The most important thing is to understand that every man is different, so you should not judge future guys by past guys.
It's something I had to do. My ex was controlling, violent, manipulative, and so on. I had to understand that not all women are the same. It's a conscious choice. If I didn't do that I'd have never met my wife.
Have you considered counseling? How do you learn to trust? Healthy people come to trust others gradually, one small thing at a time. We make a date. We're risking the time it takes to prepare for the date, and the opportunity to do something elsr. Do they consistently show up as promised? We gradually trust people over time.
Your traumas and insecurities are not your current partner's fault. I don't know what exactly makes you feel that way but it's mainly your problem and not your partner's problem to fix it. If you tend to stalk their social media and see who he likes/follows stop doing that immediately cuz that will drain you and consume your energy.
For it to occur there has to be effort from both sides not just you alone. Cause if you put in the work which is therapy and couple counseling and your partner's behaviour remains largely unchanged than it would be hard to trust again. Willingness has to be there from both sides, it does take time but it is fully healable.
Gaining trust back is like re-building a sandcastle that's been washed away by the tide—both delicate and worth the effort. The key is to start small. Trust-building is a daily exercise in honesty, vulnerability, and patience. First, work on trusting yourself; your judgment, your instincts. Then, deliberately give trust in small doses in everyday interactions, noting the outcomes and adjusting as necessary. Open, honest conversations about your fears and boundaries with those close to you can also foster deeper understanding and patience on both ends. Remember, it's okay to take your time and give yourself grace through this process. Let mutual respect and open communication be your north stars. Love and trust might have taken a backseat in your past, but with patience and self-compassion, you’re more than capable of driving them back to the forefront of your relationships. 🌟
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Their actions will prove it in time if the trust for them is restored. It’s not impossible.
Trust is earned... initially... or when its lost. It's harder to regain trust, but not impossible.
I have been in your situation cause I was dating someone who emotional abused me and I knew I had to get out of it and go be on my own I build trust with people little by little
I believe that it is definitely possible and how to go about getting it back would depend on what aspect of your trust was broken.
On the individual side I do think you can come to trust someone again but it will take a lot of time, open and honest communication and I think taking things slow and respecting boundaries or setting boundaries. However I think it does depend on what they did to break your trust.
Once trust is broken 💔 with some one, it will never be the same between the two of you.
You can just tell yourself that now that person has the capacity to lie, cheat, not trust, etc., but still have a relationship with them.
Sometimes you cannot get trust back. I dated a girl that cheated on me. She did not have sex with the guy but still cheated. I stayed away from her for a while but we eventually got back together. I lived her but I never trusted her.
I, like you, feel much the same, but you have to put yourself out there and try to reestablish trust with someone. Not easy to do, but try not to be suspicious of everyone you meet and go out with. Take it slow and easy.
I'd try to keep him within a close enough area that allows you to be able to verify/confirm where he is and what he's up to.
It helps if you can find someone who is understanding, and over a period of time gives you reason to start trusting again.
You are probably chasing too many “bad boys”.
Trust is just a cold calculation. Too many negative examples turn the odds against trusting someone ever again.
Once trust is broken it will stay that way. There are some things in life that can't be mended and this is one of them.
That should be a mutual decision, and neither should be the money dictator.
Dont think too much that you lost something or you needed something just feel and enjoy the moment..
Trust-- Never depend or trust someone
when it comes to relationship its 100% depends on how you love your partner
Time. Time and consistency. Take note of who treats you in specific ways, note red flags. Even then it's up to you to be willing to get hurt
You're like 22... How much could you possibly experience
Once’s it gone it’s gone if it teaching that’s all you can see when you look at that person.
With new people you mean?
Once’s it’s gone it’s gone.
i trust way to easy
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