Sexual frustration is something I experienced in a relationship that pushed me to cheat , Why I won’t settle down with a girl that doesn’t think intimacy and affection is important in a relationship , you can only be someone’s punching bag for to long until you realize you deserve better in life , You can only sacrifice so much for a person that isn’t sacrificing for you , I am a firm believer that cheating is wrong to do to someone , but only if that person is staying loyal and faithful to you and giving back the same as you do for them. When a relationship becomes one sided I no longer wait around , I will express my feelings of concern and ask her what is wrong? Why don’t you want intimacy and affection from me anymore , why are you constantly denying me? If she gives me lame excuses , I am going to go fuck someone else that isn’t denying me , I’m sorry sexual frustration is a real thing and life is too short to not be having sex On a regular basis in my opinion , The girls that came into my life have taught me to be this way , I feel like it’s abuse when a partner constantly denies you intimacy and affection am I wrong?
1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic. First let's get down why she doesn't want to have sex from you. Since we don't get to hear her side of the story and only what you say, this will be tough to answer.
But from a woman's perspective, usually when she says no to sex, it's because she doesn't feel loved from you. She isn't being paid enough attention to by you. Women feel sex with emotions first. If you haven't been putting sweet and loving things in her mental bank, then the bank get's empty until you fill it up again. She also needs to feel appreciated. Do you leave her alone a lot? Is she feeling lonely?
You sound like you just need her to empty your load inside of her. She's not a bank where you just go and make a deposit and that's it, it's done. How do you treat her after sex? Do you still make her feel wanted and cared for? Or do you just get up right after, then leave her laying there alone?
So while you are feeling deprived and go out and cheat, why don't you make the one you have WANT to be with you.09 Reply- +1 y
I do t just get up and cheat , I express my feelings of concern to her and ask her why all of a sudden she doesn’t want to be intimate or affectionate with me anymore when before it wasn’t even an issue , if she doesn’t give me valid reasons and just makes lame excuses to me she is already cheating on the relationship , it gets to a point that my feelings don’t matter to her anymore and yes I am still loving and giving to her but there is only so much you can give to someone that isn’t giving back the same , So yes if another girl is hitting on me and makes me feel wanted and valued I am more than likely going to end up on bed with that other girl and end it with my current partner , I don’t just go cheat for the hell of it
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@Vegasrunner
Because I am a woman, I was trying to make you see some reasons for her pushing you away. If you could fix her emotions with you, then maybe you two could get close again.
Generally men don't understand how woman work. So I was giving you insight to women. Look at the situation from her side, not just yours.
Good luck 🍀 - +1 y
@sage2021 , her side of the story is that she is a selfish person, she only really cared about herself , she only does what is best for her , she never considerers my feelings when I have sat down with her about it over and over , kind of like a broken record in one ear out the other , she set boundaries with me that she doesn’t follow herself , it’s ok for her to do things but not ok for me and that’s where all the double standards came into play , She never took responsibility for her actions it’s her way or no way , so I stopped giving into her and realized I deserve better from someone in life , I slept with the other girl because she was there for me with open arms , I didn’t just go cheat for the hell of it , I cheated because the window of opportunity was right there in front of me , If I truly valued my girlfriend I wouldn’t of slept with that other girl , that was pretty much my answer to end it with her , sadly that’s how it happened , if that other girl wasn’t there then I would of eventually ended the relationship myself and probably would be dealing with her selfish behavior , I tend to analyze a lot of shit in my head and I hate that about myself , I blame my ex wife for doing that to me , with her Bi polar depression anxiety depression narcissistic bitch she was so yes I am damaged as well , I had my heart shit on to many times from girls that I don’t tolerate shit like I used to , so the other girl was pretty much my answer to end it it cuz if she was t there I probably would still be analyzing on whether I should stay with her or not
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Ok - both of us tried. Go, be free... and have a great life with someone you are more compatible with. Take care.🍀 - +1 y
@sage2021 The fact that that you don't even realize that I'm not the one that wrote the post invalidates your statement. Actually men typically understand women better than women understand men, as men have to understand women to be successful. As you have proved women usually give terrible advice bevause they struggle to see past themselves as you have proved. Reality is women are emotional beings capable of changing their minds at the drop of a hat the author did the best thing a man can do when a women isn't behaving correctly he found another one.
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@Vegasrunner
You said I answered to you instead of the other guy so my opinion doesn't count.
We're you here in my living room with me when I was answering the question? It was a particular stressful time because we had just taken a friend to the emergency room.
