Well, I think I can explain this from personal experience. My IQ is really high and I always was considered as socially awkward in school. I used to be very quiet and observant at that time. I could not understand them very well because they always behaved in what seemed to be very illogical ways to me. Their conversations were really uninteresting and I had to dumb things down for them all of the time. So, It was tiring being around my classmates So, I escaped from them by reading books.
But what you say about them is true. If they are so smart, they can indeed solve their communication "problem" but maybe they don't want to for whatever reason.
When I got to college, I decided I had to solve this kind of thing because it was not good anymore for me to behave as I did before. And I actually got over all of that awkwardness. I am actually quite good making friends now, I have been told I am a great communicator, I give self-help speeches some times and I've even been able to make some people shed tears with my speech... and I have learned a lot about the human nature in the process. For me it did really help reading books about human interaction, about EQ -Emotional Quotient-, and some good self help books.
I really don't think "social smarts" as you call them are something too difficult to attain for any normal human being. Actually all of the aspects of EQ, that are very related to how you act socially, are subject to change.
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That's just one way to see it. Really you're assuming that non-smart people are who smart people should strive to be accepted by. A little weird, isn't it? I guarantee you that any extrovert clubbing idiot would find himself very 'socially awkward' within a group of smart people discussing what they're interested in or behaving the way they do. Well rather they'd think like you and judge them for being so different and lame, since that's the standard.
Really a big part of the problem is that smart people often are 'socially' smart and can see through the odd and often fake and empty ways in which most people interact with each other. And that's exactly why they don't see the point in doing the same.
Or maybe they're big shy nerds. That happens too.
Their focus would have been on studies - math, science, etc. Instead of hanging out with people a lot.
I'm not smart and I'm socially awkward. Curse my quiet toned voice.
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A few reasons:
- Their peers weren't at their intellectual level, so they tended to choose information-gathering over hanging out with friends most of the time. It limited their experience.
- They didn't/don't see social interaction as being as important as learning or academic accomplishment.
- They know they are inadequite, but don't know how to solve the problem on their own, and don't want to admit their problems to others.
Watch The Big Bang Theory, and you'll get lots of perspective on how all that works.Not to sound egotistical, but I am smart and I suck at a social interactions, particularly with girls. I know now that the main reason is because I over think the whole situation. While people of more average intelligence tend to just go with gut feelings.
I think it has to do with studying the truth, being honest with yourself and the learning gradient in general.
My impression of dishonest people is that are firstly dishonest with themselves and consequently dishonest with others. Even though this gives them an advantage socially, a person that cannot be honest with themselves will never learn from mistakes and never improve intellectually.Maybe they focus more on intellectual pursuits rather than interpersonal relationships. Also, smarter people tend to overthink things, and overcomplicate socializing. I've noticed that social butterflies tend to be people that rely on emotion and immediate sensations rather than strategic and rationals. Overthinking helps smart people tackle complex ideas, but using your brain too much doesn't help when you're trying to be social.
Usually it's because they spent so long of their formative years with their head in a book, instead of interacting with other children, learning the basic social skills that we all take for granted.
Why do you assume this to be true?
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