Why does my Husband follow other women?

[Anonymous]

I know, not a unique question. But I can’t help but to ask. Let me explain. My husband will occasionally follow other women. I don’t know what to think about this because he says that it was an “accident” and that he didn’t mean to. It’s not like he is following multiple women at a time and when I ask him to remove them he does. I find it strange that this “accident” happens every once in awhile. Plus you think you would notice if you “accidentally “ follow them and unadd them right away. Another thing to mention is that he only “accidentally“ follows women.

[Paulalove98]

Have they followed him to begin with? I wouldn’t draw conclusions unless you’re seeing him exchange random messages with these women or his behavior and actions start to really go off then something is up. Now and then random accounts follow my fiancé and I ask him but I don’t jump to conclusion or I try my best not to till I ask him but if it makes him uncomfortable have a talk and bring it up about your concern and why he feels the need to follow them if he doesn’t know them in the first place?

[Asker]

He is always the one to follow them first. I’m perplexed at the idea of him claiming he accidentally followed them. Him “accidentally” following random women has happened multiple times. Thank you for your response.

[coffeeeholic]

I think that is not an accident. What kind of women did he follow?

[Asker]

He doesn’t follow the Instagram model type. Nothing with nudity or inappropriate content. Just average women.

[coffeeeholic]

That's weird I know some guys follow Ig models but I don't know why he follows just normal average women. Can you find if those women follow your husband back?

[Asker]

I don’t believe they are. They aren’t friends with him. He is the one that always follows them first.

[coffeeeholic]

how many times has this happened? And Did you ask him about this for many times or just one time?

[Asker]

Him following random women has happened multiple times. It’s not like this is a weekly occurrence. This will happen months at a time. I confront him all of the times he has done it but he keeps telling me it was an accident.

[coffeeeholic]

Do you believe it is an accident? I mean know him better than us so is he the one to do it?

[Asker]

I’m leaning towards the idea that it isn’t an accident. Yes it doesn’t happen very often but I do not trust him because of things he has done in the past. When I confront him about it to it’s like he gets upset.

[coffeeeholic]

What did he do in the past? watch his moves carefully

[Asker]

Infidelity. I’m not sure if he has been with anyone physically but I definitely caught him talking to other women on social media.

[coffeeeholic]

I don't want to upset you but I think he is doing the same thing. Why did you forgive him in the past?

[Asker]

I appreciate your honesty. I honestly couldn’t answer that appropriately. I guess I had hope that he would stop. But he obviously isn’t.

[coffeeeholic]

I hope it is not like that again but I probably it is I mean if someone cheated and then forgiven he will think that he will be forgiven forever and doesn’t care about his wifes emotions. If someone doesn’t care about your emotions you should do the same thing to him or maybe stay away from him just for a short time maybe couple days and you can tell him the problem then tell him you should stay away and think about this situation. Also, you can think properly when you are alone and when you leave him alone by himself then you will have put fear inside him

[Asker]

I have been gradually distancing myself. This is the last straw for me. It happens over and over again. It’s tiring and makes me feel bad about myself. I probably need a mental break to think just like you have suggested. I appreciate your answers and time put into my problem

[coffeeeholic]

You’re welcome. If you need any help or idea you you can also write for that. Don’t make upset yourself because of someone isn’t worth it

[coffeeeholic]

Thank you for the MHO😊

[boggboss]

Probobly to look at them an no it wouldn't be a accident

[boobliker]

like me he likes looking and looking ia OK

[Iron_Man]

Don’t allow that

[Anonymous]

He is a man, so it is to be expected.