Me and my best friends Jess and Iz always cuddle! Often we'll go to my dads house, stick the TV on, get the wine out, get the big blanket out and all 3 of us (or 2 if one of them can't make it) and cuddle up tight and watch the box all night really providing our own entertainment because, well we're just that funny xD.
I suppose some would find it strange but tbh, there's no other way is rather spend a wintery Saturday night! I am straight by the way and there has been cuddle hard-ons but I'm just that close with them, I've even told them in the past and they've just laughed and eventually it goes haha.
I think its ok as long as you trust them and you genuinely care about the person. Everyone needs that closeness to feel like someones there or they just need to feel love. Shit i would love to cuddle now. But at the same time. There's something there that drawing you towards that person. I'm sure you or anyone else is just going to cuddle with just anyone. I'm sure there not getting all cuddly with there other male friends. There's something that always draw each other together
This reminds me of what they do in the movies! A bit like Jennifer Aniston cuddling up to a guy best friend. But yes in real life I think the guy would eventually think of it as something more. I can understand that you may think of it as harmless affection but some where down the lines I think one or both of you will start develop feelings for each other. There's something about the physical touch that brings about a certain closeness and bond to each other. Good luck!
It's not normal, but it's not unheard of.
I'm like that with my roommates. When we watch movies we snuggle a bit, and if we come home and have had a sh*t day, one may demand cuddles. For anyone who says some of us are harbouring secret feelings - no. Just no.
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At first it is okay but then it starts getting romantic/sexual coz guys are super turned on by touch, smell, and sight.
It can't last very long before the guy gets a boner
As a girl we love being held and if he smells good, it is so easy to give into feelings and one friendly kiss on the cheek soon becomes one on the lips and passion kicks in.
This happened to a long distance boyfriend I had. He cuddled with a friend coz I wasn't there and over 4 mos through became close and "missing" me and her missing her boyfriend, they got wrapped up in the "moment" and a kiss went on too long. After sweaty passionate clothes ripped off sex, both felt guilty, but laying there naked together, they said it was only "relief", nothing more. Had Sex again for several hours right away. Said it meant nothing.
Next day both felt guilty, got together to talk about how wrong it was, passion kicked in and a kiss put them in bed acting out the 2 Backed Beast.
They are together still and I & her boyfriend got dumped
All over a cuddle with a friend
No.
there is a thing call respecting the opposite gender and their future potential partners.
1. you respect the opppostie gender becasue, we are not little boys/girls.. even the little ones understand girls play with girls and boys with boys... so why at age 18, 22... etc... its okay to disrepect that differnece? thats how we know if we like someone, by getting close to the other... if we just do this to anyone... oh... lets be cuddle buddies... how is the guy suppose to feel? gay? he is a male and he has reactions. we have feelings and unless someone likes somoeone... usually the guy likes the girl, then he is fine cuddling and hope for more... the girl only wants comfort and lean over for comfort but has no furter interes... so she is only using him
2. when she gets a boyfriend... oh he is just my cuddle buddy... i am going to go hang out with my cuddle buddy? f*** that
- the guy gets a girlfriend... oh.. she is feeling down and we have always cuddle ea. other, i have to give her some cuddling time tomorrow... tomorrow i will meet her to cuddle... so... whats the new girlfriend suppose to feel/do?
why even get into such tangle web and get a real gf/bf where there is true love and respect?
Yes its ok. I have to say its been asked of me. It can and often leads to more. I don't know if its a girl trying to make the first move or not. Sometimes we need that first move sometimes we end up needing the cuddling.
I did just think of something. A long time ago I saw a documentary about about the sexes, it covered in scientific detail all kinds of things. The thing I found most interesting was they showed people in color imaging that when people got close to each other distance wise the colors got brighter. When the people actually started touching the colors got intense, when they started taking it to the next level it exploded and the colors were off the charts. So whether to just cudle or it leads to more there is a human response.
It can seem like a normal, "friendly" thing from a girl's perspective. But from a guy's perspective, it's anything but friendly. Sure you could cuddle with your friend, but if he's actually open to cuddling with you, I'm willing to be he has some feelings he never opened up about.
Yes I do it with my one friend. She even had me check her breasts bc she was worried she had a lump. We've never done anything sexual.
But when I was younger I used to just cuddle with girls and when I left after doing nothing they would get pissed, I guess they get blue balls too.
Anyhow I love cuddling with gf's, lovers and females that are just friends. It releases oxytocin and drains a lot of stress, but now I need them to be ok with just cuddling too if that is all I want.
