Have you, or would you, date someone who is average, a 5/10 based solely on their appearance? (Page 2)

[Dinklex3]

I would not date anyone I thought was “average”. Have I dated people that others thought were unattractive? Yes. But I have never dated anyone I didn’t personally think was extremely attractive and a “10” in my book.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Voted D.

I don't usually rate people, but appearance-only there's always some quirk that attracted me. There was a girl I dated who had very bushy eyebrows, I don't know why but that characteristic alone got me very attracted to her.

[SereneScribe3]

I mean most people (especially guys) wouldn't consider dating someone, unless they felt at least some degree of physical attraction towards them. Also, looks is subjective, so attractive to me might be average in someone else's eyes.

I would be reluctant to dating a guy, who considers me average though. How do you know in the future they won't leave you for someone else?

[OlderAndWiser]

Real men don’t stay with their partner only because she is cute! And a gift can be strongly attracted to someone who he views as average.

[Massageman]

I would go out to the second std dev, not just the first std dev.

[OlderAndWiser]

2+ or 2- ?

[Massageman]

either way.

[CoolCatMar1]

I haven't dated someone i would consider average... Most guys i went out weren't my boyfriend they were just guys i wanted to get to know... My ex was attractive to me, not average

[exitseven]

I dated somebody who was really just average looking. She was just so different and quirky that she sort of got better looking to me. Besides , she was very athletic and had a nice body.

[msc545]

Above all, I value intelligence. If she were an intelligent person and educated of course I would be interested in dating her. It is amazing how some people change in desirability based on personality alone.

[Sjoerd85]

The personality is what is most important, not looks.

Only the face needs to be attractive to me. The rest of the body doesn't really matter, as long as there is a personality I can really fall in love with.

[OlderAndWiser]

You usually don't get to know a person before you start dating so you know their appearance first. And everyone knows that personality is important, but that's not the question. I am only asking whether you are open to dating someone if they are average in appearance or if that fact, alone, would disqualify them from dating you.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Probably not, I kinda have to feel attracted to the person to be truly interested

[OlderAndWiser]

So you are not attracted to average people?

[WhiteBoyChill]

definitely not

[FenixG45]

I would date someone I found attractive regardless of a stupid number!

[OlderAndWiser]

The question is whether you would date someone who you think is average, based strictly on their appearance.

[FenixG45]

Yes, if I was attracted to her

[douride2]

Most people are only average. So most average people who won't date an average person your choices just got smaller.

[Anonymous]

Depends what type of 5. the good side of 5 that's pushing a 6, like 5.7-5.9 (if we're talking face wise) sure. the very bland 5, like a 5.3 no

[Nikki1989]

I married one, but what he lacks in looks, he makes up for in a million other ways.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I've dated ladies who were average.

[Anonymous]

Largely depends.

[OlderAndWiser]

Depends on. . ?

[Mangospacho]

Average looking women are the least drama. Therefore, yes.

[Cubus]

If she's got a good personality and we agree on issues

[LiamJHayden]

As long as she is not obese, I am open to dating any unattached adult female.

[Slim57]

I've dated average to pretty, but I'm not one for looks mainly, I need a good personality or it's a no go

[antelope51]

I would never date someone solely on appearance. The rest of the question is irrelevant.

[OlderAndWiser]

I understand why you read the question that way. I should have asked "would you refuse to date someone average based strictly on their appearance?"

[antelope51]

But again... as someone sapiosexual, appearance really has no bearing on my choices. I want a connection to their mind. Their appearance is just the smiling cardboard box that it comes in and looks like every other smiling cardboard box left on my doorstep to me. They might be different dimensions, but they all contain something different or unique, and that's what I'm interested in.

[OlderAndWiser]

I understand that not everyone makes choices on the basis of appearance, but the question, as I clarified it, is, "would you refuse to date someone average based strictly on their appearance?"
And your answer is "no," because you would date someone who was only average in appearance.

[antelope51]

I suppose that's a way of interpreting it, but how would I know if they're average or not? Lol. It's like asking a blind person if they would refuse to date someone because they are purple. How would they know and why would they care if someone is purple? The question of it is irrelevant to their worldview, and they have no concept of hotness based on what shade of puce they are.

[OlderAndWiser]

You meet someone and you look at them but have no idea of whether they are physically ugly, physically average, or physically attractive. That makes no sense. I think you are making this question far more difficult than was intended.

[antelope51]

"Makes no sense." I never said it would make sense to you. This whole "Girls ask guys" thing is a very binary system that doesn't allow for us non-binary and non-superficial people with more complexities to our identities and attractions than, "Tarazan fuck Jane cuz she 9 out of 10."

[antelope51]

Reading through the other comments, I do not seem to be anything unusual here. Other people think this question is silly as well, because they are more interested in the >person< and not their packaging to determine their datability. It's not just me.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are blind to the purpose for me asking the question.

OF COURSE I know that most people don't date solely because their partner is physically attractive. I have far too much experience and intelligence to believe something that silly.

There are people on this site who post questions which reveal that they have much to offer a partner in many ways BUT. . . they are only average in appearance and, therefore, will never get a date. I am trying to gather information to provide some encouragement for those people. There are a few to whom I will DM the link to this question after it has accumulated sufficient votes. If you think that is a silly endeavor, then we don't need to talk any more.

When you don't understand someone else, it doesn't mean THEY are misguided or misinformed.

[antelope51]

Well, I'm providing an opinion for the audience YOU don't understand. I'm not saying it's wrong or I don't understand other people judge looks. But MY opinion is that looks are irrelevant to my selection criteria and a 1 or 5 has an equal opportunity to a 10 in my book. I don't see how this is not giving someone encouragement that there ARE people out there who will date them.

[OlderAndWiser]

You could have smply answered "yes" at the beginning, but NOOOOOO! Enough, you don't need to explain anymore about not fitting the mold, or anything else.

[antelope51]

I mean... when I ask questions and someone goes on a tangent missing the point, I just stop replying. ;-) But this is fun because you are continuing to let me needle you with pedantry.

[OlderAndWiser]

I can make any troll stop.