My boyfriend is attracted to black girls and I'm a white girl.

[little_lost_girl_86]

He watches black girl porn all the time behind my back and it makes me self conscious because I'm not black in anyway. Sure I may be over reacting in some ways but he still continues to do it even when I've asked him not too. Am I not good enough or something or should I just give up so he can be with a black girl and get over this infatuation? btw I'm not racist in anyway my sister in law is black just in case you may assume something.

[sagacitygoddess]

If you caught him watching child p*rn would you think he is a pedophile?

If you caught him watching gay p*rn would you think he is a gay?

If you caught him watching beasteality would you think he likes animals?

If you caught him watching white p*rn would you think he is a perversed?

If you caught him watching S and M would you think he likes to cause or recieve pain?

No offence at all...just real questions

Okay so you know he likes p*rn...Allot of men watch it...it doesn't make it right.

It is a form of cheating...Of the mind sometimes heart...And yes BODY because if he is touching himself and imagining another woman then it has happened.

Any man that faces his relationship in a healthy way and his partner does the same with love in trust by both THERE IS NO PORN...(perhaps a mistake or two) men can be little sex monkeys.

Honestly, there are men that do not watch p*rn and cannot imagine any other woman but his own.

Okay, so he ONLY watches BLACK p*rn and ALLOT? Yes He is totally turned on by black women.

That is his "flavor"...You mean something to him...Ask yourself some questions:

when he is the nicest...

When he wants some? Like money, transportation, sex (unsatisfying) disconnected in the dark? One sided? Raciest remarks? Degrading?

Do you feel safe? Do you feel secure?

Perhaps you are the first white women he has been with? If so he is running back to safety meaning there are possibly problems between you two and his needs the fimiliar to comfort him.

Allot of people find comfort in sex.

Relief, release...blah blah blah.

It also may mean nothing at all except that's what turns him on right now.

What do you think of when you masturbate? Or have sex...When his touch is not enough.

We all have fetishes weather healthy or obscure or even damaging that as people we have to work through and figure out.

The color of a woman's skin should never make a difference unless it becomes something that is thrown in your face to hurt you and you are devalued as a human being.

I believe there is nothing wrong with loving any skin color or culture...

but to be fixated on only one that is the opposite of who you are...Then you are living a lie.

You are good enough. God created you. You are perfect for a very special man that just may not be him.

I am curious to know what happened in all of this?

[rsirrod]

I am going through the same thing... I am a very opened minded woman and will watch p*rn with my husband etc... He says I fulfill his every fantasy, yet I find p*rn on his computer and it is strictly black women.. This has happened on several occasions, and I get the same old "I don't know"... I feel like when we have sex he must be thinking about the black women in the p*rn. I am a white female and cannot compete with his black female p*rn. Each time he is busted, he dances around the issue and is very apologetic, then ends up arguing with me. I am at the end of my rope.

I am considered an attractive female, yet I now feel self conscious about my body and whether or not he would prefer to be with a black woman. Every time we are out, I cannot help thinking that when an attractive black woman passes by that he wishes he were with her instead. Seems that when I start to get over things, he is busted all over again. Blah!

[Cool-Relax]

He might be attracted to black girls, but he's with you. If race was such an issue for him, that wouldn't be the case.

[little_lost_girl_86]

Yea I understand but I can't help but feel like it's a slap in the face in a way

[Cool-Relax]

Is it just the porn that bothers you? Because plenty of guys watch porn, that doesn't mean they want to date the girls they see in it.

[little_lost_girl_86]

Not exactly I mean there are issues unrelated to this but in a twisted way I feel as if that's what I "need to be", like in order to remain attractive to him I should be black. I mean honestly what's it saying when I'm a white girl and my boyfriend is always gawking at black females?

[Cool-Relax]

It's obviously something that you're insecure about, so when he does notice a black woman, it's really going to stand out to you. You probably think about his attraction to black women more than he does. If you have a good relationship, there's no sense throwing it away over this. And if you continue to feel like you're not good enough the way you are, that's probably what will end up happening.

[little_lost_girl_86]

Very true I do think about it more then he does. I'm trying to get over it, I was just unsure if this is something I should be worried about.

[ChPRArab1983]

If I can be honest. It sounds like he is only infatuated with black women and would have no interest of developing a relationship with one since he chose a white woman. However it's kind of sick if you think about it... Why? Because he's racist. How do I know well he watches black women having sex but your white... That speaks mountains on how he feels about minorities and most of all black women. He sees them as sex objects nothing more nothing less. He has no desire to be with a black women because if he did he would have chosen one. But instead he would rather fulfil his racists fantasy and keep you under his wing. Now that's sick!

[authentic]

It would be a good idea to ask him why he finds black girls attractive. Take this as a way to get to know him better.

[little_lost_girl_86]

I did actually and he gave me the "i don't know" line

[authentic]

Either he is afraid of facing himself (if he is telling the truth), or he doesn't want you to know why. Tread carefully with this kind of people.

[Anonymous]

Me to, but not p*rn with a black girl.now I feel like he is attracted to black girl's. I knew her, and she knew we were having problems. We have a 3 year old and she also knew her.I def don't care who knows that I hate her.matter of fact I'm coming to see almost every black girl I meet is low down ..selfish as her.I'm not going to hate her old ass,jst forgive her and always remember black is nasty too.

[Stephania]

Your obviously ignorant, your right to lose your man if your going to be so small minded anyways.

[sarahjenkins]

I am going through the same exact thing. And to ice the cake, we work together and I can clearly tell he has a crush on a black coworker. I feel like if she gave him the time of day, he would dump me in a second.

[mssincere26]

okay what's the problem? maybe he wants to see what's on the other side. maybe he just prefers black porn.