So I'll start by saying that my fiance (32m) and I (30f) have been together since 2014 we have been engaged since 2021 and live in an apartment together. Things are good as far as we laugh a lot we travel and don't have kids. I figured we'd be together forever but the last couple years I've felt something lacking. When intimate it's usually all about him, he purchases and does what he wants without including me. Which it's his money we don't share finances or anything. But he makes a good bit of money and never asks if I need any help or anything. He just says I need to work harder or get a better job. Which I really like my job and what I do. I'm finally mentally healthy but he never congratulated me on getting my job. He just says I can do better. He spends his money on his hobbies so we don't have a house or prospects of a house. He refuses to do a lot of things that I like to do such as go to the beach or go on family outings with my parents. If we go on a trip it's what he wants to do.
So now the biggest issue is my fiance is now looking for a new career in a city about 5 hours from where I'm from. I'm close to my family and friends... not sure if I want to move... yet he's already making all the decisions and told me to start looking for places to live in the new town. I don't think going to the new town away from everything I love would bring me happiness... once again it's only for him and his happiness.
Also to throw another problem into the mix as of a month or so ago I ended up chatting to someone (a male) on Facebook and we chat all the time and have gotten really close. Closer than I intended. I feel like maybe this shows there's someone else out there that's more suited for me. But there's just too much going on and I just don't know what to do. Please help put this in perspective. Any advice would be appreciated.
TLDR; fiance makes all decisions in the relationship, he's set on getting a career in a town 5 hours away and I'm not sure I want to go.
