I realized that my boyfriend talks bad about me to another girl, when we argue. Is this normal?

[blunty]

I know that she is his really close childhood friend... But still, it bothered me that he talks bad about me to another girl. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

No, it is not normal or healthy for your boyfriend to talk badly about you to another girl, even if she is his childhood friend. It is disrespectful and undermines the trust and respect that should be present in a healthy relationship.

It's important to have open and honest communication with your boyfriend about how this behavior makes you feel. Let him know that talking badly about you to someone else is hurtful and unacceptable. If he truly values and respects your relationship, he should be willing to address your concerns and work with you to find a solution.

However, if he continues to talk badly about you or dismisses your concerns, it may be a sign of deeper issues in the relationship. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and consider whether this behavior is something you can tolerate in the long-term.

Remember, a healthy relationship is built on trust, respect, and open communication. If your boyfriend is not willing to treat you with respect and kindness, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship and consider whether it is truly fulfilling your needs and making you happy.

[lightbulb27]

He feels ok dumping to his female friend as they've established trust between them, and I used to feel the same. It's a bad idea and he has to learn to... A) protect your feelings B) work with you to work out your relationship issues C) talk to men, therapist for additional support. He should be out here asking questions. He should not be exploring issues and speaking negatively of you with her.

Guys/boys need training to become suitable partners... men, for women. Where are they getting that training. Answer: You girls that suffer in training them!! ahhhhh!!! thats the truth.

That you are asking if this is normal is irrelevant, it's not good. It makes you feel insecure, bad, and it's going to cause all sorts of problems.

The truth is... he desires you... probably and not this other woman that is friend zoned comfortable. The tension you have with him is attraction, that's good, but needs to be addressed in your relationship.

The fact there are issues in your relationship is another matter that needs worked out.

good luck!

[devilish-cutie]

its might be an issue and t might not, maybe he is just asking her for help. but if it bothers you than you should tell him calmly that you wish to have better talks without other people knowing your business

[sheenagwapa]

the best friend who they flirt with each other... dump your boyfriend and send him to his slut best friend

[razelove]

It would be normal if you're still teenagers, he should have learned by now that doing so makes problems worse, not better. If you're going to vent in a mature relationship, do so with your partner, or the problems don't get solved.

You can't take it back when you reveal personal problems with a third party. Maybe it's normal for him, and has been in other relationships as well. Just tell him it makes you feel bad and you'd rather not let someone else know those personal details about you, and problems y'all are facing.

Maybe it will make things better or worse overall, but if it's bothering you that much, it's a problem both of you need to address.

[CaptainOverthink]

It's good to have friends that he can talk to outside of the relationship, it might grant him some perspective.
I wouldn't say it's reputationdamage or that it's "talking bad" to ventilate his feelings to a friend. But it does depend on how he does it and if they are on the same page about it.

[Anonymous]

You care about this because you don't trust him or men in general.
Ask yourself this, if you knew 100% he would never ever cheat on you would you care that it's a girl? You may still care he is telling your business but you wouldn't care that she is a girl anymore.

You believe you can be cheated on

[mommymommymommy]

Girls do this. When they argue, they go to their "male friends" (right ladies, isn't this why you hold on those laughable "guy friends", you oh so loved to claim you have), to complain about your boyfriend. Only to then realize, oh, i was wrong, and apologize, and all is well again, leaving your "friends" in the dust, yet again

[Gentleman900]

No. Actually this is unacceptable. Im married and whenever my wife and I get into a disagreement I never go to anyone else, no other women for that matter. It's like he is giving her the opportunity to take your place. Remember the quote "A shoulder to cry is a Dick to ride on"? think of it in a reverse manner for man.

[FilmGuy93]

More normal than it should be. Ladies are infamous for putting their boyfriends on blast every time the tiniest bullshit happens.

Lots of crappy behavior to go around!

[RavVid]

I know girls have talked bad about me to their friends.

Is there an asymmetric rule against guys doing this?

[OldWomanBySoul]

Nah that's not normal or good, that's low-key toxic

[Peter_Penetrator]

Does he love you. If so he is most likely just venting.

[JordanUK]

We all share our stresses with our friends and can't bottle them up all to out selves. What if I turn it around and ask you: Do you talk negatively about your boyfriend to your friends if he if he does something wrong that upsets you?

[itsalyssaagain]

No it’s not normal. You should speak to him about it.

[vanillapuddingboo95]

maybe cuz he feels stuck
like there's no other way out
and like he has no other choice
but to vent
because of his girlfriend
that just won't listen

[SirJohn42]

Nope if he has problems he needs to take it to you. Not others.

[Anonymous]

hey mine's an asshole i got no problem admitting it

[slatyb]

Talks bad about you? What does he say?

[TheMadLad]

Sounds like a mama’s boy.

[Jazzy54]

Hell no. Kick him to the curb. Jackass…😒

[Wild_princess]

Break uppp... huge red flag

[In_Trance]

How did you realize this?

[LiamJHayden]

Dump him.