Is it strange to have no friends in your early 20’s?

[petitedollbabee]

Would you think someone was weird if they had no friends in their 20’s? Does it make a difference if it’s by choice or not by choice?

[JoePro_]

Yes and no. Maybe? Did you have any friends in high school? If not, then no. If yes, did you not stay in touch with them? But really, people start living different lives after high school. It's not uncommon to lose touch with people and start forming new friends groups. But friends don't just "happen". Like with romantic relationships, you need to put in a little effort, first in finding where potential friends might be, then in building a relationship until you start getting invited places to hang with them.

[Hansomedevil69]

Nope not at all most people I’ve found not worth being friends with. They are only concerned with using you as their next stepping stone. Or if they ca somehow benefit from your suffering.

[Overthinker_me]

Actually, it depends on the reason. In my opinion, it's not that weird because the reason might be that you haven't found the people you vibe with.

And if it's not by your choice, then it could mean that you haven't had the chance to meet up with people.( like if you were busy with your life you couldn't put energy in meeting new people and making friends.)

[IslaTheWitch]

we need to belong to some group... so if you neglect your one of basic needs... I would say it's something to work on. Unsatisfied needs have a bad habit of reminding themselves in the worst possible moment...

[rosemilk]

with how today is, i think that's normal

[Unit1]

It is super common. I spoke with medics during my multiple hospital visits, some of which asked me for a "contact person" or "companion person" before surgery or internal body investigation. Since I live alone and cut off my toxic degenerate family entirely (and am far away from them too) I am one of those, who they see have no one to enter any data for that matter. Some reactions included "yeah, that is pretty common. even in a big city like ours. i see many people not having anybody" and one particular nurse, that visibly felt pretty bad for me.

[molonski2]

Depends where you live , your reasons , for example what is the point of having 100 hangers on and say.. Hey friends? They are not friends , you may be selective , that's a good thing , many people don't have " friends " , they call every acquaintance they know from some bar , look at " my friends " , these are not friends.

Not even remotely weird and more common than you think.

[Wetdreamz]

Smart if you are a guy. They mostly just get in the way of you accomplishing what you need to do at the time they really should be focusing on doing what's necessary to put then on the path to success.

Life is immensely easier if work ridiculously hard for a few years and are already seddled into your work, body, and investments.

You either work hard when your young and for your job, you shower before you go to work.

Or you break your back every day foe your job and shower when you get off work

You do have to worry about carpletunnel though in your STEM based career

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Yes, it is strange to have no friends in your early 20s-and at any age for that matter.

For me, I do think it's weird, but certainly not bad at all.

I do think there is a difference if it's choice vs no choice.

[BCRanger10]

Unfortunately, no. From what I've seen, it seems to be more and more common now than in the past.

[monorprise]

Lots of people have no friends. Its a normal personality type known as a loner or introvert.

Today however its hard to make friends with social media and most people never going out.

[butterly248]

Not weird as I'm there rn lol. Lonely sometimes but rn for me it's the best maybe

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Nope, not weird, I had no friends in my early 20s but of course I was battling mental illness.

[Nikki1989]

Not surprising these days with all the insecurities people bring onto themselves.

[CoolCatMar1]

Exactly People can be jealous

[shafiya]

No it’s definitely not strange. Well it’s good to socialise but if you don’t want to than you don’t have to.

[FreyaRed]

I have "friends" but I don't think among them are real friends. Somehow real friendship died for me several years before love died

[ChocolatePikachu95]

Most my childhood friends turn into bullies, I had one friend spread a nude picture of me around the school, I had another cut my pubes off and put in my sandwich. My best friend kept poking things up my vagina during my period.

[patrick994]

It depends on many factors, in principle it is uncommon, but not strange.

[Avicenna]

Not if it's temporary. You're going through big life changes.

[FunkyMonkee]

Not for me! I've had almost no friends my entire life!

[Alex-Snow]

True friends may be hard to come by. Give things time

[Kelly6]

@petitedollbabee it is strange but it’s not weird at all

[Nahid1707]

No because true friends are hard to find; you know?

[NathanDavis]

it would seem unusual to me

[butterly248]

My mental health has cut off all my contact with friends and I can't make new ones. I'm not even great at making them online lol