Why do guys dislike feminine women?

Question

I see so many guys complain about girls and their time spent on make up, hair, etc and how they basically dislike their femininity which is required to attract you.. it seems like guys like girls without make up and nice clothes yet the only girls who seem to attract the most guys are ones who are very feminine, dress up, do make up, etc. Do guys just like girls who are very feminine because they're (sometimes) self-absorbed and have princess-like attitudes? Is it just the personality of a "feminine" girl that turns most guys off?

Smmyskittles · Accepted Answer

It depends on YOUR definition of a feminine woman.

- Me, personally, it's someone who wears a lot of dresses (or skirts), does light makeup, wears heels a lot, and is very sweet. - - That is *my* view on feminine. Not everyone's.

- - - Men don't want someone who's got the "princess" attitude, like you said. Well, *some*.

From the men I've known, they usually prefer:
Easy going
Funny
Sweet
Adventurous
Doesn't complain/nag
Isn't afraid to get dirty (paintball, dirt-biking. some hunting, etc)
Good diet with a good workout
Modest [ [ This is rarely said, but *majority*really do like modesty in certain ways ] ]
Takes care of herself but isn't high maintenance.

- - Not all men, but a good part of them - -

Truthfully, very few men want to have to take the time to care for a woman who's going to act like a little child ( that's how I perceive "princess" attitude)

aeblalock · Accepted Answer

I have rarely met a man who dislikes feminine women. All the men I have been with or known, however, dislike women who wear a lot of makeup, super trendy clothes, attention-grabbing outfits, etc.

The men I've always known loves the feminine, educated woman. So, while they value a feminine woman, they also value an educated woman who can carry a conversation and who can contribute to his life in a way that adds value.

Hopefully I'm not too far off topic,

Sara413 · Accepted Answer

I think k they like a woman who looks pit together but they don't want someone who's high maintenance or who's super obsessed with their physical appearance.

Zorax · Accepted Answer

I prefer sporty and casual girls, basically - tomboyish girls. I never liked makeup, heels and other stuff like that.  So called "femininity" and "masculinity" are just social constructs, nothing else.  My type of girls look like this:

martyfellow · Accepted Answer

Femininity isn't about hair and makeup, it's the way they speak to a guy, the tone in their voice! No one is really that impressed with hairstyles and make-up,

Mesonfielde · Answer

Well it's odd because I like a feminine body type (slightly bigger waist, nice curve on the butt and the breast; NOT necessarily overweight although I'm more lenient in that direction) with slightly more reserved behavior ; but I am not attracted to this fake paint bullshit on the nails and the face.

So it's kinda like, tomboyish in sense of behavior, and feminine in appearance (shoulder length hair is hot!) but without the miniskirts and the high heels and the warpaint.

The girls who cake makeup on their face are like girls with tattoos. They are more "exhibitional" which means they are more likely to get sexual faster. The more the makeup, the more the desperation. So if you want sex, it makes more sense to go for those people.

Shame that they don't interest me one bit.

So while I voted C), it's because I don't want to associate my preference with the "feminine look" endorsed by the media and culture - paint all over the face and the hands and the nails and blah blah.

I prefer the NATURAL feminine look that women with the right body type and shape (and face (and voice)) NATURALLY have.

ak666 · Answer

I like feminine looks.

For example, a woman wearing a very square-cut suit is actually "masculinizing" her features, since female anatomy is generally less square. There's a greater tilt to the pelvis, arch to the spine, slimmer shoulders, etc. A man wearing heels is "feminizing" his appearance since elevating his heels is actually exaggerating the tilt of his pelvis in a way that would make him look more like a woman. That's not a social construct with these types of fashion. They're designed to accentuate the features that separate men from women.

So I tend to like something between A & B. I like a woman who looks like a woman and exaggerates features universally found in female anatomy through her clothing, posture, etc., further separating the appearance of her body from male anatomy.

And I like a woman who has similar interests to me. If she likes to do things like vert skateboarding and riding motorcycles, awesome.

But even if she looks and dresses like a female and has some mutual interests socially-associated as being "masculine", I still want to be reminded quite often that I'm talking to a girl.

meatballs21 · Answer

Spending hours a day putting your slap on and doing your hair, and then refusing to do any activity that might mess the makeup or hair up = boring.

I much prefer the tomboy who can quickly clip her hair up and jumps into the action with you. Dolling yourself up has its place, but I don't wear a suit and tie every day for the same reason: save it for special occasions and the impact is that much greater.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

I don't think that's femininity. I'm not really getting your question.

"they basically dislike their femininity"
They don't dislike their femininity, what do you think it is?

"guys like girls without make up and nice clothes"
Yes, this is true. What's the problem?

"girls who seem to attract the most guys are ones who are very feminine, dress up, do make up, etc."
Again, I'm not sure that's 'femininity', I think that's a girly look though.
But yes, make up and whatnot can make you look good so attractive looking girls will get more attention, naturally.

