How important is money to you in a relationship?

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I almost lost my girlfriend because I was so paranoid about making enough money for the both of us to live a comfortable life together that I had forgotten what was more important here. I'm just curious in wondering how many of you believe that money is an important factor for a relationship to be healthy in the long run.

ask4any · Accepted Answer

I know a woman who has nothing but a family that loves her, respects her and tries to help improve their hardship any way they can with barely enough money to keep the lights on and you know what? She is by far the happiest woman I know. I also know one on the opposite side of the spectrum, actually I know a few, that don't have anything to worry about but all they care about is money, money, and more money. The husband has to be working, working, working. A very sad situation. Husband can't spend time with family because he's out trying to get her what she so desperately feels she needs. Hardly ever what the family as a whole needs, but what she needs. It's no secret that financial security is a need not just for women but for men as well in order to feel truly relaxed and comfortable enough to be yourself in front of eachother and the nightly conversations aren't always about how financially creative do we need to get in order to pay the bills this month. I went through it myself in my younger years but thank God my s/o at the time was a queen of hearts, not diamonds. She taught me how to relax over my financial anxiety, to realize that money isn't everything. Asking me what is it that is needed that we don't have? Everything we need is right here, and before making love for the next couple of hours, she would drop to her knees right where we stood and suck me to completion. Great question!!

Aguysopinion4799 · Accepted Answer

I would say somewhat important, not important enough to make me go "Ooh... I don't want to be with them because they don't have the amount I want" but rather as in if they are not financially stable and are trying to leech off me.

If they are stable then that's all good, if they are rich I don't really care, if they are financially unstable then I will support them but not with my money, I will help them look for jobs and I will provide them with staying in my home if needed till they get back on their feet.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Money is not important for a healthy relationship. But money IS important because if you want to be living together, be married and have kids, or go vocation and stuff, you need money. Somebody needs to pay the bills and if you are not stable you'll be cranked up with debt, and that's frustrating and stressful as it is no matter how big or small the bills are. In dating, it doesn't really matter. But when you are seeking a serious relationship and courting for marriage. You best to believe it's very important. Women especially need stability.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Important, but not "make or break" for me. I've dated guys that made more and less than I did, but guess what? That didn't phase me so much as how treated me.

I have a job, can pay my own bills, and am financially stable, so I'm not looking for someone to take care of me. As long as he can take care of himself, pays his own bills, has his life in order, and has a job? I'm happy

Porcelaine · Accepted Answer

Money is my own responsibility. What I want from a relationship is love, loyalty, affection, many other things that have nothing to do with money. I hope he is good at managing finanes and is responsible with his own money, otherwise it can cause problems if he is buying ipads instead of paying rent.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

Well, financial stability and responsibility is important to me. I care more about how you handle your money than how much you currently make.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Financial considerations are only important in this sense. If my partner is not self-sufficient and needs me to "rescue" her, then everything in our relationship will be skewed and horribly affected by that dependency. I want a partner, not an adult child.

coachTanthony · Answer

I need a partner who knows how to manage money like I do. Otherwise we will be living off credit cards the rest of our life!

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If I have food, water, shelter, clothing, sanitation and heating in the winter time - I'm satisfied.

LoU_Hades · Answer

Money isn't important if you have it.
I have a job with 300 days holiday in year. She works in full time job as corporate lawyer. We have enough for over average life quality here.
But I can remember times where I lived on the benevolence of my former partner and I had to work at the door or the bar in nightclubs as addition to my study. Or as I paid high child support from an usual wage here and I considered twice if I should buy few drinks while clubbing at weekend. It wasn't a pleasure and without money you don't have that much fun.

Dongtai · Answer

I just want enough money to provide a comfortable life for my wife and kids. I would say it’s pretty important but not for the reasons a lot of people will say. I don’t care about luxury.

I just don’t want my kids see me living paycheck to paycheck or witness me consistently miss bills.

Bloody_Claw · Answer

To money is somewhat important, as long as I make enough to keep the lights on, put a little aside for emergencies or something big and am able to afford something night once or twice a month to spoil my girl I am fine, and even if is as little as a nice night out in a decent Restaurant or a nice bottle of wine and a good home cooked meal.

Anonymous · Answer

Not important. I've dated a guy who seemed to think he could buy my love by being very irresponsible with money and claiming he could totally afford to buy anything and even getting me gifts after I quite quickly rejected him. Possibly I would've lived a economically secure life with him but that would not have made me happy. I don't care how much money my partner makes, we're in it together and because we love each other the rest comes second.

Darkistoolight__ · Answer

I think generally it is quite important. The reason I say this is because when someone is broke they stress to much about money. I think the stress of it causes a lot of problems in a relationship.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

It is some what important for 1 needs it to live off of but you can not buy my love with his - big bucks - but by the way he treats me when we are together

Mrblooo · Answer

Yes money is important but there r things in life more important a health relationship with your other half, your kids if u have any , n your health n mental health but hey its what is your priority really is n everybody's different can't really say what is the most important in a persons life

Mädchen · Answer

Somewhat important. I can't take care of 2 people at the moment so it would be better if he had a job.

MrTwix · Answer

There are certain things you need to have a successful relationship as an adult, some are: money, sex, friendship, commitment, communication etc.

Money isn't everything but if money becomes an issue because of the other partner and that is affecting the wellbeing of the one partner it can become a large problem.

Sammy165 · Answer

It’s somewhat important. I’m not with a person for their money, but I expect them to be smart with it.

Secret6620 · Answer

Not important at all. I take care of myself and my man too. 🌸💜🌸

Account · Answer

Not in the slightest. I am pretty sure that is a negative thing but oh well.

Avicenna · Answer

As long as there is enough to live on, I wouldn't be worried. To be sure, I always want to do better than that.

SoWhAt249 · Answer

On the contrary to your case, I lost 2 relationships because I didn't have enough money all the time. So I deem it very important.

FabianChang · Answer

Very important. Love doesn't matter when you can't survive. Without money, you don't live, you both don't live. I'm just being realistic here. How important is food to you in a relationship? Same concept.

Anonymous · Answer

Am going through the same thing my boyfriend spends so much time at work for his family as in mi n my kids that he has forgotten about spending time with us I been dealing with this for the past 5yrs and am getting tired he works from Monday to Monday he leaves at 8a. m n come back at 8 p. m n then leaves again at 9 till 2a. m n we DNT go anywhere n he never has a day off n I don't know what Todo but I need some time for mi

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