I'm not afraid of rejection, I'm just afraid of being labeled a creep or stalker, how can I avoid this? (Page 2)
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Make friends.
Before you start approaching or whatever you plan to do, make some female friends honest enough to tell you when you're making them nervous. That's the problem that needs solving.
thats what I hate, guys have to have friends, have a social life in order to be boyfriend material, girls not so much
Nah, it's about the same. We like to know whether our partners are capable of relationships with other humans, or whether they're cavepeople.
but why is a guy's social value far more important than a girl's social value?
I wouldn't say our social value is lower, but in close quarters, men are a FAR greater threat to women than women are to men, so the smart girl is--and ought to be--warier of strange guys than guys are of strange girls.
yeah I hate how bitches have to be so damn paranoid
god I wish I knew, why does life have to be fair for women but not fair for men?
Life is not fair to anyone lol not just men...
i still think it is more fair to you girls
def if you live in the us
gosh your clueless! Girls don't have it easy at all! I mean of course I'm gonna start with that whole feminist crap We are the ones that go through child birth but anyway lol. I know it seems that guys have it worse but you have it worse on the outside but if you only knew what kind of emotional/self confidence crap we go through. I mean seriously there is a lot more going on then you can see on the outside
why do you girls make such a big deal about childbirth?
My advice dude is to keep a steady place...patients dude. Read a book.
become friends with the girl first before developing feelings for her. and just do friendly stuff, like invite her to a movie or whatever. Try not to follow her or do anything that would make her suspicious of you. good luck
you mean get friendzone'd. great advice...
great answer icaro, there is way to much of this "get yourself in the friend zone advice" where it doesn't belong but in fairness it depends how you go about it but still agree
I don't know how to become friends with a girl, and I even if I just try to become friends with her, I don't know to get labeld being a creeper or stalker again, easier said than done, I'm sorry but girls have to be completely straight-forward with me, or just make it extremely obvious that they are not interested, I wish girls would stop being so damn subtle
just say hi, get to know where she is from, about her hobbies and interest and stuff like that. See what her hopes and dreams are and where she would like to be in 5 years, and see if you guys can do something fun together some time. If you fall in love then you do, but if not then just be friends :) and she could possibly hook you up with her other friends if she thinks they might like you
just for the record, I was being sarcastic. seems it went over some people's heads...
all I'm good at when talking to girls is talking about simple basic stuff, asking questions like "Hi how's it going?", "how was your weekend?", "so are you going to school or working at the moment?" "what classes are you taking?", "what do you like doing for fun?", basic simple stuff like that
yeah I think I am the only one that caught your sarcasm
I find smiling and just adding on to what they say asking questions or jokes/teasing helps if you don't have much to say :p
I also have the same fear because I'm really socially akward
glad I'm not alone
I'm also not very expressive and my voice is kinda monotone so I have to use fake smiles a lot in social situation so I don't creep people out, which means I have to make excuses to smile because otherwise they might get creeped out by the random smiling, I know it creeps me out. although where I live (the us) its common in the suburbs (random smiling) it kinda sucks because I have a high social intelligence but in the end it count for nothing
btw learning game would be the best way to go because you would learn the psychology you need to know, like how not to come off creepy. you could even just learn the psychology and the actual gaming process or you could just not use the game itself. also you mentioned you only now how to ask boring questions that's called interviewing and part of game is learning how not to that. you could always open with a question to its super effective
I don't know, I wish I knew as well too, can somebody please answer this question for him?
If your afraid of being labled that make sure your not acting in such a way, that people would even think that you were.
well I don't know how
How do you not know how.
I just don't
It's impossible. If you talk to a girl that thinks you are unattractive, you will be instantly be labeled a creeper. IMHO, I think this word never existed, it's one of my least favorite words.
maybe your just really ugly
well glad to finally hear that answer, I hate how girls say or think that guys are more shallow, are all about looks, you girls are the same way
well your carrying on like a girl! you say your not afraid of being rejected but afraid your going to come on creepy just be yourself, she either likes you or not! if your thinking your being creepy then bACKOFF. JUST TLK TO A GIRL LIKE You WOULD WITH NE OF UR FRIENDS INSTEAD OF winging
gosh, it's like so many things turn you girls off
Lol I love how she insulted herself too. We'll your carrying on like a girl. I guess that means she thinks of herself and girls and subhuman way less than guys. Lol talk about low selfesteem.
Just don't creep...
ummmmmmmmmm easier said than done, what are the signs that a guy is being creepy? and every girl is different, every girl perceives, interprets what's creepy and what's not
Don't stalk girls, give them space, and stop worrying about it. Problem solved. If your so afraid of coming off like a creeper, then that fear is going to become a reality for you, so just let it go mahn.
what are obvious signs a girl is not welcoming my advances?
They are never obvious, women are crazy, don't you know!
u will just have to take your chances but learning sychology will help, one thing is to make sure you are showing emotion at least from time to time, even fake smile if you have just don't do it randomly, especially if you are in a city in the us.
Yeah, and it you learn how to spell psychology, you will be better off too...Haha
what are obvious signs besides the fact that she is not reciprocating, engaging in conversation? no eye contact?
Most woman seem to be differen't about it in my experience. If you talk to a girl a lot and you not sure if she is interested, just simply back off a little bit, try not to contact her as much, or even go no contact for up to 2-3 weeks and see if she tries to contact you. Do you have the feeling that when you meet someone and start to like them that you should just click and be together all the time right away if she feels the same about you?
and the list of things that turn girls off is much longer than the list of things that turn guys off
Seems like you've got your mind made up already, goodluck.
I'd read books