So, don't go judging and cancelling people's opinions unless you know all of the facts. You would make a terrible police officer - "especially if she doesn't act correctly". - +1 y
@sage2021 Well yes, if you are providing form fitting responses w/o even knowing who you're responding to why would your opinion matter? However you do validate my original statement which is that women don't understand relationships. The answer to this guys question I pretty simple if a women doesn't do what you want find one that will. I'm not sure why all the time is needed to justify her behavior.
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yI never did, but to be honest yes I was tempted couple of times. My ex was taking some anti-depressants which he claimed were fucking up with his libido... it was pratically 0. We still kissed, but anything other then that would happen once in a month, or two. And we weren't that long together, I was very frustrated because I couldn't figure out if he was bullshitting or for real. I was depressed because of it, and it happened two times that I was very tempted: first time when my other ex asked to see me (and we used to have amazing sex) and another time while I was in a bar with my girls this very charming man was flirting with me. So yeah it did cross my mind "maybe I should just do it and break up tomorrow", but in the end I didn't do it just broke it off. The funny thing about it, I wish I did it with a guy from a bar, because after I broke off with my ex he said I was a selfish slut who only thinks about sex. Mind you he didn't even touch my pussy for like months. I never told him about my temptations I just tried to be as nice as possibile when I was ending it (it wasn't easy) just to be called a selfish slut. Oh do I miss that man from a bar!!!
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Opinion Owner+1 yI dodged a freaking nuclear bomb, lol.
+1 yMost guys kneel at the altar of the puss. Girls will give the best performance early on, and then one day shell invite you over and deny your advances even before you've offered your commitment. if you don't check this behavior at that moment, shell know she's in control. Don't say a word, just get up and leave and give her a day or two to understand that you won't stand for that again. If you don't, the second you offer your commitment, you'll notice a much bigger drop in frequency and quality. If she really is into you, shell get the message. If she isn't, then now you know
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+1 yI never did, even when I felt sexually frustrated in a previous relationship.
I do know a guy who visited his LDR girlfriend, did not get lucky and ended up losing that sexual frustration with a prostitute (it's legal where I'm from). Mind you, she was cockteasing him insanely.
And no, you're not wrong for thinking it is abuse when your significant other (who you're supposed to share intimacy with) denies you intimacy and affection. Like if these things are missing, what's the point in being in a relationship?
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319 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I think unconveyed/ unmentioned/ ungrasped- unmet need (s), which causes frustration, which is also constant- leads to cheating
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20 Reply926 opinions shared on Relationships topic. In my opinion, if you are frustrated, you should talk to your partner and let him/her know and if they still don't feel like getting close to you at all or often, then you should just end the relationship (unless they're suffering from depression or just gave birth). There's no good enough reason to cheat. If you cheated because you felt sexually frustrated then I'd say that's just an excuse to do something you wanted to without feeling guilty.
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Sure, if it's a friends with benefits relationship, end it. Otherwise, it's overly simplistic to think that someone would end a relationship that easily. There's a lot time and energy invested.
I find it difficult to imagine that @Finchie40 never discussed his needs and he's been cruising through life looking for excuses to cheat. - +1 y
Exactly , I tried saving the relationship a shit ton of times , it got to a point where it was only what was best for her , she never considered my feelings , so I came to a crossroads of doing what was best for me , she choose to do what was best for her , so I wasn’t going to be her punching bag anymore , so another beautiful girl was coming on to me and wanted to give me the intimacy and affection and the positive energy so I went for it knowing my relationship was over , Now if I went back to my girlfriend like nothing happened then yes I would be wrong but no I ended it after I hooked up with the other girl , that was my answer to throw in the towel with my ex
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+1 yYes intimacy is important but if you start cheating because you're being denied it then that just shows you never respected your partner in the first place and honestly it's no wonder she wasn't interested in intimacy.
When a woman doesn't want to be intimate consecutively there is a reason, you don't just give up on figuring out what the issue is if you care about someone. There's literally so many things that can affect a woman's libido. You not caring is a big factor.
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@Sunssong how is figuring out what the issue is with intimacy in your relationship toxic?
