Why is she acting like this? She made it clear she wasn't interested?

[Anonymous]

I had gone out on a date with a coworker last year. It was ok, I was mildly interested in her. It was a strange date because she had me meet her parents and she talked about her ex, a lot.
She said she was interested in going out again, but wouldn't set a date after I asked a few times, so I stopped trying. I didn't reach out to her after she left me on read about something. So I called it quits.

It's been at least 6 months since that date and she's been hot and cold and acts like she's into me. But made a comment to me that I don't text her anymore. She was mad about it and made several comments about it to me. But I didn't engage, I didn't care.

But she's making it awkward now, and I've already deleted her number, and blocked her on social media. I would have thought she would have taken a hint I didn't care anymore.

[OlderAndWiser]

She wants what she wants when she wants it. Quite simple. Why don't you get it?

Avoid her!!!

[Asker]

I just don't understand why she can't just leave it alone

[OlderAndWiser]

Some people don't want to accept that they can't have something. Tell them a certain thing is off limits and they will start devoting their life to getting it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Your first mistake was "date with a coworker".

She sounds like a nut case, hard pass.

[Anonymous]

Seems like you do still care but she sounds toxic you don’t want that shit long term

[Asker]

I don't. I've been talking and seeing someone else. But this is just becoming really awkward and when she made the comments it made a scene. It was embarrassing

[Opinion Owner]

She needs some serious boundaries set on her

[Asker]

Yeah, I'm just not sure what to do. She knows I'm seeing someone.

[Opinion Owner]

Continue to not engage with her no matter how big a scene she makes and if she crosses a line file harassment charges

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe consider just sending one last message along the lines of “I am not interested please do not contact me again” and then if she persists that’s a case for harassment

[Asker]

I've been doing my best. I usually avoid her work area. But she has come searching for me if she knows I'm in the building. It was weird.

I already had a conversation with her manager to lay down what's happening. Cause I'm not trying to get in trouble or have this turned on me.

I can't anyway, she changed her number. I've said I wasn't interested in talking about anything non work related. I even said phones work both ways, she chose to not respond and she had the same power to message me, so her complaint of me texting her was irrelevant

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a shitty situation, good idea getting the manager involved keep stuff in writing as much as possible even email your manager in case you should ever need that evidence. Hopefully for your sake it just peters out

[Asker]

Yeah, I still have a copy of our messages in case things do go south and I won't be alone with her.

I had a girl file false allegations against me years ago, she got fired, but it never isn't making me scared. I didn't ask her out because of this, she got fired of waiting and asked me out.

My manager was already aware of it. He thinks I have nothing to worry about.

[Anonymous]

Maybe just tell her to back of if she's not taking the hints