Men and women can't be "best friends". They can be acquaintances or be in a romantic relationship, nothing in between. The male will develop feelings for the female, as his goal is to spread his seed as much as possible to ensure continuation of the species. You're leading your "best friend" (he really wants to have sex with you) on. Tell him you don't like him as a romantic partner to avoid breaking his heart later on.
Well I mean if I had no idea you just liked to cuddle, it'd probably come off as more than just friends kind of thing so I'd definitely tell them before hand. I'd probably wouldn't like it because I know I myself could catch feelings if I found my girl who's a friend attractive and she did this.
Hey, if you guys are friends and you like to cuddle, go for it! :D Do what makes you comfortable. I have cuddled with my male and female friends during movies, late-night chats or long car rides. Sometimes it's nice to have someone close, to know that you trust that person and can just relax in their company. Isn't that a perk of having a best friend?
Nooooo. Friends don't cuddle. Do you ever see two (straight) guys cuddling? Do you ever cuddle up with your brother?
Most of my friends are male and my best friend is also. I would never want to cuddle with any one of them. The thought doesn't appeal to me at all.
Yes, for me it's not a sexual thing really.
But you have to be careful so that people don't read to much into it. Doing this, I've led women on by mistake a couple of times, and bi/gay guys once or twice.
It's easy to assume that everyone's just like you, but that's always a mistake.
I think it’s a bit degrading to both sexes to assume that cuddling will automatically lead to unwanted sexual feelings. I have a friend who is a woman and we’ve been just friends for almost 6 years now. She’s like a sister to me. Even her parents have jokingly said I’m like a second son to them. Yes we cuddle, hug, and do other small gestures of affection that have nothing to do with sex. Love doesn’t always have to revolve around sexual relationships. Platonic love/affection across sexes is just as important if not more so than romantic love/affection. Y’all just need to learn how to keep your dicks in your pants smh
Simple question that to me clarifies this quickly: Does the cuddling become off limits once one of you has a SO?
If so, I'd say you're probably crossing a friendship line somewhere. I mean I guess if both of you understand the behavior is going to stop when one of you gets a bf/gf then it's harmless, but that still starts flirting with the friends with benefits line in my opinion.
I used to do that with my best friend when I was single. Never liked the guy. Actually, I even dated his brother for almost a year. (We didn’t do the cuddling thing while I was with his brother). I think it’s ok. I also slept the whole night -literally sleep only- with my other best friend when I was a teenager. We share the bed and hug each other but that was it. He later told me that he was in love with me, I wasn’t.
Me and my best friend cuddle during movies or when we play videogames. I have a major crush on him and have known him my whole life, and am uncertain about how he feels about me, but I always lean my head on his shoulder, and if its a movie we'll sometimes hold hands. At first he questioned it, but as time went on he'll purposefully sit next to me just so we can get in that position, like its a habit now. :) It's usually the highlight of my week.
Not in my book, think of it this way, is it something you'd think is OK for someone in a relationship to be doing? Cuddling up with their best friend of the opposite sex? I don't think so.
There's nothing wrong with it, but it's not friend behavior, unless you both want more, don't be surprised if this leads to a messy situation,
i wouldn't do that usually but once I did by accident lol. we were on a longgg trip back home from a high school excursion and we were sitting next to each other. I fell asleep and I somehow ended up on my best friends shoulder lol. like I said, I wouldn't usually tho. as other people said, a friendly hug or so is all good=]
Unless it because you are comforting someone who just had a crisis its more than a best buddy thing. Cuddling is well beyond best buddy. If the guy would do it with his male best friend then its more than just two friends in close physical contact where body parts touch for hours at a time.
Like my wife says : I's just a movie and is not the real world. If they are hugging and cuddling it is more than two people who have the power to ignore their physical human impulses. It's the movies.
Well whenever I've cuddled with a girl it's led to a makeout session so if either is in a relationship it's a no-go. They would have to be a special friend, not just any friend regardless. Like one you met at a club and got touchy with first for example.
I'm not sure I'd say "normal" but it certainly does happen. Chances are also good that this guy would like more than that. Doesn't mean he won't be respectful (as by his actions), but if you were to want it, I'm sure he'd have no problem doing more with you.
I think so. I’ve cuddled with gay men and straight women (I’m bi) and it was never about wanting sex, it was about feeling comforted and loved.
I did it for one of my best friends who lost her dad. Honestly, there is nothing more rewarding than to be that emotional rock. I guess I can see how people with different life perspectives could see cuddling as an intimacy between lovers, but I ascribe to agape more so than Eros.
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