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I am not saying she has to spread her legs every time I want sex , but when it becomes a consistent issue and she constantly has lame excuses as to why she isn’t in the mood then that becomes an issue , because the truth of the matter is she is lying and more than likely up to no good, the way I look at it is she is already cheating on the relationship , i will explain my feelings of concern and if it’s not a valid reason as to why she constantly denies me intimacy and affection then I’m sorry , if another girl is showing interest in me and makes me feel wanted and valued I am more than likely going to end up in bed with her and then end my relationship
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That isn't an excuse to cheat. There is absolutely no excuse to cheat ever. If you cared about someone and you loved them you would sit down together and figure out the issue. Intimacy issues almost always have nothing to do with anything sexual. It's almost always because they feel uncared for in other areas of your relationship, so when intimacy comes around it feels entirely one sided like they are just a hole to get pleasure from.
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I am not proud of cheating what so ever , it was just the timing , I was already about to end the relationship but another girl was there with open arms coming on to me , so I accepted it and that was my answer to end it with my girlfriend , if I went back to my girlfriend like nothing happened then that would be way more wrong but I ended the relationship immediately , by sleeping with that other girl made me
Realize I truly don’t value my girlfriend - +1 y
Well im glad you realize you were the problem.
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You didn't value your girlfriend and that is problematic.
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Probably because you didn't value her. I bet if we talked about your relationship dynamic I could figure out what the issue was in less than an hour.
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I honestly did value her , she just couldn’t handle being wrong about her actions , things that she stopped me from doing to appease her, she couldn’t stop herself from doing for me , it was her way or no way , double standards big time , she could never be wrong always right about everything , when she clearly knew she was wrong , making every excuse in the book for her actions to the point all I saw was a complete selfish person that only cared about herself , I expressed my feelings of concerns to her over and over , it would just go in one ear out the other , she saw no wrong on her doings , everything was my fault , she never put herself in my shoes like she expected me to do for her , so I was tired and mentally exhausted from being with a girl that only cared about herself , that set boundaries with me that she couldn’t follow , she was a selfish person , her selfish actions pushed me to be selfish by accepting that other girl , if I truly valued my girlfriend I would of pushed that other girl off of me but at the time it happened I wasn’t pushing her off and that made me think why am I going to remove selfishness for her when she clearly doesn’t remove it for me , I realized I was giving to someone that didn’t want to give back the same , my mind was flustered with all these questions end she reminded me of what my ex wife put me through , so in my mind she was already cheating on me by making everything about her and not removing selfishness for me , I knew it was wrong to do but I also knew that it was over between her and I
To me, sex makes or breaks the relationship. I don’t blame you at all for feeling frustrated and like it’s unfair. Sex is beautiful and fun and it’s natural for us to crave it. I can’t imagine being with a man and not having sex with him. That said, I have dated men I didn’t have much sex with and it was because we didn’t have much chemistry and the love intensity wasn’t there. Now that I’ve found the man I truly love and have chemistry with, I find sex to be so much more important. It may be you two are just not compatible. If it’s something that matters to you, you need to discuss it with her, and if she doesn’t want to compromise then I think you should find someone else you’re more compatible with. But I don’t think it’s grounds to cheat…. I think I’d deal with the frustration in other ways but then carefully move forward for yourself.
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+1 y@Finchie40 Doesn't sound like cheating rather equality. Women live to justify their decisions based on emotion sounds like you did the same thing besides if you're able to find other women that want to have sex w/ you that only proves you're created value in yourself.
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+1 yIn that situation you should make attempts to rekindle sexual intimacy in the relationship. However, if that really does not work out it could be time to end the relationship.
I would then break up, instead of cheating.
Is this not an option for you? Do you depend on a woman finacially, or what binds you to her?11 Reply1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Not at all. As a longtime cuckold who is never allowed to have any penetrative sex whatsoever, relentless teasing and sexual frustration are what enable me to be at my absolute best at all times, and the more I'm frustrated, the sweeter I become.
Of course, my situation is quite a bit different from most people, but that's what works for me, and the women I serve.
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I am not judging you but I just never really understood cuckhold relationships , me personally would not be turned on watching another guy pound my girl but again that’s just not who I am as a person, and yes intimacy and affection is important to me , if a girl doesn’t want intimacy and affection with me she isn’t the girl for me and I will move on to the next, if the relationship starts off with her and I having a lot of sex and affection and then it fades away without a valid reason , I no longer tolerate her shit , I will express my feelings of concern as to why she is no longer in the mood and whatever her reason might be it is not my problem anymore unless she has a valid reason , but it’s usually just excuses , If she wants the relationship to survive she better go get her ass some help or my ass is leaving her for someone else , I never deny my partner intimacy and affection , I don’t care if I am not in the mood , I will still please her in other ways to show her I still love and appreciate her , so if she can’t do that for me she is no longer my partner is the way I look at it , with holding intimacy and affection from a partner in my eyes is abuse , if you are no longer happy and content in the relationship then you need to move on and let me go not strong me along for your selfish decision, Guys mainly cheat on their wives because the intimacy and affection fades away , he no longer feels valued or wanted by his partner , when she starts using sex as a weapon she best be prepared to be dumped or cheated on
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Also, the hottest, sexiest woman in the world is the one you're spending your time with, but can never have. Humiliation is also a big part of the dynamic. Usually, I'll end up meeting the guy who's fucking her at some point, and when he finds out that I've never fucked her, it's unbelievably embarrassing, and when I'm listening to him fucking her, it is, quite literally, the most exciting thing I've ever experienced.
