If you were given a second shot with the last person you were in love with, would you take it?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Love... Girl I liked that I dated a long time ago, but was developing feelings for her... no. She was untrustworthy and didn't really respect me, which is a big dealbreaker. There were enough red flags where I'd say no. Her family seemed to hate me for some odd reason - I could possibly live with that, though I prefer that I find someone who's family likes/loves me (I'm not used to being a part of a woman's family (and no one so far in dating has had family that ever treated me like family - but I want that in my life). So even if she was interested, even if there was a promise that the cheating was done, that she made a mistake and was truly interested in me (not my money or what I do for her), I would still say no.

If I had a second chance with a crush - Depends on how we define the "last crush." I have several where I would say yes, but I would be upfront about the obstacles we would have. Some crushes were great, but we just found out we didn't "fit" well at the time. I still think they're great women, but it's just I would feel like we both had moved on. There are SOME crushes I had in the past - sometimes BIG ones - where I found out they weren't as wonderful as I thought. They were cheaters, they were disrespectful to servers, to me, etc. I would not want any kind of second chance with them, recent or not. I would argue that this wasn't really "love" though.

I think in most cases, I'd still rather just try dating someone new.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

This is a quandary for me. The last girlfriend I had before I met my wife was 30 and I was 36 when we met. We lived together for over a year. Petra was my absolute physical ideal. She was also hypersexual and orgasmic. But I loved everything else about her, as well.

I had had other girlfriends in my life, beginning when I was 16. They were all sweet, pretty, and really good people. But Petra was the first woman I ever loved with my heart and soul. And she loved me.

There were issues, though, that made impossible for us to be life partners. It wouldn't have worked.

20 years after that last time we saw each other, she found me on Facebook and we even spoke on the phone a few times. I was overjoyed to be in touch, to read her posts, to hear her voice, and to know that she was doing well.

Five years later, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at age 55.

There is a hole in my heart that will never heal. I think about her almost every day. I still love her and will never forget her.

That doesn't detract from how much I love my wife who is ideal in almost every way. She's the best companion I could ever have. I wouldn't trade her for anything, ... even for Petra. But my heart still aches for Petra.

t_time · Accepted Answer

Nope! He was talking to other woman when we were dating. I'm all for having friends who are girls. Doesn't bug in the slightest. But when innocent conversations are not so innocent anymore... and i happen to see an inappropriate message come up when he's showing me a YouTube video. That he forgot the notifications were on... yes there is a problem... plus his mom was a bitch and controlled every single move in his day.. say we wanted to go to the beach , she would make up a bunch of things for him to do so we wouldn't be able to go to the beach that day... she also won't let her kids move out, she would guilt trip them if they brought moving out to her.. now they all now have tiny houses on their parents property... she made her husband take her last name... she also didn't allow her daughter to take her husband's last name... she made her daughter's husband to stop being a election and become a ambulance driver because she wanted her husband. Her son. Her daughter. Her son in law all to be 1st responders..

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

No? He was way to old for me, and he was heartless/indifferent to my feelings.

He didn’t care about me as a person.

I would never and will never go back to that kind of pain again…

I don’t feel it now… but I remember the agony, then.

I remember how wet my face was and how immovable I was…

I’ll never ever go back to that. Never ever 🤷‍♀️

I’m lucky to have gotten away.

SecretsofKB · Answer

Nope. I'm with the person I love with all my heart and want to be with the rest of my life. I wouldn't change anything about it even if I had the chance.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I love two of the last guys I previously liked but I love them as a brother or pet bird. It’s not romantic any more.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Yes, hands down.
I own my part in it and don't think she's not about hers. I'd be hyped to the moon to get to know her better. But I doubt it would ever be so. She has her path laid out and I can't help but think she might be better off as she is, where she is going.
I'm not sad over it much, I feel confident she is all good and that is enough for me.
On to the next...

TruthBringer · Answer

I would be the biggest fool to leave my wonderful girlfriend I love dearly and go back to a girl with a personality disorder with a dysfunctional family.

And even if I was single, I wouldn't do it. I'd rather die single than have to go through all the BS she put me through. No thanks.

abc3643 · Answer

No... Despite my heart wanting that, I look in the mirror and realize 30 years have gone by since I last saw her which about 1.5 years after she dumped me.

My time has passed and is gone. It's the end times for me now; dreams and wishes are over.

Anemone978 · Answer

I don't know I still cry whenever I think of him so who knows... I could go talk to him but I don't want to because I know he is still the same... I would only go back to him if he came to me, which is highly unlikely because I don't think he ever loved me like I loved him.

DizzyDesii · Answer

If this map listed the correct years, it would describe Me tryna remember the name of the last person i loved. Nah im good on second chances

NathanDavis · Answer

nope...

