"the men that have recently come up to me". There's your problem. You're waiting for them to come to you. If you do that you'll just get whatever is thrown at you. You have to choose what YOU want, and then go after it.
I get what you’re saying but I still want that whole a man Makes the decisions type deal. I understand we’re going what you want I just don’t wanna go about it the wrong way
"Put myself out and misread the situation. Thinking a guy like me but just trying to be nice." @Justneedtokno There's absolutely nothing wrong with what you did, though. You tested the waters, there was nothing there. No big deal! No one got hurt, right? Hopefully he wasn't mean to you.
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It shows dedication and focus... and a lack of quality men in the area.
That depends on if she's thotting around or not. If not, I see no red flag, rather a diamond in the rough.
For me no, I am kinda there myself. But it all depends on the reason why she has been single so long.
Well I wasn't in a relationship of any kind until 27. Obviously not a red flag or else I wouldn't have been in one then.
It might seem like you don't want one but it's not a red flag. It's not easy in today's world.
not necessarily, i'm almost 20 and never been in a relationship
No honestly it wouldn't be. I am in a different but similar situation as well so ytea
Men don't view this as a red flag but it is viewed as one vice versa
I am confident as a single woman.
I am valuable
I am beautiful
I am strong
A red flag to who? and how would anyone know that information?
Lol well she might be a virgin and waiting. I respect that. Or she might be one as the Bible says that some will not know a person.
not really, it’s a red flag when girls take relationships too seriously in high school or college.
No. That in itself is not a red flag.
"the men that have recently come up to me". There's your problem. You're waiting for them to come to you. If you do that you'll just get whatever is thrown at you.
You have to choose what YOU want, and then go after it.
I get what you’re saying but I still want that whole a man Makes the decisions type deal. I understand we’re going what you want I just don’t wanna go about it the wrong way
@Justneedtokno Give me an example of what you think would be going about it the wrong way.
Put myself out and misread the situation. Thinking a guy like me but just trying to be nice. I think I try to lower the bar (standards) sometimes.
Asker, Jamie's right.
Generally the way it goes is that players aren't afraid of rejection so they are the ones approaching more regularly. Nice guys, shy guys, respectful guys, hang back, because they don't want to bother or offend the girl.
Most guys do not just want sex.
Men, when you approach or reach out digitally to a woman (romantically) is the ONLY thing you really want from her... sex? ↗
Thanks, Amanda.
"Put myself out and misread the situation. Thinking a guy like me but just trying to be nice."
@Justneedtokno There's absolutely nothing wrong with what you did, though. You tested the waters, there was nothing there. No big deal! No one got hurt, right? Hopefully he wasn't mean to you.
Not a red flag at all
no wtf... thats actually a good thing
depends on her reasons for it
That would be a pretty big red flag, yeah.
Nah that wouldn’t bother me.
It's not a red flag as long as you spread your legs when told.
You mean AS LONG AS YOU DONT
THAT attitude is the red flag.
Lol 😂 I thought you made a mistake.
For me it wouldn't be but that's just me
How come I didn't get Most Honest Opinion?
I gave you my honest opinion
Thank you for you opinion. They jus gave a little more detail and constructive criticism
Oh ok. I'll remember that for next time then