Why are so many people divorcing nowadays?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Years ago, all my friends and relatives were getting married and encouraging me it would sono be my turn. I partecipated to all their weddings.

Now they are all getting divorced. What hit me the most is my sister getting divorced. I was at her wedding six years ago and I remember how happy she was. She had her son not even two years ago, slightly before my daughter was born, and her and my brother-in-law would come over with him and spend time with my wife and daughter.

Now it's all over. She and my other friends aren't saying it, but I feel like they look at me as if to say it will be my turn soon enough.

I feel depressed tonight.

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1 mo

All this talk of divorce gave me nightmares.
I dreamed that my wife wanted a divorce because somehow I was obligated to marry one of our mutual friends.
She was damn fixated on this and insisted we go right away so she could divorce me and marry her friend in the same sitting. Weird.

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1 mo

* so she could divorce me and I had to marry her friend in the same sitting.

[MMelanieM]

I read somewhere, when you know someone who got divorced, another married couple would start looking at their own marriage like its not good enough and it works psychologically in their mind and thoughts and words arise leading to them getting bolder in moving towards a divorce.

Stay strong. Every relationship has their own dynamics. My sister is divorced and she is a completely different person now compared to how she was before. I have also seen her quick to say negative things to singles, married people and those in relationships and i have seen her trying to break people apart, throwing her beliefs into them and trying to influence them, through what she beliefs. Now I keep my distance from my sister and it was hard for me to do that at the beginning... but it had to be done.

Stay strong and don't share your family and intimate matters with divorced people. Because they will stir things up. Stay strong, have healthy boundaries and nurture what you have.

Don't be depressed. You know your partner the most. And seek positive people to sit around your table in life. Focus and be happy with what you have built and don't allow anyone to tear it. Its your hard work and effort and love that you have put into your relationship and partnership.

Don't get influenced and allow them to weaken your mind! Take care!

[MMelanieM]

How did my opinion get selected as 'Superb Opinion' by AI Bot? How does that happen? Like is it AI that has liked my Opinion? Sorry to sound ignorant... just curious :)

[SolitarySolace]

Its probably at random. Don't let It get to your head

[MMelanieM]

@SolitarySolace :D Lol, not at all!

[Anonymous]

Because when the feelings fade and the honeymoon is over, you have to stand on the commitment you made for other reasons that don’t have to do with feelings….. For some people, that reason is a promise they made to GOD, for others it’s about a sense of duty, etc.

Most people are caught off guard when hard times hit and they realize they have to CHOOSE to love their partner or let the relationship end, because feelings fade as well as ebb and flow. There is so much more work involved than they were prepared for, because in the honeymoon stage, it was all so easy breezy.

Cool thing is though, the couples who stick it out and withstand the test of time, speak about a strong mature type of love that can only happen from hard work and dedication to the other.

[Jamie05rhs]

Amen.

[TonyMetal___86]

@anonymous , true but you can always love the person that you chose, it depends on you and him, in my opinion love will become bigger and bigger with time until you both truly feel that it's impossible to live without each other, even if you brawl with each other sometime or argue or anything but in the end of the day, you need the presence of each other to continue this and that's how an eternal marriage works plus the things that you have mentioned, in a sacred marriage, there is a committment towards god which cannot be broken...

Personally if i was married, i find it easy to have an eternal marriage only if my other half thinks like me and have the same beliefs and ideology...

[OlderAndWiser]

My friend, I am sorry that you are feeling down now, but I have good news for you: Whether you and your wife ultimately divorce is entirely within your control.

I think people divorce because they encounter problems which they didn't expect (unrealistic expectations) and divorce is the most obvious answer to them. That means that they entered the marriage without the commitment to stay and work on problems.

You and your wife can talk now about what you will do when you encounter a problem and what you expect from each other when there is a problem. You can be prepared for it before it happens, and you can reaffirm your dedication to preserving your relationship. When a problem happens, you aren't required to quit and walk away from each other.

[SolitarySolace]

Well, it’s a fact that women initiate 80% of all divorces. No fault divorce exists… and women always get to walk away with the man she married’s money and resources… it’s no wonder so many people are getting divorced nowadays. Women are benefiting from getting divorced.

[SolitarySolace]

Also did you know women own more houses than men in the United States? I think it has something to do with the divorce rate and all those cash prizes women are getting out of it

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I don't know, I'm not very knowledgeable about the US law.
Plus many people do prenups here and they are usually iron-clad. My sister has to pay my brother in Law's share of the house even if he is wealthier than her due to their prenup.

[SolitarySolace]

Well here in the states women think if a man wants a prenup he must not love her or doesn’t trust her. I say that’s because women in the west only care about money

[Jamie05rhs]

@SolitarySolace I always think it's a riot when I hear a divorced woman talking about "I own my own home.". I immediately feel like busting out my inner Barack Obama. "You didn't build that!!"

[Agape93]

People can't work through shit or they didn't properly figure out compatibility

[bobby_bush_eater]

Sex before marriage completely clouds your judgement of the other person.

Also divorce is heavily encouraged for women and most men and women refuse to fight for their marriage, which is pathetic.

[ProbablyClueless]

People treat marriages as convenience items. They get married for the wrong reasons and then they view the relationship as expendable when the going starts to get tough.

[Jamie05rhs]

Because people don't know how to get along with each other. Everyone is a narcissist, and they demand the other person always capitulate to their wants. You can't have a relationship like that. People have totally forgotten what partnership means.

[exitseven]

Noody wants to do the work necessary to maintain a good marriage. It is easier to cut and run.

[Alex-Snow]

I hate to hear this. But my parents got divorced when I was very young. Hopefully people think things through completely before getting hitched

[laly520]

they been working for ages to destroy marriage concept n family values

so not surprised

[virtualwasp]

i heard marriage is hard and both side have to make the effort.

[sheikalana]

They don’t understand that a marriage is constant teamwork

[Anonymous]

People have become bad communicators. They spend their lives on social media and texting apps and have no idea how to talk to each other.

[jahaims]

More options for females. Terrible societal and cultural values.

[Anonymous]

Selfishness.

Most of these people never should have married to begin with.

[Surely]

Too quick to get married and too easy to get divorced!

[dolemite58]

I think dating apps have given a lot of people the grass is greener syndrome.

[Anonymous]

Some people don’t take relationships sseriously nowadays

[strateguy632]

because very profitable

[Booklover_90]

People give up too easily.

[OtterMan68]

It's too easy to get married.