I dunno, this is a very odd topic to cover... Because I have a low-key "crush" in all of my female friends... But I'd never act on them, I understand if they are just looking for friends though.
I don't think you arrived at the right conclusion. I think a better way to frame it is that most men don't want to invest time in a woman who isn't a potential partner unless they are really looking for friendship from the get go
I think the thing I’m having trouble with is how when upon meeting someone of the opposite sex, for guys it tends to be “potential interest” right off the bat and not just “potential friend”
In addition to the fact that if she is viewed as just a friend, it’s because she’s deemed “one of the guys” Why can’t guys be friends without diminishing her femininity?
I think your just fishing for a reason to be offended. people like to fuck, it's healthy and natural, get over it.
I don't spend a ton of time looking for male friends either, I'd rather just work on fulfilling my needs and doing my day job than making friends with people of either gender.
As much as I’d like to just “get over it” I genuinely do care and want to know how the male mind thinks because clearly I didn’t understand it as much as I think I did.
I think you should try understanding the female mind first. For example the drive to soak up male attention without investing any real thought or consideration into their feelings.
My point is that both genders have shitty base level behavior. Gotta make an effort to find friends with good self control, and to exercise some yourself. Want quality friends, offers quality friendship. What do you even want from male friends other than unreciprocated attention?
You can be friend for other reasons. Loving the same stuff, and doing the same stuff. Having discussions for no reason and then laughing about it. There is more then the sex. Thing
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Probably the same reason why most of you don't even like each other...
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I mean not usually romantic interest, usually a physical interest lmao
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I have lots of female friends, I don't view them as someone to win over later. If a guy has a crush on a girl he doesn't want to be friend-zoned.
I think guys are too attracted to girls to see them as friends.
If im not attracted to a girl, i can very well be her friend no problem
True. The only girls im "friends" which my mind treats as guys. aka no sexual attraction
Believe it or not, most guys have sexually driven minds. So, if a guy if after a girl, in most cases you know what it is.
I'm only interested in girlfriends who I might want as lovers. But after getting to kno them the might turn into just a friend, that's cool.
I dunno, this is a very odd topic to cover... Because I have a low-key "crush" in all of my female friends... But I'd never act on them, I understand if they are just looking for friends though.
You must be meeting the wrong guys. Most people I know are female and there is no sexual tension at all between us.
I have many girlfriends. And it's fine. I just dont want to ruin the friendships with sex.
If not romantic interest then definitely sexual tension.
I don't think you arrived at the right conclusion. I think a better way to frame it is that most men don't want to invest time in a woman who isn't a potential partner unless they are really looking for friendship from the get go
I think the thing I’m having trouble with is how when upon meeting someone of the opposite sex, for guys it tends to be “potential interest” right off the bat and not just “potential friend”
In addition to the fact that if she is viewed as just a friend, it’s because she’s deemed “one of the guys” Why can’t guys be friends without diminishing her femininity?
I think your just fishing for a reason to be offended. people like to fuck, it's healthy and natural, get over it.
I don't spend a ton of time looking for male friends either, I'd rather just work on fulfilling my needs and doing my day job than making friends with people of either gender.
As much as I’d like to just “get over it” I genuinely do care and want to know how the male mind thinks because clearly I didn’t understand it as much as I think I did.
I think you should try understanding the female mind first. For example the drive to soak up male attention without investing any real thought or consideration into their feelings.
My point is that both genders have shitty base level behavior. Gotta make an effort to find friends with good self control, and to exercise some yourself. Want quality friends, offers quality friendship. What do you even want from male friends other than unreciprocated attention?
You can be friend for other reasons. Loving the same stuff, and doing the same stuff.
Having discussions for no reason and then laughing about it.
There is more then the sex. Thing
Probably the same reason why most of you don't even like each other...
I mean not usually romantic interest, usually a physical interest lmao
I do. Most of my friends are female, and I don't view them in any sexual or romantic way.
i want friends but iam way to open about the subject of sex and it ruins me
I was and am 'just friends' with several girls and adult women.
Because you can't go through life saying you have "just friends"
You'll sound stupid
YOU HAVE BOYFRIENDS
You're mistaken. Some guys do.
Why don't girls want to be "just friends"?
Guys have really nothing in common with women.
Not all guys are like that
Because there is nothing in it for us.