"Do guys just like girls who are very feminine because they're (sometimes) self-absorbed and have princess-like attitudes?"
We call those people cunty, few people like that BS.

"Is it just the personality of a "feminine" girl that turns most guys off?"
What? Again, what do you think feminine means?

"Why do guys dislike feminine women?"
They... don't?

skykidx1 · Answer

That's not really the case and femininity has nothing to do with make up. My ex was very feminine the way she talked and the way she walked but she could be a bit of a tomboy sometimes. My new girlfriend is 95 tomboy and 5% girly i only see her in a dress just once which i had to beg the girl to put it on.. sucks i love girls in dresss. But to your question it's not that guy"s hate girly girly it just depends on the guy. I like both amd i woild strongly perfer my girlfriend only wear light make up but that's 100% her choice.

Kylesar · Answer

It isn't the personality of a feminine girl that turns me off. It's the princess attitude I hate. This really goes for anyone. I don't think that makes you more feminine. It just makes you more of a bitch.

My girlfriend is very much Feminine (By my standards at least), but she doesn't give a flying fuck about makeup. She wears it, sure, but she doesn't spend 25,000 hours in the bathroom doing that and her hair (unless it's something like prom)

I'm a guy so I can't tell a woman what femininity is, but I don't think (and I hope) it's not just hair, makeup, dresses and skirts.

In other words, I hope femininity isn't just appealing to the negative stereotypes of women in regards to their appearance (obsessive, 25 hours in the bathroom, getting worked up if the wind blows in their hair). If not appealing to that is tomboyish, I'll gladly take that

anonanonanonanon · Answer

I think it is a mix between guys mostly not interested in discussing that topic (like girls are annoyed when guys talk about soccer) and that it takes such a long time when going outside (girls ready in 1 hour, men ready in 5 minutes and then waiting for her especially when you are late to meet someone else). Also many dislike it of you over-do with make up etc.
There is a difference between feminine and looking/behaving like a x. (I don't know right now how the word was when a female is over-done like a bitch/slut).
Also you should notice the difference when a guy chooses someone because she is feminine vs. when she is a slut (hint: relationship vs. ONS)

AleDeEurope · Answer

I prefer feminine looks and personality, and yes, I'll still complain if she takes forever to get ready, even though I actually like the fact she's taking care of her looks.
I prefer girls with no makeup, but only if they're beautiful, of course. Not wearing makeup doesn't mean you're not feminine.
I love girls with dresses and skirts, with heels, knee-high socks, chokers... so yeah, I love feminine women.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

I voted other because I dislike makeup while I like feminine women. Personally I think of it as a vain waste of time, but it should not be intrinsic to femininity itself. I like it if a girl wears a skirt, or acts cute or what not, but that doesn't mean I'll like makeup as well.

godfatherfan · Answer

I am not sure where you get that. Feminine is super hot. Don't confuse being frustrated with it taking hours to do something with not liking the result. There really is no reason it should take some women as long as it does to do things like makeup. Some women can knock it out in no time. if someone is ALWAYS late because they take forever, then they need to adjust their schedule or figure out how to do things faster.

Mrwoo99 · Answer

I like petite traditional feminine women for relationships. I usually stay away from these so called strong independent women as they call themselves. Am attracted to women who make me feel like a man which by being submissive and feminine, not all this feminist BS.

anonman32 · Answer

your definition of femininity is really weird. spending shitloads of time on your appearance does not make you more feminine it makes you a pain in the ass.

Kko123 · Answer

I don't think it's a lack of interest in femininity. I think a lot of guys just don't like high maintenance women, and sometimes, even though this is not always the case, women who wear a lot of make up or dress a certain way can come off that way.

AmericanBoy · Answer

All guys like a beautiful woman,. But to have a woman that's not afraid to go fishing with you, or on a motorcycle ride, or a ball game is more of what they are looking for in a life mate. But a man may need to sit through a Julia Roberts movie with his woman too. It's all about doing the things you love with the people you love.

YaBaba · Answer

I don't think they dislike femininity. They just dislike how some girls are way too obsessed with makeup.

wolfie12 · Answer

To me, being feminine means her being caring, somebody you see and you think "she'd make a good mother", that's feminine to me. No hair, nails, artificial tan or makeup can give that to a woman.

You see that by her ways, how she behaves and what she believes into.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Femininity is about thinking, talking, and acting like a woman. It doesn't that much, if anything at all even to do with make-up and hairstyles. I'm perfectly fine with women wearing make-up. Just don't overdo it.

cth96190 · Answer

I like feminine women, but I also say that unless a woman can shoot, ride a horse and a motorcycle and kick my arse in the dojo she is of not much use to me.

serious · Answer

I don't know it depends on a guy's definition of femininity. Being feminine is not restricted to just hairstyles and makeup

bvictor · Answer

Guys don't dislike feminine women. They just can't relate to them like they would say a tomboy. To me though both are equally attractive. Just don't confuse not being able to relate with dislike.

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