Should he pick you up or should you drive yourself on the first date?

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Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

First few dates, I'd say get there and home by yourself. Just cause one or two dates go well doesn't mean subsequent ones will. Revelations happen by layers. Until you feel comfortable, you shouldn't reveal where you live or anything like that. There has to be a level of trust before that happens.

wolverine18 · Accepted Answer

If I didn't know them too well then I'd arrange my own way incase things dont go well. doesn't matter too much to me afterwards

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

---------------This isn't 1955. People should meet somewhere for a first date. You don't want to get stuck with driving someone home if you don't hit it off.  No way.

COMMODOREII · Accepted Answer

That depends on how you want to have the first date. I think meeting there is better.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would prefer a guy picks me up but its not necessary

SpacedCharr · Answer

I drive myself. That way I have an out. Also, I'm not a senior or disabled. I have the means, I will provide for myself.

Jjpayne · Answer

It's not that simple... What if he rides the train or a bike? What if you feel safer driving your own car? What if the dates in walking distance? What if you need to do something right afterwards and don't have time to be dropped off first? It should depend less what who's doing the driving and who can do the driving or if driving is even needed. But if both can equally drive then I'd say it could be more romantic to let him drive

genericname85 · Answer

if you don't know the person at all, common sense is to meet in a public space and each of you will go there on their own. do you really want someone you don't know at all yet know where you live? do you really want them to take you whereever "they" want, cause they're driving?

Cystic_Xenophon934 · Answer

Depends on the people having the date. Everybody is different and also not everyone owns a vehicle.

So really if the woman or man needed a ride, I suppose they'd ask their date for one.

Some people may offer, just to be courteous.

And others won't, because it would be rude to assume that they needed a ride.

So I guess. It's just easier to ask.

Obtuse · Answer

I go old skool on this. Let him pick you up. Let him drive you around. Pick place. You are VIP guest. He also pays for everything by the way. I am in a clash of generations here. But I like my way better. Let the man lead. Would you lead him in a dance? Why lead him in a car?

Seeker1005 · Answer

Depends on many factors. Is it a blind date? Someone met online? Is it someone that you just met and they asked you out? In this day and age there are so many factors. I grew up through the 90s and so am well informed on the many risks involved with dating or meeting someone that's unknown. That being said it depends on the individual me personally, I would prefer to meet somewhere public. More for my dates sense of safety than for my own concerns. Second or third date would be the pick up and go together.

Nogard1973 · Answer

First date? I'll offer to meet somewhere first, but it's for safety. I don't want her to think she's stuck with me of the date goes sour & she's stuck with me to get home. Also, I'm a big guy (6'1", about 275 or so) and I don't want her feeling intimidated being stuck in an older Chevy pickup with me.

If she can't drive herself, I'll offer to pick her up.

vintagegirl90 · Answer

Drive yourself to the date please. You don’t know the guy and you’re only meeting him for the first time, keep yourself safe. Don’t make the mistake my friend made getting into a creepy stranger’s car and immediately regretting throughout the evening and the guy turning out to be a psycho- this is a true and recent first date story.

kitty71 · Answer

If you are a gentleman a guy won't mind picking up the lady or at least dropping her off even if it is the first date. But also if the guy is really interested in the lady he wotn minddoing that. But if the guy treat the date like she is just a friend I doubt he will pick her up or drop her off.

Somthingsimilar happend to me the first 2 dates, tThe 1st date he guy picked me up at my sisters house (that day I was sleeping over at my sister house) and then drop me off there. The second date we both met at one place and he drop me off after the meal date. The 3rd nd 4th date since I dont have a car I had to go by taxi to his apartment and after the date was over I had to return home on my own also by taxi. And the guy di dnot even live so so close to my house.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

let him take you on the date so you can see how he drives or lack there of ! my mechanic Johnnie had his sister drive him to work for his car was down at the time and she needed her car for her kids to go in ! he said something to me like this - she drove in and out of traffic like a bat coming from H--L ! I was afraid for my life - ! Johnnie is so tall that he could barely get his sisters seat belt on and his knees were literally on the dash board of his sisters car ! Thanks

DizzyDesii · Answer

I dont drive but i’d either take a ride there or he can pick me up if he wants

Himanshu66109 · Answer

Let him pick you up, In that case you get a little more time to know about him. If you felt comfortable you can go on a date if not then you can make a reason to get rid of him and he will drop you back home lol

elite665 · Answer

I know I would be more comfortable just meeting them
And since I feel that way I would say most women would be too as if you don’t have a great time your not relying on the guy and awkward silence on the way home

jgokgotit · Answer

Drive yourself there. What if the guy is a psycho? Leave yourself an exit strategy, just in case. He should offer if he is a gentleman, but decline and bring yourself.

markscott · Answer

You should drive yourself for the first date, in a public place, unless you know each other previously. Then he can pick you up.

morimeme1 · Answer

Depends on the arrangement, I don't think it matters really. If he has a car and chose a location far from you then I guess, if it's in between then who cares.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It all depends on how good you know the guy  if he seems trustworthy than i say let him pick  you up but if you don't know him good enough than drive yourself to the date.

