Lately, my boyfriend has been staring at me more and more and complimenting me on my looks. I know a lot of girls like that but I do not! It makes me more and more insecure. All I'm thinking on the inside is, "one day you'll wake up and no longer be able to say that." Or worse I feel like he isn't seeing me for what I really look like. I don't feel pretty and it just makes me feel like I'm somehow a liar when people call me that. I can bear him saying that once or twice a week but every day?
I know girls will say oh I'm spoiled in the relationship but I just don't like that sort of thing! He doesn't realize I'd rather be called smart, funny, witty, talented, etc. Something that is viable. Something that I did myself. My looks are not my own, I take care of what my parents gave me and that is all. I don't like being complimented on it and I can't talk to him about it because when I tell him something he does doesn't work for me he broods about it for days and days because he is mad at himself for not being the best. I don't want him to feel that way but the more he compliments me the more I gain weight becauseI really want the compliments to stop.
Please don't make fun of me. I guess something is wrong in my mind because I act like this. I just don't want to disappoint when I grow old. I want him to see only my inner beauty.
IDK maybe its because I went through a really bad ugly duckling phase and was tormented and even beaten for being ugly and fat. Now I'm okay looking and I can't stand anyone talking about my looks. Its a lie I feel like I'm lying to them and it makes me sick. I don't know how to get over this, please help!
I know girls will say oh I'm spoiled in the relationship but I just don't like that sort of thing! He doesn't realize I'd rather be called smart, funny, witty, talented, etc. Something that is viable. Something that I did myself. My looks are not my own, I take care of what my parents gave me and that is all. I don't like being complimented on it and I can't talk to him about it because when I tell him something he does doesn't work for me he broods about it for days and days because he is mad at himself for not being the best. I don't want him to feel that way but the more he compliments me the more I gain weight becauseI really want the compliments to stop.
Please don't make fun of me. I guess something is wrong in my mind because I act like this. I just don't want to disappoint when I grow old. I want him to see only my inner beauty.
IDK maybe its because I went through a really bad ugly duckling phase and was tormented and even beaten for being ugly and fat. Now I'm okay looking and I can't stand anyone talking about my looks. Its a lie I feel like I'm lying to them and it makes me sick. I don't know how to get over this, please help!
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