually, however I've been better over time, I realize the more time goes on and the less I see of him, no contact, nothing to remind me of him, I improve more and more and learn to live on.

I didn't delete him off of fb, because I don't want to show to him he affects me. He will get a bigger ego boost if he realizes one day you deleted him. He will have more power and you don't want to do that. Let him check your page, come across your page updates, and feel stupid for losing you. Be yourself and pretend you don't even have him on fb. Fb is so meaningless anyways these days and those who wanna check your page theyre the ones chasing you and trying to find out how your lifes been. I'm sure if you just make it a challenge to move on be happy, learn something new about yourself, your peronal worth and self respect, how much yore better than this jackass, you will envision your life happily without him overtime. I promise. Update your status once in a while, have fun, put up pictures, just be yourself and let him burn. It really is true, that karma goes around, couples break up all the time, people play minds games break each other hearts, mess with heads, and emotions, but in the end of the day were still human and girls AND GUYS get hurt too. If he intentionally did break your heart, or played around with you, karma will get him too, one day he will love a girl for 3 years and will realize how it feels and become aware of his own actions in the past and how he treated you and who knows how many other girls. People are blind to their actions but they learn someday. This doesn't mean you should wait for him, you should discard him and focus on yourself, what you wanna do with your life what you wanna achieve, get a degree, there's so many hot successful men out there, sweet, cute gentleman guys, you deserve one of them! thiss douche can go kiss his own ass.

best of luck and rmemeber your not the only one =)

let him check your page and wonder...

[Asker]

Thanks so much that truly helped!

[Opinion Owner]

No problem =) it just came from the heart because I know how it feels

[cheerclover27]

What does your age matter? Haha. Did you guys ever even date? I think you need to keep him as a friend on your Facebook. By deleting him you're just going to be thinking about it all the time. You need to stop revolving everything you do around him. That's lame, and it's going to lead to such unhappiness. Learn to be content with your life. If you guys are meant for each other, it will happen, but for now, sit back and let God do his work. What does looking at his pictures and obsessing, do for you? Makes you cry? Not worth it. Challenge yourself to not look at his stuff more then you would anyones. It will be sooo tough, and at times you'll be like screw it, I'm looking, but you'll thank yourself soo much once you go without looking, and once you stop looking, you'll stop caring, and you'll move on. pinkky promise (;

[Asker]

It was more of a long distance f-buddy talking thing for 3yrs, we were going to be together when I moved back to his town but I screwed things up and didn't move back and we got in a fight and didn't talk for almost 4mo. then I finally did move, we hooked up twice and he started ignoring me and I haven't talked to him in a while. Its not so much that I go to his profile and creep but its like every time I log on he's on my newsfeed! and it kills me. Thanks for the advice it was greatly appreciated

[seattlesays]

Hey Girl- I am facing a similar dilemma. The important thing for us to remember is that things are meant to happen the way they do. You guys aren't meant to be, and neither am I with my person of interest. It's OK. Just brush the dirt off your shoulder and move on. It amazes me how many great guys there are out there...they are everywhere, you just have to be looking in the right places. And you have to open yourself up...take down your walls. It might be fun to try to date someone who is completely NOT your type. Just give it a try. If jocks are your thing, date a skater. If musicians are your thing, date an engineer. Just mix it up. Have fun, because we are young and deserve to be happy! Chin up, girl. :)

[cjwright79]

I think your damages will be limited if you keep him on. I believe in absorbing as much pain and anguish as possible -- it paradoxically makes you better off in the long run I think.

I mean, how long can it really go on for, that you'd feel so torn up inside? It can't keep on going forever, so just bear with it. There's no need to remove him.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice, I've been through enough pain and anguish though aside from him and with him that I feel like I'm at my breaking point...ive had him on fb for 3yrs and I've always gotten upset when I saw his name or picture or anything but now that I'm in the position of having to finally move on its making it ten times worse. Won't taking him off also make him realize that he hurt and upset me and I'm serious about not wanting anything to do with him?

[cjwright79]

First of all, he has no real and palpable notion of what you're going through. If he did, he wouldn't be so callous. Second, it sounds like you do want to remove him after all, so go ahead. :)

[imfierceyessir]

wow wow did I write this? Soo crazy , my story exactly, wondering if I should delete him, known him for 3 years.. But damn I read one comment below and no I won't delete , I'm bigger than that, he already contacted me noticed I'm doing great

[audreymarie21]

i wouldn't delete him, just hide anything he posts, so you don't have to see when he changes his status or gets tagged in a photo, but he'll see you. unfortunately you'll still see when he's online