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I know a girl that has a cuckhold boyfriend and she said I could fuck her in front of him , it did cross my mind considering it’s something I have never did before so I am still juggling the thought of doing it cuz she is friggin beautiful but knowing he will be watching is kind of weird to me , it’s like part of me wants to do it but the other part I don’t lol
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Oh my goodness... you know you're going to have to do it... just to let you know, there are about 5-6 cuckolds for one alpha male (I refuse to call them bulls... lol), which means you can name your terms. Tell them you'll fuck her, but he has to stay in the next room. I'd also try to get her to agree to bareback sex, if possible. I'm so glad we're having this discussion, because there's nothing more exciting than helping an alpha male get his dick wet:)
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You never know, they may or may not have been. You do realize that there is absolutely nothing more exciting than fucking a married woman, right? Especially if you climaxed inside her. I'd love to hear some of your stories about this, if you feel like sharing them. craniator87@gmail. com
It's okay to give you my email on here, right? I don't want to get in any trouble. Thanks - +1 y
I will be honest , probably the best sex I ever had was with a married woman , she treated me like Gold and the sex was amazing , she loved eating my cum , I was so turned on when she did that without me asking her , but her husband found out and that was the end of our love affair , the only reason I did it was because he treated her like shit and she would melt when she saw me , I did feel bad for her husband but I couldn’t resist her , I think they are still married to be honest , why he took her back is beyond me cuz I wouldn’t take a girl back if she was cheating on me so it always amazed me that he did
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Oh my God... that is literally the most exciting thing I've heard for at least the past few years... 'She would melt when she saw me'. How many times did you fuck her? Thank you so much for sharing this with me... just to let you know, I haven't fucked a woman for more than twenty years... lol. That's why this turns me on so much.
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Sexy women don't want to date cheats lol. They can see the red flags they know who to avoid. I can definitely see the red flags of a cheat on the first week of meeting him
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@Billlewis a bunch of times , and what was even more hotter , she paid for the hotel rooms , she would text me the hotel and room number , the second I walked in the room she was all over me and wearing sexy lingerie for me, so I couldn’t resist her even though I knew it was wrong what she was
Doing to her husband but I realized it wasn’t my problem , she was gorgeous to my eyes and she said the sweetest things to me and treated me like a King , she would buy my gifts and loved being submissive to me , I do miss her , why her husband took her back is beyond me - +1 y
False sexy women don't need to cheat. They can just dumb men and get anyone else they want. ( In the UK I am talking about I don't know what things are like in America)
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+1 yI'm not defending nor condemning, just answering the specific question:
I think it absolutely can push someone to cheat. I believe physical intimacy is very important. It's a need. If your needs aren't being met repeatedly, there's only so much an individual can handle before it starts to affect their personal and professional lives. I can only imagine committing yourself to someone who doesn't make you feel wanted.00 Reply- 906 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
+1 yI always say a blowjob a day keeps side chicks away & when it comes to sex in a relationship if you are not getting any in a relationship it probably means you are getting it outside of the relationship.
I feel you bro, hump your fist & get some of that frustration out.
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+1 yIf you’re not getting intimacy from your partner, just leave your partner and find someone else who is meeting your needs. Just going out and cheating with someone else and then coming back to your partner is ridiculous. Either get out of your miserable relationship or deal with it.
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+1 yCheating is not a matter of sexual frustration, it's a matter of choice. You could just talk about the issue with your significant other and find a compromise; you could just go watch porn and masturbate like mist dudes do to get rid of sexual frustration. There's many choices to pick from for dealing with it, you just chose to cheat
01 Reply No cheating is wrong. Keep it in your pants. If you aren't with someone who is fulfiling that need in your life she probably doesn't like you. End things and find someone else. Stop being a coward and be a man. Stop treating sex like it's something casual. Start being respectful of it.