SexyAshh · Answer

Drive yourself!! I've gone on first dates before and they picked me up, and i just wanted to get out of the date but had nowhere to go! Lesson learned! Always take your vehicle

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

Let the guy drive you on the first date. I think its proper of him to do that for a girl he likes. I like it when a guy drives me. Then when you two have been dating for a long time then split the driving time.

Guy143528 · Answer

Drive yourself cause if it doesn't work out and you wanna dip it's a lot easier and they guy doesn't have to learn where you live

MajesticTwelve · Answer

I'd drive myself in case I needed to abort and get out quick.

kales96 · Answer

I usually meet the people I date by myself until I get to know the person and then when I do, I’ll make the decision to go with them in their car

bubbles328 · Answer

Depends if I have never met them or met them once or twice I don't want him to know where I live.

SamanthaAndrews · Answer

Definitely get there myself. I wouldn't want to be dependent on him.

jamesritchey · Answer

It shouldn't be expected, unless you already know each other well. It's also safer to drive yourself.

FLINTSTONE97 · Answer

In all honesty, I like to make my own way so they don't know where I live

Anoniemus · Answer

Whatever works out. I know I’m not picking him up though.

20yearsolder · Answer

Always have a exit plan. Meet somewhere. Don't depend on him as your transportation

Amanda269 · Answer

Always have a way home, where you don't have to depend on others.

BagoH · Answer

I'd say pick up but if it's not too far. It's more fun that way, you can talk on the way too.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I prefer driving myself to be honest so as I can leave if I'm bored or they're shitty.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Drive yourself. Makes it easier to blaze if the date sucks and it also keeps where you live secret if he's a stalker type.

foxrider77 · Answer

Call an Uber, tell them you gave your car to your ex wife/husband. You try to keep the kids happy so you gave them all your money. See if he buys your meal or even comes back for a second date.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

well it would be more traditional and gentlemanly for him to pick you, but if you're comfortable and you mutually agree on it, you could drive yourself on the first date.

Synikal · Answer

She should drive. If the initial date was bad. No harm done... drive home. Plus never know if the person is crazy or a predator. Heard plenty of stories.

Nessygurl · Answer

I always drive myself so if the date is horrible I can leave

Anonymous · Answer

You have more control and safety if you make your own way. If you already know and trust him, it's nice to be picked up. Tell someone who you're with and where you've gone. Love, dad.

red324 · Answer

I used to ask, but most girls say they'll meet me. This works out great cause then I don't have to clean out my vehicle :)

Surely · Answer

If you both drive and meet somewhere for the first date, then you can cut out early if things don't work out.

Anonymous · Answer

I always offer to pick the woman up at her home. Most of them decline and choose to meet me instead. If she lets me pick her up, that’s usually a sign of high interest.

jillybeanns · Answer

I would rather meet. I wouldn’t want someone who I have never met before knowing where I live right away...

Unit1 · Answer

The only thing, that should be is doing whatever works, never mind who is the driver.

Melissa01979 · Answer

Depends how you met if you met online you meet their if it’s someone you known couple years or longer it be nice if they pick you up.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I like driving my own car so I can leave if need be.

jarvlopes · Answer

Doesn't matter... but yea a guy should pick a girl up make her feel special

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer to drive myself because he doesn't have to know where I live or work when we have the first dates and because I can leave whenever I want to leave.

CoolKat21 · Answer

can't drive. I pick a bus or tram. ponders on where I am at

SassyStar47 · Answer

Drive yourself so if things get awkward or bad you always have an escape plan

Gatman34 · Answer

You drive yourself. You women aren’t special you are just people quit acting like you are entitled to everything

Kdude010 · Answer

Drive yourself. You're both still strangers to each other at the end of the day.

zackfisher · Answer

If you already know him kinda well, let him pick you up

Sorryinadvance1 · Answer

Only if ur already friends. Otherwise u don't want a man ur only going on a first date with to know ur adress

32DD_yeye · Answer

Why does it fuckin matter? Drive yourself unless you tryin to hook up

Smegskull · Answer

A) he's not a taxi. B) you don't want to be dependent on your date to get you home safely on your first date.

lrighleigh · Answer

Depends if ur good at getting out of ugly situation, safe u drive but it's how u feel

owens97 · Answer

this isn't a fair question cause as much as i want to drive i can't cause of a medical condition

Daniela1982 · Answer

You drive in case things go sour.

Uraveragecanadian · Answer

Hell. No Should probably take transit or drive yourself.

slurreyboy · Answer

Drive yourself for sure

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