Basically, Tdiseseler got it right... from start to finish... ehem.
I'll say this, though... like, the thought of you having your dingaling in 4 other chicks and then wanting to stick it in mine (especially any being without condoms), and the thought of your lips being all over a chick's nasty-@ss face/body times four and then wanting to put them same lips on me? It's gross. Men don't generally tend to think about, "Okay, where has all of her stuff been?" and that be enough of a turn-off because you all do and are okay with a lot of nasty things (not meaning that as an insult, but it's just true). When women find out her man has cheated, one of her top two feelings will be disgust--especially if you try to touch her. That is basically about what I'm describing. For me, a cheater would never be able to get back in good with me just for that very reason. You now have a nasty-@ss d! ck and nasty-@ss lips that will not touch me again. Yes, I know you had other girlfriends. But you can't carry on with me and someone else at the same time without my feeling disgusted--I don't want her pvssy juice inside of me.
But, you know, like I told someone else on here... if you don't want to be monogamous, just tell women upfront instead of lying and cheating. There are more and more women who will have casual NSA sex with you. It's different strokes different folks, not to mention a general difference between men and women.
Wow, look who's talking about being selfish. You judge women for wanting one partner for life yet you want to have a fiesta sleeping around with 5 women. This is a human need as well as a want. We're supposed to be fruitful and multiply and stick within the order of marriage and the family unit. If you want to live the life of a tramp all your days, that's on you and everybody else that is all on board. But this need to be with one partner is genetic and has been with us because that is what humans are supposed to do. Find 1 partner for life and stick with them. That is what's stable. Not what you're doing.
Other men feel the same way and want's 1 partner, 1 girl/woman who he wants to be with for life. Like Jesus says which is the truth, some are called to marriage, others are not, and there are those who are enuchs for the sake of the kingdom. In other words, people who choose celibacy. If it is not your desire to get married, then so be it. As long as these women you sleep with knows the deal with your intentions, I don't see why you feel the need to ask something that is so natural. You have a very unhealthy and negative attitude towards monogamy. Don't know who made you bitter, or who influenced your life, or had family issues, parents divorced, I don't know. Whatever happened, all I know is I just see you wasting your life and the lives of these 5 women.
Lol. Because most people dont want their love of their life having sex with others, most people like loyalty. It keeps life simple and moral. It makes the relationship more important and serious. What if your girlfriend and you asked her" Hey i wanna make love to you tonight, come babe", and she told you "babe, i prefer to see my other boyfriend tonight, sorry" ... or if she spent a lot of money for a gift for her other boyfriend and not so much on you... wouldn't you be jealous? and if she told her other boyfriend that she love him in front of you? or if she sees more other guys than you? what if she finds the other guy more handsome? what if she loved him more?
You are the one being selfish by not accepting the fact that other people should feel free to do whatever the fuck they want with their own lives. As long as their choices don't harm you or other people, I don't see the reason why you would complain about that. If you want to get involved in something like that, find like-minded people. It's that simple. You're polygamous and you expect all of us to turn polygamous? That's ridiculous and insane. Why should you be the one who dictates us how to live?
The choice of picking a woman to bring you babies is not comparable to the choice of picking a restaurant or other things to bring you food. Restaurants won't point it out to you with your selectiveness because they have no emotions. Women will point that out to you because she has emotions. Women bring you babies. Restaurants bring you food.
The New Testament abolished polygamous relations and declared that 1 man and 1 woman is what defines a relationship/marriage. There's no such thing as homosexual marriage because God doesn't define it as marriage to start with. Marriage must unite male and female as 1 flesh. Technically speaking, a boyfriend/girlfriend is not a relationship but a precursor to what can be a relationship. Boyfriend/girlfriend is just a placeholder. At least it's higher than having nothing at all but if you are not married to the opposite sex, then you are not in a relationship. To truly be in relationship, you must not have more than 1 person involved and it must be of the opposite sex. Sexual relationships are sacred and distinguished from friendships and family. Relationships, friendships and families are all different. Relationship is the marriage bond. Friendships is your collection of friends and family are those in your kin line.
You have 5 partners? lol.. Are you really 47?
To be honest, monogamy is in their nature... but its not in ours... and that is why it happens. We can't question nor defeat nature. we can only bend.
Women want monogamy, men want women, men HAVE to bow to monogamy...
(except for the few smart ones who can do both)
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u Women are not the only ones who enjoy monogamy.
Because when you're 70 or 80 or even 55, you appreciate that one person who has been with you through thick and thin.
Your 5 partners probably don't care about you to a great degree. If you were in a tragic accident or got some disease, you might not see them again.
You are thinking of monogamy as only limiting freedom, since 5 > 1.
However, you are missing the depth of relationship that monogamy affords.
So, I have much more freedom to enjoy my wife (especially in intangible ways) than you have with any of your individual "partners".
Your problem is that you view investing yourself in one person negatively. The great thing about monogamy is that it's mutual and reciprocal (and if it's not, you're with the wrong person anyway). Yes, you have to give someone else your undivided attention, but you also get to have someone else's undivided attention. If you ask me, it's a fair price to pay.
