Often times, the word submissive wife, is understood to be dominated by her husband. That is not at all what I think a submissive wife is. A submissive wife accepts her husband's leadership in the home. A submissive wife can, and should, have her own strong identity. She can have her own strong opinions and express them strongly. She can do her own thing, and not rely on her husband for permission. And she should never submit her own self to be controlled or dominated by her husband.
submission or being submissive is something wildly question because if one has been taught in this manner then its easy to execute if not it becomes an ever increasing problem that can destroy relationships marriages partnerships and on the contrary no woman was made to be a slave nor a door mat to be used abuse or to be treated in a way that goes against her own will.
I think you can be in a more traditional relationship without being a brainless child who simply listens to your husband. That's... dull and borderline creepy.
Eeeeh no. Clearly, I think I'd prefer if my girlfriend was taking the lead in the relationship. Perhaps I'm a really rare type of man but that's how I feel. But in overall, equality in the relationship is still a must.
Unless being submissive is a person's fetish, don't expect them to be submissive. If it is their fetish, make full use of it. Treat people how they want to be treated to the extent you feel comfortable interacting with them. This applies to both men and women. That is all.
"The thing is that I personally wouldn’t want to be with someone that doesn’t let me decide whether I want to go somewhere or dictate what I should wear, and/or having sex when i don’t want to atm" which means that with a guy like me we would probably get a close to a 50/50 dynamic where we make decisions together rather than really forcing something down the others throat. But not everyone is that way, some people like a strong leader and want to be led and depending if the leader is the man or the women the dynamic can shift either way.
Gen 3:16, Col 3:18, etc. Just as the husband is submissive to God and Jesus, the wife should be submissive to the husband. Prov 31:10-31 Explains the virtues of a good wife, which, if you really understand it, is very empowering for the wife!
I would never be a servant to a man nor would I want a man to be a servant to me. Unless we’re in bed.
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Submissive is ok in bed but it would get boring if they didn’t have any opinion or thoughts about anything they like or want and obviously you can’t force them to have sex just because you’re married but hopefully you don’t have to beg either
Pfft, no. That's a toxic and old way of thinking. Marriage and relationships should be like you're best friendship with benefits and romance. If you treat your best friend like a slave you're a POS of a best friend and person
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Often times, the word submissive wife, is understood to be dominated by her husband. That is not at all what I think a submissive wife is. A submissive wife accepts her husband's leadership in the home. A submissive wife can, and should, have her own strong identity. She can have her own strong opinions and express them strongly. She can do her own thing, and not rely on her husband for permission. And she should never submit her own self to be controlled or dominated by her husband.
I don't want submissive, I want a partner, an equal.
submission or being submissive is something wildly question because if one has been taught in this manner then its easy to execute if not it becomes an ever increasing problem that can destroy relationships marriages partnerships and on the contrary no woman was made to be a slave nor a door mat to be used abuse or to be treated in a way that goes against her own will.
No one should be submissive to anyone (unless it's some kind of kink, it can happen) , but both should respect each other
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Yes, so long as it's not submitting to abuse or total control.
To the right husband? Yes, he wouldn't abuse that, he would keep her freedom and she'd be happy with him anyway.
Though that "right husband" is hard to find these days, so it's natural that this tradition might fade away or even be hated.
Uh... no? I don't think that at all.
I think you can be in a more traditional relationship without being a brainless child who simply listens to your husband. That's... dull and borderline creepy.
Eeeeh no. Clearly, I think I'd prefer if my girlfriend was taking the lead in the relationship. Perhaps I'm a really rare type of man but that's how I feel. But in overall, equality in the relationship is still a must.
Unless being submissive is a person's fetish, don't expect them to be submissive. If it is their fetish, make full use of it. Treat people how they want to be treated to the extent you feel comfortable interacting with them. This applies to both men and women. That is all.
If they want to, relationships always form a dynamic that works with the couple.
"The thing is that I personally wouldn’t want to be with someone that doesn’t let me decide whether I want to go somewhere or dictate what I should wear, and/or having sex when i don’t want to atm" which means that with a guy like me we would probably get a close to a 50/50 dynamic where we make decisions together rather than really forcing something down the others throat. But not everyone is that way, some people like a strong leader and want to be led and depending if the leader is the man or the women the dynamic can shift either way.
You are what you are. I'm very dominant. Others are very submissive. It is what it is. You shouldn't be anything that's not yourself.
Gen 3:16, Col 3:18, etc.
Just as the husband is submissive to God and Jesus, the wife should be submissive to the husband.
Prov 31:10-31
Explains the virtues of a good wife, which, if you really understand it, is very empowering for the wife!
feminine women are submissive. any women that isn't submissive is a wanna be male. end of story. peace.
So if I make my own decision and/or disagree with my partner, does that mean I want to be a male?
I would never be a servant to a man nor would I want a man to be a servant to me.
Unless we’re in bed.
Submissive is ok in bed but it would get boring if they didn’t have any opinion or thoughts about anything they like or want and obviously you can’t force them to have sex just because you’re married but hopefully you don’t have to beg either
No I don’t. I think husbands and wives or however your partner dynamic is should be equal partners.
Pfft, no. That's a toxic and old way of thinking. Marriage and relationships should be like you're best friendship with benefits and romance. If you treat your best friend like a slave you're a POS of a best friend and person
I want my woman to have a life of her own and share it with me
People should be equal to one another in a relationship.