Is it normal to be sad after your birthday?

[petitedollbabee]

The day after my 20th and 21st birthdays, I cried a lot and struggled with my depression. I hoped that this year would be different, but again, today (the day after my birthday) I woke up and cried. I don’t know why.

Nothing has happened around my birthdays to make me upset, I have no bad memories with my birthdays, but starting with my 20th birthday, I get so upset the next day and I can’t understand why. There’s no obvious reason.

Does anyone else deal with this? Do you know what causes it for you?

[Leapfrog00]

Birthdays can be really depressing if you have depression. I live in a new town, and I don't know anyone here, and I was alone on my last birthday. I've been diagnosed with a major depressive disorder, a severe panic disorder, social anxiety, and a cute anxiety. What I do for my depression is write. I've written 7 novels this past year, 4 that are part of a serious.

Writing has helped me a lot. Even the characters, I give them all my emptions, and make them the people I always wanted to be, courageous, outgoing, sociable, and plus, it's an escape from the real world.

Try taking up writing. You don't have to be a great writer because over time you'll get good at it, but even if you don't want to write short stories or novels, journaling is a good venting system. If you write everything down in a journal that's bother you, and write all your feelings down, it will get some of the sadness out. Crying for no reason is usually a sign of major depression. You may need to go on an anti-depressant, but for the time being, do some journalling. Get 2 journals, one for the day and one for night.

In the day journal, write down how you're feeling, what you're thinking, everything that's bothering you, anything really, and the nighttime journal, write down everything that happened that day and everything that's bothering you, and how it made you feel. This will make you sleep better. Trust me!

[petitedollbabee]

I manage my depression usually with painting and other coping mechanisms, it’s just the day after my birthday that’s it’s become a struggle and I haven’t been able to figure out why. Thank you for your advice though.

[menina]

I used to feel that way when I was younger. It was because I was comparing myself to other girls my age. I couldn't stop thinking about everything I didn't have and everything I didn't do that year.

But now that I'm older, I no longer feel that way. I'm grateful for what I have. I'm going to work to get what I want. And I'm avoiding comparing myself to other women.

I'm not saying that's your case. That's just my story.

Perhaps you regret something you did or something you didn't do. Maybe you want something for your life and you're not getting it or you don't know how to get it.

So, I would say that you should find a therapist.

[petitedollbabee]

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. What you’ve said resonates with me. I feel depressed around my birthday because I feel like I’m missing out on things, things that other women my age are doing. But at the same time, the things that they’re doing aren’t things that I want to do. Yet I still feel like I’m missing out. It’s confusing to feel this way. I do have a therapist that I’ve been seeing for 7 years, but she’s currently on holiday overseas and won’t be back for another 8 months. So I’m trying to manage my mental health while she’s gone.

[menina]

I totally understand how you feel. It's hard to deal with this feeling. And you're right, it's also confusing. I'm sorry to hear that you're not able to see your therapist now.
One thing that helps me is forgiving myself and write down how I feel. It changes the way I see things. Maybe it would help you too.

[menina]

Thank you for the MHO.

Hope you're feeling better. 😊

[Anonymous]

Christian Domestic Discipline is a male led relationship where the Head of Household is in charge of the Taken in Hand partner. There are rules and consequences for the TIH and punishments for breaking rules range from spanking, corner time and lines. This differs from a BDSM relationship as the punishments are non sexual though sex often happens as a direct results of the punishment.

Christian Domestic Discline teaches a disobedient willful wife to respect her husband, learn submission to her husband, respect herself, her family and live a happy Christian way.

Respect and Submission are of particular importance in a marriage because the standard marriage vows for the bride always included the phrase “to love, honor and obey” her husband.

Many women will admit, if only to themselves, that when spanked to tears they feel relief and love, knowing that their HOH is willing and strong enough to hold them accountable for their actions. When a woman admits this she is also admitting that she respects her HOH, and his decisions, that when she is punished it is never out of anger but out of love and the responsibility that her HOH is in charge. Some women will start to cry even before the spanking begins, because she realizes that she is to be punished and is sorry for her actions and the pain that is sure to follow. When a woman just starts to cry when spanked doesn’t mean to stop because you see tears, you would not stop baking a cake when it starts to rise, No this means that the spanking is starting to have the desired effect providing the disciplinary value and corrective behavior that she needs.

[Opinion Owner]

All women are not the same, some women can take a lot while others will cry with hardly an effort.
Christian Domestic Discipline. The key to a happy marriage
Remember that she is not in charge but the man is, and with him lies the amount of discipline that will be effected upon her bare backside, if the man allows his wife to stop the spanking he is not in charge and the respect she desires and needs will be lost, make sure to follow through giving her a painful enough spanking to bring her tears and allow them to flow freely, she will remember that you are the HOH.
Tears allow her feminine side to come out and breaks down her resistance, shame from being in a vulnerable position, naked over her HOH’s lap, being soundly spanked. It is vital to continue the spanking when you notice her tears, and not to stop before the punishment has the desired effect.
Christian Domestic Discipline. The key to a happy marriage
Remember that the spanking is part of her submission and when she submits to such an obviously painful and humbling experience she will behave better and you will see a that her attitude towards you as her HOH is greatly improved, not because she is fearful of the spanking but out of respect and the knowledge that you will protect her at all times even from herself and her actions.

[Opinion Owner]

What are some examples of domestic discipline rules? Well various couples have their own rules that generally centre around honor and obey as well as other Christian martial values.

Her Rules

1. Not to be late. not late for dates. not late to Work, not late to Church, not late to Dr appointments

2. Don’t cause our checking account to be overdrawn (one spank per dollar charged to us)

3. Spending limits (not more than 200.00 without discussing it with him. or 300 dollars in day (except at Christmas time)). Definitely no running up debts.