Besides, it's not just women that favor monogamy. Personally, I would rather have the undying devotion of my dream girl who fulfills me in every way, than half the attention of 5 girls that are just... meh.
I look at it this way: Everyone has multiple needs that must be met, but that doesn't mean you need to find a different girl to meet each of those needs. It's much easier and more efficient to find one girl who meets every last one of them. If you oppose monogamy, then it's simply because you haven't found someone capable of meeting all of your needs yet.
You can boil it down to something quite primal and simple :-
- Women have the urge to find a strong partner to father their children. They will do their best to keep him around so he raises and protects them during the vulnerable childhood years.
- Men on the other hand have an urge to mate with as many women as possible and father as many children as he can. He wants the best chance of passing his genes on.
You can disguise it under "values or morals", but essentially they stem from that primal urge.
Any normal person, man or woman, is going to want monogamy. If you have multiple people in your life you are SINGLE, not in a relationship. These people that try and pretend they are in actual relationships with multiple people are just con artists that want to cheat and try and justify it by giving it absurd names like Open, and poly-amourous. It is just utter nonsense.
Most people prefer monogamy because it allows you to develop a much deeper bond with one person. If you had 5 partners you simply wouldn't be able to form that level of bond.
For both
1.) it's the societal norm
2.) we've evolved feelings of jealousy that make us upset, angry and hurt when our partners want to be with someone else.
3.) some get insecure because they think it means they aren't satisfying their partners.
For women
1.) Women have a muh higher cost in child rearing. Thus they evolved a psychology to be more dependent on a man to provide. This is shifting as women can now provide for themselves and mortality rates in child birth are dropping, but it's hard to break millennia of evolution. There's a reason we have an innate fear of dark, snakes, heights etc and not guns or cars.
That being said as long as your open and honest if you want a polyamous relationship more power to you. It's just not for me. I get jealous and angry about that sort of thing.
Women--and most adult men--want to be committed to and love a single person. The open relationships I've seen tend seldom to work out for all the people involved.
Finding different people you're compatible with is the purpose of dating. Many if not most humans get over trying different people when they find someone so like themselves that it's pointless to continue looking.
Umm men like monogamy as much as women.
Monogamy is great. Sure, it's not the best option during every period in your life, there's a time when you just need to do the opposite, but eventually, getting in a monogamous relationship is the goal.
Women do get more out of monogamy, but it's still something us men enjoy just as much.
Quality over quantity man. Quality over quantity...
There are women who would prefer a variety of men,, but many of them would rather have a single mate who is the best option they have.
Personally, i feel the same way...
Because they value the commitment and exclusitivity that one person can give them. They have no interest in being one of many - choosing and being chosen by one person, above every other person in the world is a special thing.
Just because value quantity when many prefer quality doesn't make them wrong
One or more of your "partners" must have either found out about the others or she knew about them, finally found some respect for herself and decided that she will not settle for sloppy seconds and thirds. Poor guy...
I prefer a really strong intimate bond with one person rather than a weaker bond with multiple partners. It's a quality over quantity thing, for me. The type of relationship that makes me happy goes hand in hand with monogamy. I wouldn't be able to reach maximum intimacy with someone if they weren't my only partner. I'm just not wired for polygamy.
Life isn't about fun, it's my choice to love and care for one man. i respect myself and don't believe in being with multiple men. In fact at the end of the day, its not a relationship when all you wanna do is be with multiple women or multiple men. I love being with one man that I can share experiences with... open up to and have moments with. It's not an obsession, its just how it's suppose to be.
FYI, the way you wrote this, will get you tons of hater comments on your lifestyle.
I would be like you if all the guys licked pussy and didn't ask for anything back xD
Oh? So men are okay with the women they are dating have five partner at once now? Alright! Time to to creating my male harem! :P
Why not be like you?
Because I'm looking for a second half, exclusive and connected.
To build a bond with someone, you must fully commit to them and only them.
You aren't going to build concrete bonds stretched between 5 people as you would with one.
***Major troll alert***
Most people are for a monogamist life style. That's why there is dating. We meet and enter into a relationship with people so that we can find that one person we want to spend the rest of our life with.
Not only that, but it's in a woman's nature. You can argue that having multiple partners is in a males nature, which it is and that has been scientifically proven though most males are fine with one partner. And I'm more than fine with having one partner.
They're not. They're completely in favor of having a few thugs that they fuck and get pregnant by, and one chump that pays all their bills and supports their offspring.
They also prefer to share one thug among six women, instead of having one regular guy all to themselves.
Genuine honesty here, no BS- the thought of being with anyone other than whoever I'm dating sickens me. Your asking of the reasons why is actually an interesting one because when I think of the reason, I can't come up with one. I just know that the thought sickens me. Like I literally feel like it would taint my soul or something.
-not speaking for other girls and definitely not judging you or anyone else who are happy with a polygamous arrangement
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