It's funny, I'm talking to an inexperienced girl like you. And she's so hung up about it that she dished about her previous experience super early.
I'd say it can be an issue if you're deeply insecure about it, if it's an issue and you feel really weighed down by it. But from my perspective, it's not that I would feel differently, it's more that I would respond to her issues and I wouldn't find that attractive.
Like, I have my own issues, and I don't want to be compared to past boyfriends, or I don't want a girl projecting on me past patterns of behavior that I had nothing to do with. I want to have fun and get to know somebody, and dealing with baggage is not exactly my idea of a fun dating experience.
If you held him at arm's length, then well, you really shot yourself in the foot, and I can understand why that wouldn't be something that most guys are gonna be into.
If you want to date, you have to put yourself out there. And that doesn't mean spilling the beans on all your baggage, and spotting lighting all your red flags on the first date. It means being willing to do your best and be as optimistic as you can, to really try to be your best self and to be an entertaining date.
You can worry about your personal truth later, be charming at first, okay?
And as for being inexperienced and awkward or whatever, that's totally okay and not nearly as big a deal as you might thing it is. Just don't talk about it too much, try to have a good time. Most people will excuse a little bit of craziness. It's only when people double down on their craziness and refuse to step out of their comforting dysfunctional patterns of behavior that other people get annoyed.
Don't be trouble. Be brilliant!
That's, like, a huge relief. Same if she's a virgin. Same if she hasn't left her hometown or something. Those kinds of things aren't really red flags to me. Hell, I would feel a little honored to get to be with her while she experiences these things for the first time. It's like, I'd get to experience things with fresh eyes again, because I often feel others' experiences more than my own. That sounds amazing.
I do hope you find a guy who appreciates this for what it is. I'm sick of people who are jaded and take things for granted. Like the thing I worry about with my own somewhat lack of experience is "I've played in Christian Grey's basement. Your excitement at holding hands is pathetic." Like no. Holding hands will always be exciting to me.
But I'm probably more likely to experience that as a guy, since girls are always going to expect me to be more experienced in everything than she is, while expecting me to be no older than her, and thus had only the same amount of time to experience these things.
I don’t think most guys will care if you’re inexperienced
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Not at all. I enjoy planning dates and making sure my date has a good time. I don’t mind showing them the ropes because I genuinely enjoy guiding and leading. But, I also don’t date casually, so I only invest my time in someone that I see true long-term potential with.
The way I’ve dated is first to see if we have great chemistry. Then, if the attraction is there and I feel like there may be long-term potential I may start dating them. Then, I keep an eye out for red flags while I get to know them more.
There is a first time for everything. Personal preference: choose a date where you are doing something together, like amusement park or any sports club
Rather than talking awkwardly in a dinner date, playing badminton or any sport will lead to much more natural conversations
Some guys wouldn't know how to take it, but for me that would just take the pressure off. I don't have to compete against hypothetical former guys when it comes to doing things for you, meeting your parents and being compared to the ex, etc.
This would generally be a good thing, unless you were just kinda strange and cut off any guy who pursued you before anything could happen. I was talking to a girl a month ago who hadn't dated before, and she wouldn't agree to a date because of her anxiety, and eventually she deleted me from snapchat.
Im not saying that this is an excuse to date, but the only way that human beings gain dating experience is by dating. Not everyone has it. I think it's rude to judge your potential boyfriends like that. Of course, this is coming from me who had no romantic experiences through high school until I turned 18.
Would I feel pressured if my new girlfriend had no dating experience? No. In fact, I'd give her the best first date possible and encourage her that going out together isn't as scary as she thinks.
Not really but you’re really young so I don’t think you should personally worry. So many people start dating around your age so that’s kind of normal. Some start earlier than you but not everyone did. Just be yourself and understand you have something to offer anyone you’re interested in
Some guys might be nervous for that reason, but plenty of guys would be nervous even if you had an extensive dating history, because THEY don't have a huge dating history themselves. Really, I think YOUR lack of dating history is really only a tiny favor in the equation - HIS history and level of confidence is 100 times more likely to impact the date than yours is. Most of the pressure is on the guy, and some guys just don't handle that pressure as well as others.
Nope, I’d probably feel a bit relieved, if I started dating someone and they mentioned they’d been on hundreds of dates THATS when I’d get worried, how the hell am I gonna take her on a date she’ll remember then?
In all actuality it’s not a big deal and def not a red flag, they’ll probs ask and be curious why but I doubt they’ll care, everyone develops at their own pace and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Would be my 1st date kinda so would be in a same boat. But I feel like that would always be a pressure anyway just the fact of going on a date with someone.
No pressure, but I would try hard to make sure you had a good time.
Wouldn't want to make your first time dating a bad experience, whether we got along or not.
You got to start somewhere girl. And it does not matter. Life is going to add all kinds of extra drama if you compare people. So even if you dated 500 men, if you start comparing them to each other thats going to add drama.
Take each person, each moment as its own special thing.
I'd feel at ease. The more women experience dating the harder they are to please. You must be the very best at every single thing she has ever experienced in her life before having known you, or else you're not good enough. It's a war of attrition, and she will leave eventually, but you're better off being her first for most things than trying to compete with every single man she's ever been with.
Don’t be embarrassed, the guys are usually embarrassed because that don’t know what to do with you. What u like to do, where u like to go and don’t forget it needs to be romantic so I don’t think ur in a position to worry. Unless the guy u dating is careless and unprepared
No,
I think I’d be too critical to someone for not ever being on the dating science. I’d just take it real slow with the person especially if I liked them
Mine please?
Doesn’t seem to be as interested as I thought? ↗
I really would think nothing of it. To me it is just going out to eat and having some conversations. Or, to a movie and talk afterwards. A date is spending time with someone to find out what they are like. To get to know them. Sometimes that can take a little more time than wit others. That is okay though. People try to make dating more than what it needs to be.
no if she's pleasant to be with, who cares, probably better. Most everyone has "skeletons in the closet"... that's dating discovering each other.
stop making up things to worry about... focus about what you want.
I think most guys would agree that they have no issues dating a girl with no experience. If anything it's better in a sense because the girl isn't jaded from past relationships. I would say the only downside is that if it's their first time dating then they don't really know what the world has to offer in terms of what guys bring to the table
No, men won't be feel negatively towards you because of the lack of experience. As long as you're willing to try and not hold him back you'll be fine. I had my first girlfriend at 21, your age, I was her first boyfriend too at 20.
Don't be embarrassed, some of us didn't get everything we wanted, but that doesn't mean it's the end or too late to try.
I would feel a responsibility to do things right, be gentle, take it slow, etc. It would be a good reminder to me that I should treat every new relationship that way.
I'd be relieved, because same. If I wasn't, I don't think I would feel pressure, because there would be no real expectations from previous experiences.
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