Why does my girlfriend get upset when I tell her she looks like an elf?

[Anonymous]

Elves are fucking beautiful!

To imply otherwise is completely racist.

[Anonymous]

I think this is more or less a matter of opinion, whilst you may find elves gorgeous some do not. Some people find Dwarfs to be gorgeous, but in my own personal opinion, I'd be offended to compared to one. It could also be something she see's as unrealistic, as in elves aren't real, so in her mind she may feel like your telling her beauty is compared to something that she can't actually achieve, and although you already see it, her thought process on the matter might be different. Like I dislike when my husband compares me to things that I know I can't achieve. Not because I'm lazy, but because to do so would be sacrificing who I am. Whilst other simply do not like being compared to others regardless if they are real or not. You really have to understand her mindset and what is going through her head when you tell her this. Your best bet, is to ask why she feels offended, and if she gets defensive just explain that you are not trying to offend her but to understand her reasoning and see what she see's. Because the more I type this up, the more reasons it could be that she gets offended. Maybe a guy who cheated on her told her the same thing... or maybe when she dated someone else they kept trying to get her to look like an elf or made her feel guilty for not being an elf etc. Like I said I don't think you'll be able to find just one reason, so i'd just suck it up and ask her. :)

[Asker]

This just blew my mind..

[Paris13]

I don't Know, Joe, about 'Completely Racist' Here, dear, but I do Know... I would rather be Called a "Fairy Princess' than an Elf, with a Long nose and Curled feet.
Good Luck. xx

[Asker]

Why would you want a long nose and curled feet?

[Paris13]

Thanks for the Like, hun. xx

[Paris13]

lol I have a Christmas ELF at home and It has a pair of pointy ears and Curled up shoes. xx

[Asker]

Ahhh that explains a lot hehehe

You're so very welcome!

[Paris13]

lol!!! This was sure different and so enjoyable. xx

[nalaa]

I'm guessing she's imaging something like this
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[Asker]

She should know I mean well..

[Chilepikin]

Because she's a human being, when she thinks of elves I'm sure she's not thinking about lord of the ring type of elves, she's most likely thinking of little people cooking cookies under a tree.

[Asker]

We need to have a conversation to clear this up..

[Chilepikin]

Yeah most Likely, lolololololols! You both need to be on the same page or else you'll be in trouble often. Cheers mate

[shadepudding]

It's prejudicial but not necessarily racist. Also, if you mean she looks like the elf girl from the hobbit she should be blushing to the end of her days. That's one hot elf lady!

[Asker]

Right? That's what I'm saying! Finally someone gets it!

[Anonymous]

Racist? Based on what? Elves don't actually exist so therefore it can't be racist if you don't agree on an imaginary race lol. That being said... I'd love to be called an elf 😢 I get called a munchkin instead 😒

[Asker]

The concept still applies.
I'm sorry you get called a munchkin..

[Opinion Owner]

It's because I'm so little... 😒 well compared to my partner anyway. But agreed. Maybe though she doesn't see elves as beautiful as you do. Should sit and watch LOTR and be like you're like that only beautifuller 😯

[Asker]

That's a good idea! Lotr marathon!

[Opinion Owner]

:D plus don't forget the hobbit series. Because there are some pretty elves in that too.

[asheslee]

Because she wants to look little me a temptress or a vixen... Not a mythical creature that resides in the forest!

[Asker]

But I love the forest!

[asheslee]

You may love it, but O can assure that she does not.

[LadyTerror]

That's strange. I tell @itsallover all the time that she looks like an elf and she loves it. Your girlfriend needs to be more relaxed like her

[itsallover]

Exactly! My pointed ears and short stature are blessings. Looks like someone needs to learn how to take a compliment 🙄

[Asker]

@itsallover y'all could teach her a thing or two.

[Poppykate]

That's one cute elf! Those one's you see at Santa village... not so much!

[Asker]

You're right about that!

[Deth2AllButMetal]

To me an elf is a male and less attractive. Perhaps if you tell her she looks like a Fairy or Pixie it might be better received. Some people are sensitive. I joke with my SO and call him a dildo!!

[strangytie]

Make sure she knows you mean like from LotR and not the happy giggling elf from Series of Unfortunate Events

[Oshosh01]

Lmfao!!! She probably thinks you think she has big ears

[Asker]

Never!

[art84]

I find elves to be attractive in if she has elves facial features like pointed ears or child like face.

[PrincessPie]

liv is pretty but she's not a real elf..

[Your_secret_nerd]

Naaaa you think? Because elves are already real😑

[Asker]

Where can I find a real elf?

[Anonymous]

Wow... Uh... Elves are short... You're calling your Bitch short...
Not cool dude...

[Asker]

There are tall Elves...

[watercolor_lions]

You called another girl beautiful inadvertently.

[Asker]

I said she looks like an elf which makes her attractive. I didn't bring up any particular person..

[watercolor_lions]

Your girlfriend sounds insecure

[Asker]

Do you think we should have a conversation about it?

[tinkerfail]

definitely, best thing to do is talk it out. ask her why it upsets her

[Asker]

@tinkerfail okay I'll take that advice into cooperation.

[COCOCHANEL]

she might have a different image of elves

[Asker]

What should I do?

[COCOCHANEL]

introduce her to your image of elves

[Your_secret_nerd]

True

[lolwhatsup]

elf's are hot. ever play the Witcher 3?

[Asker]

I haven't.

[lolwhatsup]

well you should. hot elf's in the game. Xbox one/PS4/pc

[zombiebabe]

maybe she does like her ears

[jonmac]

Think "Keebler", not Liv Tyler.

[goaded]

Speciesist.

[Asker]

They're not a different species..

[goaded]

In LoTR, they're not even mortal, IIRC.

[Asker]

Yeah but they can still reproduce together.

[goaded]

It's a kind of magic!

[imsolostwithguys]

is she short?

[Asker]

She's a out average height

[Asker]

About

[imsolostwithguys]

so what 5'5 5'4?

[Asker]

Indeed

[Anonymous]

do you get upset if she says you act like a pig?

[Asker]

What do pigs have to do with anything and why would they be related to Elves?

[Opinion Owner]

clueless

[bighairy1]

Elves are not a protected class.

[Anonymous]

İ don't know

[Asker]

Me either