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+1 yThats the last thing. I find sex to be overrated and am usually the one holding back for a certain length of time
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Sex is amazing when you have sex with someone that actually loves you like you love them , sex shouldn’t even be an issue if you both love each other , when sex becomes an issue when it wasn’t an issue before , that’s when the relationship starts to fade and troubles arose and sadly that happens a lot , couples should never with hold intimacy and affection from each other , unless you have a valid reason , but when it isn’t a valid reason and it’s excuse after excuse , don’t be surprised when your partner meets someone else or ends up cheating on you , I never withhold intimacy or affection from my partner , if she is in the mood and I am not , I will still please her in other ways to let her know that I still love and appreciate her , so she should be doing the same for me , but nope the girls i end up with for some reason stop and act like I am not allowed to initiate sex that only she can , which is a big turn off to me , so I will express my feelings of concern and if nothing changes , out the door she goes or I don’t refuse the other girl wanting to be with me that doesn’t want to with hold intimacy and affection with me , if I end up in bed with that other girl , sorry you choose to cheat on the relationship when you decided to be selfish
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I honestly feel sex would be great even if i didn't love the person. But I’m not looking to find out. I prefer only having sex with someone I love. But no matter if i loved them or not, i still consider it overrated while unmarried. Like no matter how good it was, it wasn't worth breaking my pact with God
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I wouldn't do sex without a relationship. But im saying i can somewhat understand sex in a relationship without love. Because its easy to dislike your partner but still wanna bang em.
2.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. No. I mean I don’t cheat. But I think it’s like gambling or drugs. Not an addiction necessarily but a way of thinking. They like having the home life, and then a “break” with the mistress. Even if the mistress ain’t as hot…which we’ve seen countless times in celeb scandals…
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+1 yNo amount of sexual frustration will make me be a cheater not emotionally or physically. My person and relationship is worth more then any other person. Can’t even fathom someone else touching my body.
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yGirls will hate my reply but I personally don’t keep to one relationship. I travel a lot for work and depending on where I’m at I have 3 girls that each think they are my only girlfriend. I’m intimate with them all, my most memorable day so far I was intimate with one in the morning and another one of them that night.
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+1 ySexual frustration can provide an incentive to cheat, a marriage should not become a vow of celibacy. But I think in the great majority of cases its better overall to leave than to cheat
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m +1 ynever been frustrated... never cheated either
to say that I was pushed would be just excuses... so I would just never do that, neither justify such wrongdoing, nor ever cheat00 Reply 667 opinions shared on Relationships topic. It's definitely a factor, Inl had this issue with one woman i dated, once I noticed the signs of her not putting out, I ended it.
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yNope. If it's really that bad and we can't work through it then I'll just end the relationship.
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+1 yOkay I understand but it depends on the circumstances.
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yIntimacy is not all about sex. People can have sex and still cheat/breakup so if you both love each other sex or no sex should not be a problem. If you're only together just because of the sex it's not a relationship then.
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It becomes a problem when it becomes one sided , when my wants and needs aren’t being met and she doesn’t care about how I am feeling after I express my feelings of concern to me she is already cheating on our relationship is how I look at it , I only cheated because another girl was pursuing me and coming on to me during this time , pretty much helped me answer my own question to end this relationship with my current partner , cuz if I still valued my current partner I wouldn’t of cheated on her period , so it was the timing that pushed me to cheat and then end the relationship
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+1 yI’m sure it can be a factor. Not an ok excuse though.
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+1 yIf it gets to that point, break up. Cheating should never be an option.
00 Reply 309 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I've never felt the need or desire to "cheat" while in either of my 2 relationships
00 Reply4.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I used to not even need sexual frustreation...
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yI don’t need sex in order to care about someone I have a heart
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yNo, but it does push me to leave her and find a better woman.
00 Reply9.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. For some people, it does.
00 ReplyYou’re too lazy to break up, Fag.
00 ReplyWhy not break up first , then do that?
00 ReplyWhy the fuck are you in this relationship?
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Not no more , I ended up in bed with a girl that doesn’t want to with hold intimacy and affection from me , I no longer tolerate girls selfish behavior when it comes to relationships , if she doesn’t want to put out then get the fuck out , one sided relationships don’t last with me , I made the mistake once before and will never do it again
+1 yNo you cheat because you’re a disgusting person
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+1 yNo. It pushes me to. break up.
00 Reply Why do you think men jerk off?
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+1 yTo leave this relationship..
00 Reply1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Nope
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