Should he pick you up or should you drive yourself on the first date?

[mimi051998]

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+1 y

For some of the rude ass people on here, It was just a question and I was going to drive myself anyways.

[Screenwriter]

First few dates, I'd say get there and home by yourself. Just cause one or two dates go well doesn't mean subsequent ones will. Revelations happen by layers. Until you feel comfortable, you shouldn't reveal where you live or anything like that. There has to be a level of trust before that happens.

[wolverine18]

If I didn't know them too well then I'd arrange my own way incase things dont go well. doesn't matter too much to me afterwards

[coachTanthony]

---------------This isn't 1955. People should meet somewhere for a first date. You don't want to get stuck with driving someone home if you don't hit it off. No way.

[jarvlopes]

Yea but common courtesy is if you pick someone up you drop them back.. after that if you dont wanna meet them that upto how the date went

[coachTanthony]

@jarvlopes That is called Chivalry not common courtesy. Unless you already know the person really well I don't recommend picking anyone up or dropping them off until you get to know them.

[mimi051998]

That's so true @coachTanthony

[coachTanthony]

@mimi051998 Hey thanks!

[SexyAshh]

Agree!

[Daniela1982]

Or being picked up by someone you don't know. That is as bad as hitch hiking.

[coachTanthony]

@Daniela1982 exactly.

[coachTanthony]

Thanks for the MHO

[Kdude010]

Exactly. There are actually women that use the first few dates just to dine-and-dash, get free meals on dates, etc because guys are stupidly always too chivalrous. Be smarter men. You're still strangers at the end of the day.

[COMMODOREII]

That depends on how you want to have the first date. I think meeting there is better.

[jennifer_bloom]

I would prefer a guy picks me up but its not necessary

[Hp0123]

Y wouldn't girl picks me up it feel good some how
Some time

[SpacedCharr]

I drive myself. That way I have an out. Also, I'm not a senior or disabled.

I have the means, I will provide for myself.

[Jjpayne]

It's not that simple... What if he rides the train or a bike? What if you feel safer driving your own car? What if the dates in walking distance? What if you need to do something right afterwards and don't have time to be dropped off first? It should depend less what who's doing the driving and who can do the driving or if driving is even needed. But if both can equally drive then I'd say it could be more romantic to let him drive

[genericname85]

if you don't know the person at all, common sense is to meet in a public space and each of you will go there on their own. do you really want someone you don't know at all yet know where you live? do you really want them to take you whereever "they" want, cause they're driving?

[mimi051998]

If it was a stranger that I've never seen before would I really ask this question 🤔🙄

[genericname85]

oh but if you met them before in a club or whatever and you got their number, that means you know them enough? that's foolish. i'm for not being too paranoid and it also depends on the area you live but generally it's better (specially for women) to be carefull.

[mimi051998]

I was never going to let him pick me up for real it's just a question. Plus I was going to drive myself. I'm not stupid.

[genericname85]

good then xD

[Cystic_Xenophon934]

Depends on the people having the date. Everybody is different and also not everyone owns a vehicle.

So really if the woman or man needed a ride, I suppose they'd ask their date for one.

Some people may offer, just to be courteous.

And others won't, because it would be rude to assume that they needed a ride.


So I guess. It's just easier to ask.

[Obtuse]

I go old skool on this. Let him pick you up. Let him drive you around. Pick place. You are VIP guest. He also pays for everything by the way. I am in a clash of generations here. But I like my way better. Let the man lead. Would you lead him in a dance? Why lead him in a car?

[Obtuse]

What do you want anyway? I guess it depends on what you want. You want a man to step up to the plate, lead you in dance, tip you over, or a man who follows your lead, you tip him over, plant a big kiss on his lips while he's like, "Oh my!" and starts blushing or some shit? I don't see any reason to reform this. Maybe it is sexist. I don't care. What do women want here? Because I am driving in the driver's seat -- always.

[Obtuse]

I get called "simp" a lot here. I guess the image of me is a chauffeur driving women around and buying their meals. But what sort of simp gets a woman to melt with his touch? To dip her over, to have the lead every step of the way? To see her look up to you? I take charge. Maybe they think I'm a "simp" cause they don't know how. They just buy shit like, "Nerrr, here is some dinner all right. Will you have sex with me now?" Lame. And if you want to invite such submissive men maybe you can split the bill, or drive them around places, or pay for everything. But you want a man who steps up to the plate then you let him do that. You step aside even if you are strong enough to do it on your own. You let him be a man every now and then.

