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Is this even close to normal?

silouan

my girlfriend and I were having a fantastic day, when after eating out we were walking and I asked the time - we had planned to go home and spend some intimate time together, but she told me it was 4:30… I responded, “ah man! We have to be somewhere at 5:00.” She immediately accused me of abusing her with this comment and punishing her with my disappointment towards her, but I did not mean anything by it except that the time got away from us and we would have to wait… granted, I was disappointed, but not at her, just at the circumstances… she then threatened me with leaving me, and an argument began, and it escalated to her screaming, breaking up with me, and physically attacking me. I fail to see what I did wrong, and, frankly, I think she is abusive and I am sick of her control, screaming and violence. She hurled the most intense cruel comments at me, debasing me in every way that she knew would hurt. Then, later this evening, she begged me for sex… told me how much she loves me… but still tries to insist that all problems are my fault, that I am abusive myself with making the comment that I previously made. Furthermore, this type of situation is often repeated - every day or so… and I am tired!! I want to make her keep her promise of breaking up with me, I want someone who treats me with kindness and not so freaking jumpy at that least little comment that they can misinterpret. Or maybe I just want to stay single at this point. I have been with my girlfriend for over a year, we are very close and extremely physically attracted to each other, but… I just cannot take anymore of what I perceive as abuse… or do you think that I am at fault?

Is this even close to normal?
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