Does sexual frustration in a relationship push you to cheat?

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Sexual frustration is something I experienced in a relationship that pushed me to cheat , Why I won’t settle down with a girl that doesn’t think intimacy and affection is important in a relationship , you can only be someone’s punching bag for to long until you realize you deserve better in life , You can only sacrifice so much for a person that isn’t sacrificing for you , I am a firm believer that cheating is wrong to do to someone , but only if that person is staying loyal and faithful to you and giving back the same as you do for them. When a relationship becomes one sided I no longer wait around , I will express my feelings of concern and ask her what is wrong? Why don’t you want intimacy and affection from me anymore , why are you constantly denying me? If she gives me lame excuses , I am going to go fuck someone else that isn’t denying me , I’m sorry sexual frustration is a real thing and life is too short to not be having sex On a regular basis in my opinion , The girls that came into my life have taught me to be this way , I feel like it’s abuse when a partner constantly denies you intimacy and affection am I wrong?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I never did, but to be honest yes I was tempted couple of times. My ex was taking some anti-depressants which he claimed were fucking up with his libido... it was pratically 0. We still kissed, but anything other then that would happen once in a month, or two. And we weren't that long together, I was very frustrated because I couldn't figure out if he was bullshitting or for real. I was depressed because of it, and it happened two times that I was very tempted: first time when my other ex asked to see me (and we used to have amazing sex) and another time while I was in a bar with my girls this very charming man was flirting with me. So yeah it did cross my mind "maybe I should just do it and break up tomorrow", but in the end I didn't do it just broke it off. The funny thing about it, I wish I did it with a guy from a bar, because after I broke off with my ex he said I was a selfish slut who only thinks about sex. Mind you he didn't even touch my pussy for like months. I never told him about my temptations I just tried to be as nice as possibile when I was ending it (it wasn't easy) just to be called a selfish slut. Oh do I miss that man from a bar!!!

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

First let's get down why she doesn't want to have sex from you. Since we don't get to hear her side of the story and only what you say, this will be tough to answer.
But from a woman's perspective, usually when she says no to sex, it's because she doesn't feel loved from you. She isn't being paid enough attention to by you. Women feel sex with emotions first. If you haven't been putting sweet and loving things in her mental bank, then the bank get's empty until you fill it up again. She also needs to feel appreciated. Do you leave her alone a lot? Is she feeling lonely?

You sound like you just need her to empty your load inside of her. She's not a bank where you just go and make a deposit and that's it, it's done. How do you treat her after sex? Do you still make her feel wanted and cared for? Or do you just get up right after, then leave her laying there alone?

So while you are feeling deprived and go out and cheat, why don't you make the one you have WANT to be with you.

TheThingALing · Accepted Answer

Most guys kneel at the altar of the puss. Girls will give the best performance early on, and then one day shell invite you over and deny your advances even before you've offered your commitment. if you don't check this behavior at that moment, shell know she's in control. Don't say a word, just get up and leave and give her a day or two to understand that you won't stand for that again. If you don't, the second you offer your commitment, you'll notice a much bigger drop in frequency and quality. If she really is into you, shell get the message. If she isn't, then now you know

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

I never did, even when I felt sexually frustrated in a previous relationship.

I do know a guy who visited his LDR girlfriend, did not get lucky and ended up losing that sexual frustration with a prostitute (it's legal where I'm from). Mind you, she was cockteasing him insanely.

And no, you're not wrong for thinking it is abuse when your significant other (who you're supposed to share intimacy with) denies you intimacy and affection. Like if these things are missing, what's the point in being in a relationship?

Rosexøxø · Answer

I think unconveyed/ unmentioned/ ungrasped- unmet need (s), which causes frustration, which is also constant- leads to cheating

DEPENDING

on how severe that frustration is, how urgent the need is or seems, and how the person feels their partner views- their unmet needs..

Genie23 · Answer

In my opinion, if you are frustrated, you should talk to your partner and let him/her know and if they still don't feel like getting close to you at all or often, then you should just end the relationship (unless they're suffering from depression or just gave birth). There's no good enough reason to cheat. If you cheated because you felt sexually frustrated then I'd say that's just an excuse to do something you wanted to without feeling guilty.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Yes intimacy is important but if you start cheating because you're being denied it then that just shows you never respected your partner in the first place and honestly it's no wonder she wasn't interested in intimacy.

