Is it terrible of me that I have no respect for insecure people who get cosmetic surgery?

[Anonymous]

I grew up with insecurities, I have a few birth defects which are visible, I also have been ridiculed for my appearance throughout my teenage years and this affected my confidence and this is partially why I am the way I am today (very reserved). However I am watching a program at the moment where a woman is claiming she got a nose job because of her insecurity and the ridicule she got from others and I feel no sympathy for her and no respect for her. Boo hoo, so you're nose is not perfect, she should get over it and I'd never want a woman like this in my life.

[Penyair]

Yes and no. I have no respect for people who are addicted to plastic surgery. Everything is a major flaw to them. Someone says they have a freckle they noticed and suddenly they decide lasic skin treatment to remove any blemish is a must. But on the flip side it's wrong to feel bad for others who need work done.

I had cancer all over my body at one point. I needed surgery to remove tumors. At the time I was in the limelight in another country. Everyone started asking if I had plastic surgery and I ignored them. I didn't feel like talking about what was wrong and I didn't want people to pity me. The surgery changed my face a fair bit. Later surgeries helped with burns I'd received by equalizing skin pigment and removing scars.

I've been with doctors fixing cleft palate (and other birth defects), horrible scars from fires, terribly disfigurement from car crashes, and survivors of an illness like I was. I don't think those being fixed is bad.

Though those things I mentioned come with functional deficit for several. But those for illness are about the same. It isn't done to look nice. I don't think things like scar removal (and some reconstruction) is bad it's helping you look like you did before you got sick or injured.

[Asker]

I'm talking about nose jobs, boob jobs and other forms of enhancements, not about surgery to repair skin burnt in a fire etc.

[Chelskittle]

Empathy is a virtue. No one can tell you how to feel about things, because your opinion is your opinion, but I think that you should probably try to see things from another perspective; no one is 100% comfortable with their body and you shouldn't make them feel even worse by telling them that you feel no sympathy for their insecurities.

[ThisDudeHere]

Neither do I. I don't ever see a reason to do it UNLESS you have, per instance, survived a horrible fire and got sever burns that made you ugly. Or any other such accident or something. I think it's permissible then.

[Asker]

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Nope but, it doesn't really matter what you think of them.

[Asker]

Of course it doesn't but then if we go by your logic, everybody's opinions on anything and everything doesn't matter.

[BellePepper]

Lack of empathy for another human being is never something you want to view in yourself as a good thing.

[Asker]

Why should I have empathy for people who are so insecure that they need to resort to cosmetic surgery?

[BellePepper]

Why do you feel you need to disrespect people?

[Asker]

Because they don't deserve respect.

[BellePepper]

Because of a choice you didn't make?

[itsallover]

I doubt they care about what you think of them. What someone chooses to do with their appearance is their business, and their business only. If you don't want to have surgery, cool. If they want to have surgery, that's also cool. Live and let live.

[GoldenWing]

EVERYONE HAS INSECURITIES. The fact that she ADMITTED it on television, means that she has balls & perhaps she's not so insecure after all. I'd rather DO something about my insecurities, than live with it all my life & complain about how insecure I am - that to me is x10 WORSE. The truth is, you aren't "reserved", you're SCARED of what people may think about you & judge you - so DO something about it, & try not to project your own insecurities onto people by judging their choices.

[Asker]

I don't complain about my insecurities.

[Princeofanons]

Why do you always have to cry about something anon?

[Asker]

Silly comment. Blocked.

[Anonymous]

It's their body. You don't know their parents

[Asker]

Silly comment, Blocked.