I've actually been talking (online) with my ex about twice a week, for the last two months or so...

and we're just catching up and keeping it casual, and funny...

none of that drama, no tension, no "what if..." we got closure before, and we're over it

FifiJones · Answer

Definitely.

Assuming she had't been with someone else just to 'get back at me' along the way.

The whole 'casual sex' idea gets in the way/strongly interferes with marriage for family starting and babies.

We were all fed lots of crap (supposedly liberal) advice for almost 4 decades now. Girls are not a commodity, but are not allowed to hop dick and keep 'consuming (pointless) sex' for fun/entertainment either.

snowboarder720 · Answer

No, it ended for a good reason.
Boundaries are meant to be respected. Barriers are meant to overcome. If they think of me as just a challenge and then walk on me like a doormat after that then it was meant to never be.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not at all, I treated her with kindness and respect and she cheated on me with one of her ex's.

She hurt me, but looking back it was for the best. I felt, I was making most of the effort and it should not be that way between couples.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Nope! No. Heeeelll to the naw naw. I am not starting all over , i am too old for this shit

TheBootyChest · Answer

GREAT Question. But I would have to say no.

I admit that I would just so I wouldn't be lonely, but ultimately I never wanted it to work out. I was just buying my time, and trying to practice being better in a relationship.

tesniolite · Answer

he should be asking for a second shot with me he's the one that messed up  but he doesn't care about being a better person so I don't want anything to do with him

exitseven · Answer

Nope, we were together for four years and the relationship had run its course. I have no desire to ever see her again

Anonymous · Answer

i guess although not entirely sure how it be different but would find a way to do things different i guess. it didn't really go the way i wanted and think deep down i still want them so yeah to try again would be worth it

Redstang88 · Answer

I’d certainly like to at least have a conversation, she was the only one I’ve really loved and in a different time, different circumstances I think things would’ve gone differently

TenderFantasy · Answer

I was given that chance. Forget it. Now I get why it didn't work!

TalynMere · Answer

Not a fucking chance! They were a manipulator plain and simple, I was abused.

DermalPunch · Answer

Oh good Lord Above please no. Keep him as faaaaaar away from me as possible!

MementoMori777 · Answer

Nope, but I do wish her well and care for her as another fellow human from a distance

magiusX26 · Answer

hell no. she turned out to be a liar and a cheater with alcohol problems. why the fuck would anyone want to give that another shot?

msc545 · Answer

I'm not really sure I've ever been exactly in love with anyone, but if it was the last person I really cared about, the answer would be no in that she turned out to be a monster.

Moose304 · Answer

NO! I was in love with her for almost 40 years. Was never able to trust her!

hiyamotherfers · Answer

No, my ex is toxic and I wouldn't ever want to be with him again

Luopio27 · Answer

Never had a relationship. Just rejections. In that sense, if a girl that rejected me asked me out on a romantic date, I would go.

Anonymous · Answer

The last person? F*** no! A different person from the past? maybe. she's happily married. And I'm happy for her. So while I have regrets. I had my shot.

Anonymous · Answer

Na I'm good. I'm so much wiser now that I know they ain't shit.

Rizwan_khan · Answer

No idont want to read same book again. I would like to read a new book instead.

nawtee_me · Answer

Nope, there are reasons why we are not together. A second chance won’t change that.

EaterPeter · Answer

They need to promise to put in lot of work and follow up with that promise.

SunnyRS · Answer

No mam, "fool me once shame on you fool me twice... "

Greenbins · Answer

Absolutely not ! ... they screwed me over sooo bad

A_Nihilist · Answer

I'd like to say no. But I don't think I'd be able to turn it down if I'm being honest.

Itonlytakesone · Answer

It depends on why there would even be s reason for a second shot

EzraEzra · Answer

No  No way  I regret falling in love with him in the first place 🤣

Anonymous · Answer

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck No!!! Once a female burns that bridge, guys should never look back.

Cupido29 · Answer

If I'm single, absolutely yes.

AlexisDiani · Answer

Nooooo thats done now.

slatyb · Answer

No, weve both changed.

ColHathi · Answer

Probably not. It'd be futile.

Anonymous · Answer

no. i'm in love with someone else now.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Hell yes, I would take it!

brooke233 · Answer

She was toxic and tried to kill me so no

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Hell no she was toxic aaf

Capricornunicorn92 · Answer

In a heartbeat

electromagnetic · Answer

I would not take it.

Dede162000 · Answer

Nope

4ngelic · Answer

hell no

adolescentswede · Answer

Sure

ImAlondra · Answer

I would think so

Anonymous · Answer

one experience is enough.

Softlife808 · Answer

Absolutely not lol

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope

LavLavLuv · Answer

Ew 😭

In_Trance · Answer

nope

Guardian45 · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely

dinojames22 · Answer

No..

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

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