If you go alone to a bar how often have you experienced being approached and talked to or do people not do that anymore?

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I was bored as heck and a bit lonely. So I got dress up and went to a local bar.

I was hoping to have a good time and perhaps some good conversation. The most I have gotten was a compliment... Apparently I smell very good 😊 lol. A man I sat by who was with a woman gave me the compliment.

I have to say I am enjoying my time. The wine is sweet

and the music is good but conversation would be nice.

I was hopeful when a hottie fellow came in with a group of friends and made eye contact... Oh yes I could tell he liked what he saw... But I then caught a glance at the ring on his left hand and I turned away.

So I'm curious? Am I being old school? Do people not approach each others in bars anymore?

DenizLikesTennis · Accepted Answer

Ahahaha it's a hard one for me. I went to a bar by my own and haven't been approached. Well, as a guy it is completely different. However, I have been looked and stared at so many times like...

"whats with this dude sitting over there alone and enjoying his time, sometimes with the phone...

The Bartenders and hot waitresses would smile to me so often. They'd come to my table and ask if everything was all good.

I said: "Well yeah honey mmmmmhhh, it's been a strange weekend for me. Friends been busy. You know? Enjoy life and don't be stuck home."

She was impressed by me and said:

"Damn son😻 you look like a man you can handle himself... think you can, handle meee?😏"

The guests who were close to my table would stare and were like: "What the... actual hell? Is going on?".

I said to her: "oh yea sure we can exchange numbers and rearrange a date :)"

By the way, it is not what I thought when she was like this and what she actually meant.

"Silly.. I wanna whisper to your ear come closer".

Guests being paying soo much attention to us... even the people walking outside noticed it

She bent over and I have seen her Boobs by accident👀

(Whispers): "I wanna smash you sooo hard man!"

I said: "You are my man!!!"

She responded: "WHAT THE ACTUAL HECK? I AM A MAN? DAMN SON!! GOODBYE"

And there I was... left the bar with empty pockets and went to home without a single lady.

So I have opened my laptop, made coffee and played Runescape. I was doing some Woodcutting then Pvp Pking to forget that horrible event.

MrCommodore · Accepted Answer

Yes I have been approached a few times in the past 5-6 years while waiting to meet friends or colleagues, usually by women aged 22-25, who are too young or immature to date. It kind of surprised me how direct they were, I was really flattered to be approached by pretty/attractive girls, but I declined.

Dazed0N0Confused · Accepted Answer

All the fucking time! Not just at the bar! I'll be walking down the street & have a friendly chat, at the store, in the park, everywhere! I just have one of those faces that says "I'll talk to you, just start the conversation". Mainly, though, it's the older crowd ( 55yo) because they don't care, but I also get conversations from people my own age 😂

Emiliamazing · Accepted Answer

I’ve been approached, and it was not pleasant. I do have a wedding ring on, and I think sometimes individuals get the wrong impression. I hope you had fun on your evening out, being flirted with and having it be pleasant definitely depends on the crowd that you are around.

melanieeeB · Answer

Alone to a bar? Girl I wouldn't get out of getting approached and talked to. I was once left alone 5 years ago and I'm still traumatized haha Never go alone is my motto

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have been to a bar perhaps once or twice in the past 20 years, and that was in a group of couples, so I have no idea how those things work now.

NathanDavis · Answer

nowadays... no idea back in the days, it could be every time... lol but bars here, let's say they're more friendly, definitely more outgoing, yes... lol

FunkyMonkee · Answer

If I spend my time sitting alone and not doing anything, chances are, SOMEONE will come over and talk to me, at least for a few minutes, and then peel off and go back to what they were doing or find someone else to talk to. No idea why they won't stick around and converse with me or invite me to do something with them. I'm easily accessible and I DON'T bite (unless, of course, you ask me!).

kellytheman · Answer

As a guy have had a girl approach me once or twice and I have had my fair share also. I find it less and less at bars you might have to find a new place or special event to have be more willing to go up to someone and start a conversation. I think a lot like covid and sexual harassment had got a lot why this doesn't happen anymore

magiusX26 · Answer

i never was big into going to the bar to begin with but these last couple of decades i stopped completely except as a designated driver/sober ride and that group hasn't been around each other since 2008/09. last time i drank at a bar was 1999. i dont really even drink anymore though either. since 1999, have only drank maybe 4 or 5 times. there is also the i gave up on anything to do with dating as a factor too.

Th3ft · Answer

I mean I don’t often go to bars myself but you look amazing and I am shocked that you didn’t get a conversation. Maybe they just didn’t want to disturb the new girl?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Never been to a bar in all my life, by the way you look good in the photo. Enjoy your night. 😀

ShellyB · Answer

I get approached in bars pretty much every time, I wonder if it might be the type of bar or the time of day or something? Your pic is sexy so that is not it!! JMO

mandyfire98 · Answer

I never go alone but in college going to the bars and clubs I got approached a lot. I still go to the club on a few occasions with friends to have fun and dance and I'll get approached.

weysally · Answer

usually at the start they hold back, but later on the drink gives them confidence and some make a move, but it's too late, by then other friends have join me

lancecantee · Answer

Get approached many times, 30-50% of outings, happily apprroach others if I find someone of interest.

Still-alive · Answer

i was actually approached but not at any bars lol. have fun on me miss! *raises imaginary glass to you*

Levin · Answer

I generally don't get approached, but I understanding, Unless i'm missing something, that it's not customary for women to approach men.

KittyBox · Answer

I've developed this amazing habit of acting like i'm a mute, even going so far as to use sign language or written notes to prevent advances, it usually works too.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I’ve been out to bars in groups. Did you have good conversations?

MCheetah · Answer

That only happens to attractive women. No one else.

macjets007 · Answer

They do, just at a lower rate then they used to. A lot of dudes rely on the dating apps and forgot how to talk to people. Same thing with a lot of women!

HaveNoName · Answer

As I don't drink, I have never been to a bar. I once went in a foreign country to have a cup of coffee and i felt and looked odd as shit and walked out.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Normally happens later in the night people get few drinks in get duch courage to approach

If you go alone to a bar how often have you experienced being approached and talked to or do people not do that anymore?

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