Would you date a single mother? Ladies, would you date a single father?

[Apope16]

Why or why not?

Yes.

No way!

[Anonymous]

I don't care 🤷 Honestly doesn't bother me one bit. I love children and I could easily love someone else's kid. Also depends on the reason him and the mother split. I'm dating a single dad. 😂 He has kids from a previous marriage but the reason they split is that she cheated on him multiple times. From what he's told me he tried to make it work with her for the kids' sake but she was just shitty. I have a kid myself and my relationship with my ex was also shitty so I can relate. I'm very empathetic so I always try to see things from the other person's point of view. I care about what they care about and try to understand why certain things in their past happened to them. We all fuck up and pick bad people. Sometimes we have kids with the wrong people. But anyone that takes full responsibility for their past mistakes and takes care of their children are worthy in my eyes. I believe it takes a good heart and dedication to raise children. Even more so to be willing to help raise and love a child that is not biologically your own. But I understand some people simply don't want that kind of burden and I get that. This is simply how I feel about it and why I will date a single dad as long as he is a good person and takes care of his children.

But that's just my opinion. 😂

[ANR29]

Yes, because I’m also a single mother. So they get it. And also from what I’ve seen of a lot of men’s opinions on here. I’m “damaged goods”. And then few men that are single fathers have said it would be a double standard if they didn’t. Prior to children was very difficult in my earlier 20’s because I wasn’t a parent. I could easily spot something wrong when I didn’t know how to be a parent. So.. lol

[Miristheiss]

When I was younger and single absolutely not.
I wouldn't even date a woman who had been married before.

I wanted to be my wife's only husband (not her 2nd or 3rd)... I wanted to have a family together... not get an instant family from some other man. Non negotiable.

I am now married... I have a child. I would be in a different place in my life. I am older now, if we divorced or I became a widow most of the women I'd possibly date would be older and most likely would be single parents as I would be. I'd do it now... already having a child with my wife and already having been married myself I'd now date a single mother.

[NetSapien]

I would, though it adds an extra layer of complications.

First of all, the child's upbringing so far would have to be compatible with mine, of which can vary greatly from person to person.

I don't care if a girl has God's masterpiece of a woman's body and the perfect attitude, if the kid's a little shit, I'm out.

[MCheetah]

No. As stated in another post, it's twice the effort to impress (her and her kid), four times the baggage (her kid, her with you, herself, and you), and half the return on a relationship (you will always come dead last in her life, after her kid, herself, her parents, her pets, her kid's father, etc). Dating a single mother is like buying a used car at twice the price with 100,000 miles on it.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

No, I wouldn't date or be with a single father because thats a lot of unwanted issues plus I do not have children. However if I had child I see no issue in dating a man with a child as that is fair and compatible.

[t-8900]

off subject is this your jam? XD

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[KingdomForAKiss]

I absolutely would. I'd love to be a positive figure in a kid's life, even if they're not lacking in a mother figure. Seeing a man be a dedicated father is very attractive.

It would be really important to build the bond between us and be sure we have more in common than simply being parents. I want a future with him after our kids are grown.

[t-8900]

Well before my dad had a talk with me today I would have said no. But my dad being the great gent he is and also a good father had a talk with me today after I called off my engagement with someone else. I might if she was with one kid and she didn't mind having 2 more with me. She would have to be a very caring woman and be there for me emotionally since I have some of my own unresolved issues. But if she can be patient with me and give her 100% I will do the same for her.

[exitseven]

Why did you call off engagement?>

[t-8900]

@exitseven she wanted me to leave my family for her. I'll never abandon my dad.

[exitseven]

Is a willingness to live with your father a prerequisite for a wife? Does your father know that you called off the engagement for him?

[t-8900]

@exitseven living with him? No. But moving to another country just because she would prefer the same career there she could just as easily get here? Yes. And yes he does.

[exitseven]

Oh, I didn't realize there was moving to a different country involved. I don't think I would leave my country either.

[t-8900]

@exitseven yeah she wanted to move to Australia for her career. I wasn't okay with that. Especially since she didn't want kids and I was going to sacrifice my desire to have them for her. There would be nothing keeping us together if she decided to run off with another man. It was just not a safe bet for me at all.

[exitseven]

I think you did the right thing. You will find someone else.

[t-8900]

@exitseven I do too. Thanks for reaffirming that though. Besides I really want 2 kids of my own.