4. No cussing in front of children

5. No yelling at her husband.

6. No nagging, no bitching.

7. keeping promises to him or other people.

8. No lying. Including lies of omission (example not telling him she got a speeding ticket, to avoid a spanking)

9. If out with girl friends, be home by 10:00 or call him.

10. Don’t break traffic laws or any other law. (Including God’s laws (ten Commandments, plus))

11. Accepting her punishment without a fuss, cooperating with my spanking

12. No spanking of the children without a warning or breaking a standing rule for them. (Don’t spank while mad)

13. Never be intimate with other men including sex, flirting, sexting etc

14. Be respectful of all people, most of all her husband.

15. Go to Church every Sunday (Church and Sunday School)

16. Dress modest yet attractively everyday

17. Workout 3 times per week.

18 cook healthy meals

19. Do the housework

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think there is something missing from our lives that causes this to happen to us for example when check day comes for me and I know I have all of these bills to pay on it makes me sad, and I shake all over with severe anxiety you see my cousin lives here to, and she has all of this money coming in, but she refuses to pay so many bills I wish God would send a 21-35 year old woman into my life and I would go halves on the bills and I don't care about size, weight, height, race, religion, etc. Yes, it's a rough road and yes my birthday is no longer happy, I miss my mom she passed away 11/10/2003 Happy Birthday Honey !!!

[petitedollbabee]

Thank you 🫶🏻

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@petitedollbabee You're Welcome :)

[Emyyyy]

I think it because you compare yourself to others. Try to focus on you. Never compare yourself. Instead try to travel somewhere for the birthday instead of lightning up candles. Everyone your age is aging WITH YOU. People younger than you are AGING too. Nobody gets to stay young forever. Absolutely fucking nobody. Both men and women hit the walls after 30-35. At 40 women risk infertility. And men get ED (erectile dysfunction). Don’t even worry about anyone being better than anyone. EVERYONE grows old and EVERYONE hits the wall.

Try to enjoy life a little more. Try talking to people more and making more friends. Try to reconnect with old ones.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re grieving the perceived loss of your youth, despite still being young. Most people consider their 20’s to be the last decade to be called “young” and a lot of newer generations struggle as they come into the adult world and have to face new responsibilities and challenged to encourage your independence. It’s normal, and there’s nothing wrong with taking time to cry over who you used to be and how you want to go back there, I’ve been there too (and I might be projecting, this could all be bullshit) but getting older isn’t so terrible once you cross those hurdles of dealing with the new and scary for the first time. Once you get into a routine, it’s a lot easier to approach things with the mindset that everything will be okay.

[4ngelic]

i'm the exact same. every year i get sadder and sadder at each one and the time i take to stop feeling depressed and accept my new 'age' takes longer. like when i was 20 i was sad for a couple days, 21 a whole week and last bday which was almost 9 months ago.. still not over it lol.. 23 will be even worse x (

[4ngelic]

for me its just i'm really scared of aging and not being young anymore, that's why it upsets me like that

[Rei13]

I would say yes. You’re getting older and that is scary. I think my 29th and 30th were the roughest for me because I was saying goodbye to my twenties. I’m honestly happier in my thirties than I was when I was younger but there is still melancholy in it as I lose my youth.

[Sour-rose]

I don't know anytime where it's not normal to be sad. On the toilet. Getting dick. Taking the hotdog from the vendor. And yeah, ya birthday is one. It only means something is wrong or dull, can't stop what you feel. <3

[lightbulb27]

I've been sad before but not then.

Something is wrong inside. You are regretting something and not letting go? you may have to dig into your past.

[Wonderingguyy]

I’ve felt like this around my birthday pretty much every year except this year. It’s depressing especially if you haven’t gotten anything you want from life yet and you keep getting older, that what I used to struggle with

[Unit1]

It happened to me ON the birthday and more than once.

I'm used to it now and it doesn't really phase me anymore.

My life is a huge mess and I'm cleaning it up from below the ground up.

[Huntingnfishin]

Birthday's only get more depressing as you get older in my experience! Kind of sad to think of another year gone to me. I reflect on fond memories of the past that I know I'll never get back. Hey now you've got me bummed!

[Staximus]

You're young, you have plenty of time to do all the stuff you didn't do last year or in life or whatever. If you didn't ruin your life last year, then celebrate another year of life because it's better than being dead

[leahzrc]

I am your age. I know how you feel. Childhood is gone. We are women now. The world is coming to end it seems and nobody knows how or why.

[AliceGregory]

Between 24 and 32 I felt that way but since then I didn't really feel that way. Although I was a little shaken up about recently turning 40 :S

[sheenagwapa]

no... i lam 38 and lookinh younger ad ever unlike some i secure shit who tolerate nasty people because they are afraid to be alone. i am alone but not lonely and i don't tolerate shitty people especially if they don't hold any value in my life

[Mansearching]

Here in last few years, they've just become just another day.

[Andres77]

My 20th was also my heaviest one. I wasn’t a kid anymore and my life was not awesome yet. I was working night shifts. Alone all the time. Sleeping during the day. 30th was my best and most fun. The rest just blurred together

[Alex8736]

Could always be worse. I look at each birthday grateful to be alive to see it

[slatyb]

It's common enough. Have you considered seeing a counselor? What are you doing with your life? What do you want to do?

[Grovermint]

Well, if you're depressed, it's perfectly normal. I don't hold any date at all with any significance. If I didn't have people in my life that celebrated their holidays and birthdays, I wouldn't card what day it was.