Why would a friend who cut you off try to come back into your life?

[Anonymous]

I was friends with this girl for a few years, and the last time I saw her (a year ago), we just went out for dinner, and we had fun. Nothing bad happened. A few weeks later it was her birthday, so I texted her, and she ignored me. I waited a few weeks and texted again to see if she was okay, and she ignored me again. Yesterday (after one year), she texted me to invite me to an event, like nothing happened. She didn't apologise for ghosting me for a year, or even explain why. She just acted like nothing happened. Why would someone cut you off for no reason; then just come back?

[LaBokaChula]

I wouldn't trust it... It sounds like she just wants you to there to "prove" something.. Her ignoring your texts should tell you enough about her and that situation. If she wanted to talk to you, she would've.. Maybe you said something in the past that offended her or it could've been someone else who's said something about you and it kind of offended her. I've had a situation like this happen, it's not worth the risks of holding on to her. You want someone in your life who values you and your friendship, not someone who sees you like an asset. Her not apologizing also shows that she has no respect for you or that friendship and she's avoiding accountability, she probably feels like she did no wrong. Have you thought about asking her why she ghosted you and is popping back up? I would ask her.

[Cynicaldreamer]

That's not a friend; you realize that right?

As for why? I've had "friends" like that- they disappear or cut you off, then reappear as if nothing happened. I call those kind of people "fairweather" friends- they just use you or want you around when it's convenient for them. Yet when you need them, they're too busy or nowhere to be found.

She probably realized how much she missed you, or she is lonely and looked you up, hoping you could go back to how things used to be. Or she made a new friend, they didn't work out, and now she's back to you... kind of like when you get ghosted in terms of dating: she realized the grass wasn't greener on the other side, so now she came back to you.

Honestly, I wouldn't even deal with her. Because there's a chance she might do it again down the road.

[jennifer_bloom]

It’s possible she did not want you at her birthday party because because she wanted to separate her friend groups from knowing one another. I had a best friend I saw 3 times a week and I was never invited to her birthday parties, she reserved those for her high school friends who were 3 years younger then me.

[Mmmariax]

I would ask her and let her know you are there for her. Maybe she was going through something difficult and didn’t want to be a problem or didn’t have the energy to maintain relationships. Some people can’t help being a bit off socially so even if she can’t understand the reason I would just let it go if I enjoyed being friends.

[Marklaw12]

Cos he or she misses your presence.

Maybe you were too nice and you became overbearing

Or you hit the nail on the head and he or she couldn't take it but finally realising you were right the whole time.

If he or she wasn't a pest, it's fine to take them back but if you don't need them in your life. Make sure you stick to your guns

[peedy]

Because time heals all wounds once a friend always a friend. there must have been a reason why you were friends to begin with, just because you had a fight or just grew apart doesn't mean that they dont like you or dont want you around people grow and change but they still want to hold on to the best things in their lives and if they truly care will want to fix things make right what they made wrong

[teamvic]

She probably didn't wanna be your friend and then when she realized she didn't have anyone anymore or the friends she left you for didn't work out she figured she could just go back to being yo friend

[Summeroflove]

Tell her. Why? You have ignored me and if you had a problem with me you should have told me. You ghosted me. You hurt me. You obviously have moved on with your life and so have I. BLOCKED

[Guy13]

I would not wonder but woukd sit down and go like, “what have you been doing since the last time I saw you.” Do NOT bring up specific time/example.
Be gracious and kind but move slowly.

[Paris13]

Maybe she Expected a Birthday Gift instead of a Text message. I would Never Trust her Again to Ghost you Again. xx

[FreyaRed]

You shouldn't call her a friend at least for yourself, because she isn't one.

[AsaKyo]

They have no one else to talk to, so they have to go back to their roots

I wouldn't pay them any mind

[In_Trance]

Because they're bored and see you as an easy target to smash

[Nominal]

She got a task from a somebody, to invite people to The event. XD

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe she got busy

[TrueConfection]

To use you.

[Anonymous]

They want a second chance?