[Seeker1005]

Depends on many factors. Is it a blind date? Someone met online? Is it someone that you just met and they asked you out? In this day and age there are so many factors. I grew up through the 90s and so am well informed on the many risks involved with dating or meeting someone that's unknown. That being said it depends on the individual me personally, I would prefer to meet somewhere public. More for my dates sense of safety than for my own concerns. Second or third date would be the pick up and go together.

[Nogard1973]

First date? I'll offer to meet somewhere first, but it's for safety. I don't want her to think she's stuck with me of the date goes sour & she's stuck with me to get home. Also, I'm a big guy (6'1", about 275 or so) and I don't want her feeling intimidated being stuck in an older Chevy pickup with me.

If she can't drive herself, I'll offer to pick her up.

[vintagegirl90]

Drive yourself to the date please. You don’t know the guy and you’re only meeting him for the first time, keep yourself safe. Don’t make the mistake my friend made getting into a creepy stranger’s car and immediately regretting throughout the evening and the guy turning out to be a psycho- this is a true and recent first date story.

[kitty71]

If you are a gentleman a guy won't mind picking up the lady or at least dropping her off even if it is the first date. But also if the guy is really interested in the lady he wotn minddoing that. But if the guy treat the date like she is just a friend I doubt he will pick her up or drop her off.

Somthingsimilar happend to me the first 2 dates, tThe 1st date he guy picked me up at my sisters house (that day I was sleeping over at my sister house) and then drop me off there. The second date we both met at one place and he drop me off after the meal date. The 3rd nd 4th date since I dont have a car I had to go by taxi to his apartment and after the date was over I had to return home on my own also by taxi. And the guy di dnot even live so so close to my house.

[MissDawn7961]

let him take you on the date so you can see how he drives or lack there of ! my mechanic Johnnie had his sister drive him to work for his car was down at the time and she needed her car for her kids to go in ! he said something to me like this - she drove in and out of traffic like a bat coming from H--L ! I was afraid for my life - ! Johnnie is so tall that he could barely get his sisters seat belt on and his knees were literally on the dash board of his sisters car ! Thanks

[DizzyDesii]

I dont drive but i’d either take a ride there or he can pick me up if he wants

[mimi051998]

I drive but I would love to have a longer time with a date. But what if I hated the date and really wanted to go home. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao text your friend to call and save you

[mimi051998]

Lol true. My mom would probably say I told your ass to drive yourself😂😂

[red324]

Sounds like a lot of you girls ditch out on your dates halfway through.

[DizzyDesii]

@red324 i actually get to know the person for a month before even agreeing to go out. So that way i know if i wanna tell em bye before i really tell em hi

[Himanshu66109]

Let him pick you up, In that case you get a little more time to know about him. If you felt comfortable you can go on a date if not then you can make a reason to get rid of him and he will drop you back home lol

[elite665]

I know I would be more comfortable just meeting them
And since I feel that way I would say most women would be too as if you don’t have a great time your not relying on the guy and awkward silence on the way home

[jgokgotit]

Drive yourself there. What if the guy is a psycho? Leave yourself an exit strategy, just in case. He should offer if he is a gentleman, but decline and bring yourself.

[markscott]

You should drive yourself for the first date, in a public place, unless you know each other previously. Then he can pick you up.

[morimeme1]

Depends on the arrangement, I don't think it matters really. If he has a car and chose a location far from you then I guess, if it's in between then who cares.

[morimeme1]

But if you don't know the guy beforehand then I think driving yourself there is safer.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It all depends on how good you know the guy
if he seems trustworthy than i say let him pick
you up but if you don't know him good enough
than drive yourself to the date.

[SexyAshh]

Drive yourself!!

I've gone on first dates before and they picked me up, and i just wanted to get out of the date but had nowhere to go!

Lesson learned! Always take your vehicle

[MelissaMarie9614]

Let the guy drive you on the first date. I think its proper of him to do that for a girl he likes. I like it when a guy drives me. Then when you two have been dating for a long time then split the driving time.