If you only been with your partner for 1 year and you get only one day to spend with your family during the holidays who would you spend it with?

[Anonymous]

I only get to see my whole family one day out of the holidays since everyone does their own thing on the other days. I've been with my partner for a year now and they want to split it between both families but the thing is both of them are happening at the same time. I told them that when were engaged or further along in the relationship that's when we can start splitting that day with both of our families. Is that unreasonable?

My family

Split it with my partner

[Sparkie460]

If your relationship with your partner is strong there will be plenty more holidays together. Maybe next year you can split the holidays between the two families

[Summeroflove]

My family for sure. I’m sure any decent person would totally understand that. Especially if you see each other all the time.

I would expect her to do the same if she had to choose between me or family. If someone wants to split it. You can choose to.

But. If someone is so selfish and possessive of you that you can’t even spend a holiday with your family. She doesn’t control you. You’re allowed to say no.

If she is willing to break up. Because you choose to spend holidays with family. Then she isn’t worth it.

You can choose to do whatever you want to do.

[Anonymous]

go deal with your own family. you've only been together for a year, that's literally nothing. go be with your family. take a break from him, sheesh.