This is a tough one.
You saw how much damage your lifestyle did in the beginning of your relationship. She trusted you less.
I'm pretty sure after a few years, that trust was earned back.
When/If you do tell her be prepared to lose this "perfect girl".
If she stays you must understand there's a great possibility things may never be the same again.
If she does ever trust you again, it will take a long time for that to come back.
What did you to her was a selfish act.
Are you going to continue being selfish and harbor this secret?
It's time to come out with the truth.
You'll feel much better when you do.
I know how it is to harbor a secret, it eats away at you.
I don't think you're a horrible dude,
You're just a guy who is finding it hard to maintain this faithful lifestyle.
You're so used to living the one you had before.
You're an adult... and with that comes maturity.
You have to be ready to give that up once and for all.
No slip ups or alcohol blaming.
Be prepared.
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I think your best option is telling her. You messed up. If I were her I would want to know the truth instead of living in a relationship that is a lie. Tell her what happened and how you are going to change to make sure it never happens again. If I was in your position I am pretty sure it would kill me to look at my partner knowing that I held a secret like that.
Tell her and have her break up with you. She deserves better.
Hmm...
While it was a mistake and I realize that you are feeling horrible about it already, I would tell her. Besides it being I guess the "right" thing to do, telling her now will probably help in the long run I'd say.
Your conscience is going to keep eating away at you unless you tell her. If you express extreme regret, and convince her you'd never do it again, there is a chance she'll forgive you. What you don't want though is for her to find out sometime other than by the mouth of you. That is almost guaranteed to end the relationship because it turns into an exposed secret, a scandal in a sense.
Considering your conscience and the extreme guilt, I'd break the news to her about your mistake. She make take it hard, but it is the best path out of a bad situation.
Good luck man.
tell her the truth. if you love her you should be honest. then let her decide what she wants to do...
" love my girlfriend, I've always resented the fact that i found the perfect girl for me so early in life because i took away a lot of my partying year away but i do love her very very much, I want to tell her but i dont know if i should"
that's a pathetic thing to say. If you love her you shouldn't need someone else and if you need or want someone else then you should be single. And I've had gf's and still partied. I just didn't cheat on my girlfriend.
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Why do you want to tell her? So you will feel better? Probably. But how will that make her feel? Devastated. Is that the nicest way that you could handle this?
You've just fucked up a good relationship that many people would die for in this world.
Now you gotta face the consequences.
images.rapgenius.com/...kdyv3ha2iwnc.223x300x1.jpgShe should have followed her gut instinct and stay broken up with you!
Kinda weird saying that she took away from your partying and u regret meeting her so early. Makes me question how much u really want her, since u can't sacrifice the pursuit of other girls.
U can still party and not pursue girls, u know.Break up with her and save her from even more heartache. Hopefully you learned a lesson, but honestly it doesn't sound like you want a committed relationship. Maybe you should just stick to casual relationships/flings and don't get serious. Don't force yourself to be someone you are not, you'll hurt more people (and yourself) if you do.
personally i would keep my mouth shut! NO its NOT the right thing to do but it will prevent her from getting hurt. YOU DID IT, YOU LIVE WITH THE GUILT!
If you can trust that she never finds out, good for you... BUT... that seldom happens.Tell her the truth. It will come out eventually and if it's not from you then you'll look even worse.
Cheaters will always be cheaters. Man up and tell her and then face your consequences. You don't get free passes in life by being an asshole.
Break up with her. She doesn't deserve a cheater. How would you like it if you were cheated on?
You man up, tell her what she deserves to know and then walk away. The relationship as you knew it, is over.
she deserves a guy who will be faithful to her.. you better tell her so that she'll find out and leave you
be honest and ask for a second chance, its up to her from there.
Do her a favor and break up with her. It's guys like you that gives the rest of us a bad reputation.
If you want 2 save the relationship then don't tell her but it would be morally wrong so deal with the consequences of your actions and be a man.
All you can do is tell her and hope she gives you another chance, which is unlikely.
Girls dont give a damn if they cheat. So stop caring.
this is over.. you screwed it up..
U messed up mate...
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