[Katebfun]

I briefly dated a guy with a child, but I knew it would never work out because he had her Thursday through Sunday so every weekend I would have to be out with friends or on my own. He also waited 6 months before I met his daughter. I would consider dating a guy with kids but they would have to be older as in high school or on their way out.

[RustlessRodney]

I have, and it was a good relationship for the most part. But I would make sure that either she has a healthy relationship with the father or the father isn’t in the picture at all before I do again. That was what caused every problem last time. And I mean every. single. problem. Constantly.

[exitseven]

No, kids are a lot of work and I know her kid would always be the most important thing. Also, what if the kid resented me? I have my own kids, I don't need to be a male role model for somebody else's. Besides, at my age I want to be a little bit selfish.

[Eridan]

Unless she happens to be a widow, not a chance. By dating a single mother, you're basically getting all the responsibility and hardship of being a father without actually starting your own family - and on top of that, you'll have to deal with the real dad forever. Why would I voluntarily pay for someone else's mistake, anyway? I fail to understand why anyone in their right mind would do that to themselves.

[pleasestopthis]

Maybe not, it sounds too complicated. The children aren't mine so I can't discipline them if they're doing things I disapprove and then there's also their mother, some people don't want their children to hand around the girlfriends or boyfriends and I kind of understand it.

[Anonymous]

I would only if the father is on good terms with his children’s mother. I don’t I wanna have to sit through ‘baby momma drama’ or have another woman hating me for our relationship. Not again 😂

[Ms_Vanderquack]

No, if I wanted to deal with someone else’s mistakes I'd have been a psych major.

[Tstrbrainer]

By the way, did you had an account here before this? 🤔

[Ms_Vanderquack]

@Tstrbrainer I've had like a dozen different accounts on here.

[Tstrbrainer]

Any name like Quackthulu?

[Ms_Vanderquack]

@Tstrbrainer that would be me, yes

[Tstrbrainer]

Wow, yeah

[StrawberrySmoothie]

I did before & it wasn’t a bad experience at all. Very mature & drama free adults, kids were really sweet. With all that being said, I would still prefer dating a guy without kids moving forward.

[ChrisMaster69]

@StrawberrySmoothie as someone in that position, thanks for positive comments on it. Yes it’s hard on the non parent in the relationship.

[StrawberrySmoothie]

@ChrisMaster69 Aw you’re welcome! Yea my experience was good but I’ve heard of others with bad experiences so I’m skeptical of doing it again lol All the best with yours!!

[ChrisMaster69]

@StrawberrySmoothie I think I have the bonus in having a teen daughter, there tends to be a better bond between girls (although can be bitch fest lmao).

[StrawberrySmoothie]

@ChrisMaster69 Lol yeah I’ve heard that teen girls can be a handful but ya gotta love em 😊

[VanillaSalt]

Not a chance. Marriage is a huge risk for men while not being the case for women. If imma take that risk it’s gonna be for a woman with the least past troubles... and single parenthood is quite troublesome.

[Simon4132]

NOPE.. Im not ready for kids and honestly I dont want any. The financial aspect scares me. But if I did meet someone then I'd really have to be into them for this to happen and a multitude of ther things. Kids are a lot from what iv seen and heard from family that has them.

[Browneye57]

Not a fukkin' chance. For a LOT of reasons. But primarily, you will NEVER be their first priority - the kids, their mother, job, ex, will all take priority over you. I guarantee it.

[NotARobberYet]

No!

And the funniest part is that I have a child myself. Call me a hypocrite if you want, but it's extremely unlikely for me to date a single mother, she must be a really amazing woman to make me change my mind.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

A 30+ woman, yes.

A woman under 30? No way. I dated several, and most were single mothers for a reason. Usually they were slutty or party animals, etc.. Not exactly LTR material. Most of them seemed to be mental as well.

[shalt]

I don't know if your truly 51, but times truly never change lol, this is 100 true

[BeenThereLovedIt]

@shalt Yeah I'm really 51. Females are no more innocent than men when it comes to these behaviors and cheating and partying, etc.

[TruthBringer]

I've posted this before and I will do so again:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/MdzLfiLCkrc

Oh and my answer is HELL NO. I'm not a beta cuck.

[likelyOK]

This has to be the most common quality here, but yes if he had just one kid and was never married also of the drama with his ex was too big I might duck out.

[Dinklex3]

Nah.
Not unless the mother is dead or completely out of the picture.
I don't want any drama with the mother.