Is getting drunk a turn off to guys?

[Anonymous]

GUYS.If a girl you supposedly like gets really trashed the first nite you two hang out, is that a turn off?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys ,

Ok two weeks ago I met this guy who was perfect in every aspect! Great communication, attentive and understanding.

After our first night together he texted everyday and it's long texts about every topic. We set up a second catch up where I was 2 hours late but he still cooked us dinner and we watched a movie. That night I asked him what he was doing the following week, he said nothing. So since I didn't want him to know that I knew it was his birthday- I said you should come and see my house I had finished decorating it. So he said yeah we can do that. In all honesty I just wanted to surprise him with a birthday dinner.

In the morning he dropped me home and After that I didn't hear from him for 4 days. Meanwhile his bday was in a day. So I decided to send him this message "hey hope all is well. Are we still on for tomorrow " he replied saying "I can try. What did you want to do again tomorrow?

because I didn't want him to know that I have planned him a birthday dinner. Replied saying " it's ok if you're busy.. thought you'd come by and have a look at the Feng Shui of my home.

He replied saying "oh okay yeah I can come and stop by it's just my birthday so I'm going to head out after. I then replied saying " all jokes aside I knew it was your birthday I just wanted to wish you a happy birthday in person 😉"

He then replies " lol aww that's sweet ok I'll come buy but can't stay long. I said all good see you at 6:30

He walks in dinner was set up, he was surprised and kept saying you should've told me I already had dinner but I'll still have a little bit so he did. We were drinking wine and then i brought out a piece of cake with a candle and again he was surprised he blew the candle and cut us a piece. After that I realized he's no longer going out so I got the vodka and we kept drinking where I puked and cried as well as telling him I'm blocking him from everything I'm done with him etc. When I woke up he had left now I don't know if there's coming back from this. Have I messed everything up? What should I do?

[Opinion Owner]

Hi guys,

Okay so I had a fall out with a guy after the 3rd date. I have him on Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat.

I'm very much active on my Facebook and Snapchat but Instagram not so much.

Anyways I decided to post a video on Instagram of my self listen to music on the balcony. Lots of good looking guys were liking and commenting ( mostly saying beautiful) I responded by saying thanks handsome. I also went ahead and accepted all my follower requests and I followed back.

The next day he had deleted me of his Instagram along with 20 of his other followers. When I checked if he has deleted me of Facebook and Snapchat he hasn't.

Mind you I haven't spoken to the guy in 3 weeks. What could it be? Should I delete him from everything?

[Anonymous]

i think it depends on how you carry yourself when you are pissed and how pissed you actually are. I've een with guys I've met when drunk, and none of them have ever shown me lack of respect, or been put off by it - if you drink, and happen to get drunk when you are with them, unless they don't do it themselves then what's the problem?

Stupid old english superstition thing(but amusing all the same) - Supposidly if you hold back the hair of a drunk girl in a mini skirt while she is being sick, you will marry her a year later. or something like that. haha.

[Talbot]

Well after you have the kid then track the guy down it would probably be a year later lol j/k

[SomeoneSpecial]

wouldn't it depend on the situation? if you were going to a party and he was drinking too then I don't see the problem (as long as you don't get TOO drunk and you still behave yourself).

But if your one of the only people drinking and he's not then.I'd assume it'd be a bit weird for me/he might get the impression your a heavy drinker.

[SomeoneSpecial]

Weird for him**

[lucian_]

Well is a turn off.

1 - they look worse

2 - they are not trustworthy

3 - why they need to get drunk to have fun with you? I don't say they shouldn't drink, but being drunk and being tipsy are 2 different things. If you're not there, there is even a bigger problem, it means they get drunk to have "fun" ( we all know were that fun in 1 of 4 cases leads to, thus point 2)

4 - sex with a sober girl after you turned her on and made her confident is a lot more fun that with a partially numb horny dumb girl. and you both feel a lot better in the morning

So yeah, word of advice for boy, avoid girls that get drunk if you want more from them than just a one night stand, they will surely make you feel like sh*t (involuntary) , especially when you develop feelings for them

[Talbot]

It all depends on what she says or does after she is drunk there are so many variations of what people do that you can't really know what will happen til it does. So basically for some things yes it will be a turn-off and quite possible resulting in leaving her there, others a turn-on and seeing how things turn out.

Me personally though I don't want to take care of a drunk especially on the first night we hang out it would make me think she can't just hang out without getting drunk and that to me is a turn off

[ArtyC]

Depends on the way she act's. Some girls will become fun, and alittle horny. Some girls get to aggressive, they cry, and become real sloppy. I usually tell people not to get drunk infront of someone they just getting to know, or are interested in; it's a bad impression.

[boribori90]

idk one on hand it shows she likes to let loose and have fun. on the other hand, she obviously doesn't mind losing respect for herself. idk, I'm on the fence about that. if she's a happy, goofy drunk who hasn't had too much though, then I would probably enjoy her company. I also would never try to get with a girl who was drunk, even if I were a little tipsy myself.

[lanky1]

I'm pretty sure I would prbably not speak to her again. I try to avoid those types of people. I don't want to end up like them. Besides, what's so fun about going out and making an ass of yourself and feeling like a big pile of crap in the morning? It's stupid.

[WeaponZero]

If a girl got trashed on our first date, or the first night we hung out, I'd never call her back. Ever. And most guys I know wouldn't either, unless it was for a one night stand. She totally blew all respect the guy had for her with that little showing of her complete lack of self control and maturity.

[Anonymous]

To many men a drunken woman is a sexual turn-on. The sight of a staggering girl barely able to speak turns on the horny switch for most men. Incidently, most women report they enjoy sex much more while drunk, so in some ways excessive alcohol consumption isn't always a bad thing. Nevetheless girls, while I recommend getting good and p*ssed every now and again, I wouldn't endorse doing it every night of the week. If you feel like getting loaded, let loose and have some fun. It drives many men wild with lust.

[daverain14]

Completly trashed, yes. If she drinks enough to get tipsy and I'm also tipsy, then it should be fine. If both of us are sobre, then okay we can really talk. If she is completly drunk, then I don't know what to do. Not a fan of drunk people but I'd make sure she gets home safe though.

[Rose8]

Thank you for your advice :)

[daverain14]

No problem 🙂

[Atomizer]

For me that would be a huge turn off. It shows she's probably a heavy drinker, and I don't want to date a heavy drinker.

[wannabe]

definately!

unless she's not too drunk and want to have sex then tis perfect

[l-hedoniste]

Happy drunk=turn-on. Mean drunk=turn-off.

[CoffinWolf]

it would be if she can't dance with me.

[Rose8]

Hahahaha. Yup I was too much of a mess

[adorkabletmtm]

I think it depends on the guy

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Yes.. it is.