Girls, what are your feelings about rejecting a DECENT guy? (Page 2)
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i feel extremely uncomfortable, because if he was decent and I would normally not reject him, I feel guilty for rejecting him. I always feel mean when I do, because what if it were me?
Do you give him a reason for rejecting him.
Yes I try to! But once my reason was just that I wasn't attracted to him and really just didn't like him (even I don't really know why!) and I just felt mean telling him that it just wasn't working out ya know?
@xoxo98 Why should you feel bad? You gave him a genuine explanation
Well I don't think a decent guy would walk up to a woman he does not know and ask for a kiss. If a guy comes up and asks me out, if he is a nice guy, I don't feel good about rejecting him, but I'm not going to lead him on and I'm not going to go out with a guy if I'm not interested in him.
Would you give a reason for saying no?
it's super uncomfortable for me to reject guys no matter they are weirdos or populars...to say NO sometimes is harder than saying YES...
What makes it uncomfortable?
I feel really uncomfortable. But if I have no emotions and I don't find him sexually atreacive. I have to go away! There are bad feelings but when you are dating a guy you don't find sexy it can feel like raping. And that's not the point.
So your reason for rejecting the guy would be based on the level of sexual attraction?
I honestly don't feel bad when this happens. Kind of used to it and hey I'm probably doing them a favour.
Why do you say doing them a favor?
I don't reject people without a good explanation. I know how it feels and always care to soften it..
I feel not comfortable about it.
What kind of reason would you give if you're just not interested?
Ok, my previous guy was a really nice and kind person. I said directly that I'm looking for a serious relationship that may give me a stability and lead to a marriage. I'm not interested in having fun only, and the guy should be my level of education, understand my life style and my culture. We were very different and it was very obvious we won't last long. We are friends now and all is alright.
@Fishka Good
I feel uncomfortable because I just feel bad when someone puts themselves out there and I turn them down
You mean they made themselves "vulnerable" (took a chance) and saying no to someone who took the risk makes you uncomfortable. Correct?
yea haha, I just hate making people feel bad
Also do you give the guy a reason?
Yes, normally I would
@tierra You're a good person
I'm a little confused. If I though he was a decent guy, then why would I reject him?
You might reject him for many reasons -- different interests, you just got out of a relationship and not ready for a new one, no real spark, political differences, life situation (new job) is changing and about 1,000 other reasons.
Well if its for a legitimate reason then I may feel a little uncomfortable for him because its never easy approaching someone and then getting rejected is embarrassing. But I would be comfortable with my decision and probably a little annoyed that circumstances dictate it can't happen, but such is life
Would you tell him why you are rejecting him?
Yes like I said straight forward, if its a legitimate reason he'll understand and if not he's not the type of guy I'd want to be with
your just a bitch not sure how else to put it you got your standards up too high or your into someone else idk
i meant she not you
I feel uncomfortable/slightly awkward because I don't like hurting anyone feelings.
I don't like making people feel sad because then I get sadD:
well as to me,I feel quite comfortable. if the guy just can't turn me on,I'll say no,I won't obey my heart just because you are a decent guy.but I will reject the guy decently.
Does that mean you will give him a reason as to why you are rejecting him?
3 Uncomfortable, I hate it when I meet decent guys and there's just no spark or chemistry.
Would you give him a reason?
I'm always uncomfortable when I reject someone, unless he's a creep/a**hole.
Do you give them a reason for rejecting them?
Sometimes, sometimes not. If he asks me out and I reject him right away, I sometimes don't. If we've been talking a while or been on a date, generally I'll feel that I should.
So if you reject him right away, you would say no or no thank you or thanks for asking but I prefer not to. But no reason.
Occasionally. Explaining to a stranger why you don't want to go out with him is often complex and has much to do with you. It's too private and intimate to tell a stranger, who, really has no right to know just because he thought you were attractive. That doesn't entitle someone to your private thoughts.
Guys who are rejected, as with girls, should get reasons why they are rejected, if they are not being creepy. It's not only your thoughts because it involves them not just you and it can cause the person a lot of sadness, if they were being their true selves.
It’s putting too much pressure if you don’t even know the person. You aren’t sad about them, you’re sad about the hope you had.
Its probably because I mgiht feel uncomfortable, or because I feel like he would tell everyone everything we do.
If they click they click if not then so what-you could not think of a better question to feature?
I'd be slightly awkward just because it's a good guy and not an a**hole.
They just move on and stop thinking about it