When a woman doesn't want to be intimate consecutively there is a reason, you don't just give up on figuring out what the issue is if you care about someone. There's literally so many things that can affect a woman's libido. You not caring is a big factor.

coconut94 · Answer

To me, sex makes or breaks the relationship. I don’t blame you at all for feeling frustrated and like it’s unfair. Sex is beautiful and fun and it’s natural for us to crave it. I can’t imagine being with a man and not having sex with him. That said, I have dated men I didn’t have much sex with and it was because we didn’t have much chemistry and the love intensity wasn’t there. Now that I’ve found the man I truly love and have chemistry with, I find sex to be so much more important. It may be you two are just not compatible. If it’s something that matters to you, you need to discuss it with her, and if she doesn’t want to compromise then I think you should find someone else you’re more compatible with. But I don’t think it’s grounds to cheat…. I think I’d deal with the frustration in other ways but then carefully move forward for yourself.

Vegasrunner · Answer

@finchie40 Doesn't sound like cheating rather equality. Women live to justify their decisions based on emotion sounds like you did the same thing besides if you're able to find other women that want to have sex w/ you that only proves you're created value in yourself.

EricSummer · Answer

In that situation you should make attempts to rekindle sexual intimacy in the relationship. However, if that really does not work out it could be time to end the relationship.

I would then break up, instead of cheating.

Is this not an option for you? Do you depend on a woman finacially, or what binds you to her?

Billlewis · Answer

Not at all. As a longtime cuckold who is never allowed to have any penetrative sex whatsoever, relentless teasing and sexual frustration are what enable me to be at my absolute best at all times, and the more I'm frustrated, the sweeter I become.

Of course, my situation is quite a bit different from most people, but that's what works for me, and the women I serve.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

I'm not defending nor condemning, just answering the specific question:

I think it absolutely can push someone to cheat. I believe physical intimacy is very important. It's a need. If your needs aren't being met repeatedly, there's only so much an individual can handle before it starts to affect their personal and professional lives. I can only imagine committing yourself to someone who doesn't make you feel wanted.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I always say a blowjob a day keeps side chicks away & when it comes to sex in a relationship if you are not getting any in a relationship it probably means you are getting it outside of the relationship.

I feel you bro, hump your fist & get some of that frustration out.

Mangospacho · Answer

If you’re not getting intimacy from your partner, just leave your partner and find someone else who is meeting your needs. Just going out and cheating with someone else and then coming back to your partner is ridiculous. Either get out of your miserable relationship or deal with it.

dragoblack · Answer

Cheating is not a matter of sexual frustration, it's a matter of choice. You could just talk about the issue with your significant other and find a compromise; you could just go watch porn and masturbate like mist dudes do to get rid of sexual frustration. There's many choices to pick from for dealing with it, you just chose to cheat

TracyF · Answer

No cheating is wrong. Keep it in your pants. If you aren't with someone who is fulfiling that need in your life she probably doesn't like you. End things and find someone else. Stop being a coward and be a man. Stop treating sex like it's something casual. Start being respectful of it.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Thats the last thing. I find sex to be overrated and am usually the one holding back for a certain length of time

OddBeMe · Answer

No. I mean I don’t cheat. But I think it’s like gambling or drugs. Not an addiction necessarily but a way of thinking. They like having the home life, and then a “break” with the mistress. Even if the mistress ain’t as hot…which we’ve seen countless times in celeb scandals…

Who would cheat on a Kennedy?

Justmeagain1 · Answer

No amount of sexual frustration will make me be a cheater not emotionally or physically. My person and relationship is worth more then any other person. Can’t even fathom someone else touching my body.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls will hate my reply but I personally don’t keep to one relationship. I travel a lot for work and depending on where I’m at I have 3 girls that each think they are my only girlfriend. I’m intimate with them all, my most memorable day so far I was intimate with one in the morning and another one of them that night.

richardcory · Answer

Sexual frustration can provide an incentive to cheat, a marriage should not become a vow of celibacy. But I think in the great majority of cases its better overall to leave than to cheat

NathanDavis · Answer

never been frustrated... never cheated either to say that I was pushed would be just excuses... so I would just never do that, neither justify such wrongdoing, nor ever cheat

shades777 · Answer

It's definitely a factor, Inl had this issue with one woman i dated, once I noticed the signs of her not putting out, I ended it.

My advice is to not put up with it and leave, cheating is cowardly and disrespectful to you and them

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. If it's really that bad and we can't work through it then I'll just end the relationship.

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