She texts me and acts interested? Then a day later she ignores me. I don't get it.

The other day I met a really cute girl and gave her my number.

Later in the day she texted me and we ended up talking for a few hours and I could definitely sense that she was interested (which is strange considering I am bad at reading these signs).

Yesterday I texted her and she never got back to me. I didn't want to be annoying or anything so I didn't text her again.

I did, however, call her and her phone was off cause it went straight to voice mail. so I'm thinking "OK...well she never got my text."

Anyway, I called her earlier today and it rang a few times before I got her voice mail (we planned on hanging out today).

Since her phone was on now I figure I'd leave a voicemail.

I haven't heard back from her.

I don't understand it: why do you text a guy one day and then just go missing in action the next day? I didn't have her number in the first place so it was her choice to speak with me.

I'm just a bit confused.

Right now I'm not gonna call or text cause I don't want to be annoying, but I'm not sure what's up.

Any ideas?


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  • Well, first, girls are insane. Period. They enjoy doing these little games...evil...

    Second, as a girl who doesn't want all the other girls here attacking me, I can say that she probably doesn't know what she wants yet, or she just tries to play it hard to get.

    Don't call her again and wait for her to reach out for you. If she doesn't in the next 2-3 days, know that she's not serious and even if she does call, just let it go...she's going to play like that all the time. If she does call, just try to ignore what happened and set a date :)


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What Girls Said 6

  • I don`t really know. You never know what other people are thinking unless they tell you.

    Maybe she just got super busy for a little while- after all, this only spans over a few days. She might call you in two seconds, for all we know.

    I never text, so maybe I don`t know the protocol. But I think you should wait a few more days before jumping to conclusions.

    Maybe just try texting once a day or once every couple of days, just hi, and see what happens. Then if after a few days she still doesn`t respond, I would assume that she isn`t interested. But, still, you never know what is going on with other people.

  • shes probably ignoring you because people tell girls that if you ignore a guy he'll like you more. Either that, or she doesn't want you to think she's desperate since she's the one who asked for your number.

    Dont call/text her until she gets back to you. let her know that you were kind of annoyed that she blew you off, but don't come off strong or she'll prob act like she didn't do anything wrong and that your over reacting.

    watch out for this girl, depending on her reason for not answering the phone, she could be into playing games

    • How can I like someone more if they ignore me?

      that's weird.

    • Haha I know, but that's what the magazines try to tell us. I always ignored it because it makes no since to me

  • it sounds like she is busy...give her a little more time and if she comes back then that's a good sign. just be patient...and with her acting interested she also could be trying to be nice even if you do get the signals that she IS flirting with out a doubt. don't stress too much about it

    • But ... I gave her my was her choice to contact me.

      she didn't have to text me.

      she would probably never see me again/talk to me if she didn't contact me.

      that's kind of why I'm confused.

      why does she contact me...if she is just trying to be nice about the whole thing?

  • well, its possible she planned somethign else with friends and didn't want to tell you to your face she's blowing you off so just ingnores you and goes on with her plans cause she would feel bad saying it to your face and its also possible she's playing hard to get or having problems with her phone, tryign talking to her in person and asking how her weekend was and stuff

    • Playing hard to get by ignoring me?

      that doesn't make me want to like someone more.

      it just makes me upset and mad.

  • she is either one of those girls who flirts with everybody, I hate girls like that. or its her way of saying okay it was just a one time thing, or leave me alone. it could be deeper. her phone could be dead, lost or broken.

  • maybe she found someone else. yeah its bitchy but you don't need that.


What Guys Said 2

  • This is typical. 72 hour rule. Go strict no contact. Attraction only grows in absence so if you really connected, the silence will backfire on her. What is driving you insane is that you think she is talking to other guys (and she is). She is also probably got another couple guys on the ignore list, just like you, at least one dude she is sleeping with and a lovestruck, drooling beta on the side she can cuddle and cry with. All of these idiots are also blowing her up. Except the dude she is banging. Girls like attention and they like using the illusion that they created a connection to keep you on thier list of maybes. You want to be the guy banging her and she cuddles with? Get your life in order and quit letting her play her lame attention games. You have to learn to be a dominant beta - Caring and sincere but also in charge of your own crap and happy to be single. Nothing drives a girl crazy like a guy who can walk in grab her interest and then brush her off like she doesn't matter. 72 hours, if she doesn't call find someone else. Be the one guy that isn't blowing her up, if you really had a connection she will start thinking about you all the time. Women are actually all insane and they have no clue what they are doing except they know you want what they have. What they are looking for you to do is take them by the hand and tell them what they want. Start by reading some romance novels- they suck but it will tell you all that you need to know about the disturbed illusions all women have in thier minds. Don't believe me? Go check how many copies of Literotica are selling on Amazon. Chances are 80% of the women you know are reading one on thier iPhones.

  • Same thing happened to me... everything was good, talked about seeing eachother on the weekend than she ignored me completely... I let it go a few days and texted her basically "hey, Im just seeing how things are going and why you're ignoring me, if you're not interested just let me know because I'd rather hear that than get the run around. Everything seemed good, this threw me for a loop. Hope to hear from you soon" something similar.

    Now I'm regretting that text an hour later because that sounded too needy, but I told my honest feelings. do I let her get back to me and say no more on my en Was that text too much? Or was that a decent approach?