OH PUHLEASE! NICE GUYS FINISH LAST BECAUSE THEYRE BIG PUSSIES. IT'S YOUR FAULT IF YOUR CRUSH ENDS UP WITH SOMEONE ELSE AFTER BEING SINGLE FOR 80 YEARS! .. listen im dealing with one right now and you dont understand how frustrating it is! because usually nice are too scared to show any interest so they supress any feelings and just act casual, AND THAT IS WHAT you're NOT SUPPOSED TO DO! the reason why girls generally (not all) go for "bad guys" or "Fboys" is because those guys, even thogh theyre assholes, they take the lead, they act confident and charming, personally i dont like bad boys but i do like a man that has the balls to tell me how he feels! instead of sitting in your corner waiting for a miracle to happen to complain when it doesn't, MAKE IT HAPPEN! or at least give us signs if you wana play it safe! i always say there's two reasons why a man gets in the friendzone : either he didn't try to get out of it, or is physically unattractive to the girl. So you still have a good chance to make it! JUST STOP BEING A BITCH.
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Because they rely on basic human kindness as their only "plus" when it comes to dating. Hate to tell ya but women value multidimensional guys the same way guys value multidimensional women. If all you have to offer is the ability to be nice, that's not enough no matter how much people try to sell it to you otherwise, because it can turn into ass-kissing or even manipulation to rely solely on our willingness to be kind to people. What I mean by the latter is a lot of people will constantly do "nice" things but then expect something in return, and when they don't get it, it turns into resentment.
Also nice guys rarely make a move, so there's that.
All in all you have to be more than nice. Have a dimensional personality, thoughts, opinions, other appealing traits - just holding a door doesn't set you apart from most regular people.
Because they're not as nice as they think they are or as they claim.
I am automatically leery of guys who claim "Oh, I'm a nice guy!" because they almost always follow it up with some rampage about a woman who broke up with them.
Y'all just weren't right for each other. Don't get hung up on it. "Nice guys" are most likely to get hung up on a break up and demonize the woman for the break up and then that deters all other women because he comes in jaded. But oh, wait, he's a nice guy... no. Jaded people are not nice. And every self proclaimed nice guy I've met is extremely jaded.
Most "nice" guys aren't nice... they simply don't ruffle anyone's feathers cuz they're too chicken shit to say or do anything. They've got no back bones, so they rarely find the mustard seed of courage needed to ask a girl out. When they do ask And when they inevitably get rejected (cuz they've never done anything to become more attractive to women), they get entitled and bratty, showing their completely underdeveloped character.
Look around you at the boyfriends and husbands of various girls in serious relationships. Many of them are indeed fairly good and kind people. They're not perfect but they're typically quite decent as people.
Meanwhile look at all the lonely types out there who repeatedly strike out with women. A lot of them are "nice" (note that I use "nice" in quotes).
It's not necessarily that compassionate guys finish last. It's that guys who finish last are often "nice".
Those "nice" ones are usually too eager to please a girl, believing they care about her so much even though they're never even dated her, and believing if she goes for other guys that they must all be jerks, e. g. That kind of "niceness" tends to ward off girls in the same way that ass-kissers tend to ward off people in general.
It's not a very attractive quality but there's a way to be kind in a strong, not weak and subservient kind of way, that tends to attract women far more effectively.
Nice guys don't end up alone... guys who don't take any action end up alone. Any guy could end up alone if he doesn't take action on his own behalf. A relationship doesn't get delivered to your doorstep.. you got to make it happen.. and it's tough. You may have to go through a bunch of crappy ones to find a good one! Depends on what you are willing to sacrifice?
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Being nice is an expected attribute that everyone should have, not a soul-defining character trait. If being nice is the only thing you have to offer then no one will be interested.
Because they aren't actually nice, or because they don't have any quality at all besides being nice.
90% of the guys are nice if you get to know them (and they're interested in you too. If they're not, it's more like 50%). Not being nice is a downside, but just being nice isn't going to get you much.Because a lot of women consider themselfes "above" the instinct driven, stupid, egoistic men (thanks feminism for this view on men). Then they want to "tame" the bad boy. But Nice guys are already tamed, therefore no challenge anymore.
Women go for "nice guys" once they have either "tamed" a bad boy, who then got boring to them or and especially, once they overestimated their power over men and the "bad boy" turned out to be a real asshole.Competition. There's more males than females. And that's not even considering wants/needs like common interests, likes/dislikes, dealbreakers, etc. For me I'm picky so only about 1-2% of the female population I'm even interested in (even when I'm horny (more often than not I'd rather jack off than settle, got tired of settling long ago). And most of those 1-2% aren't interested since I'm too short and old. Solution: find other hobbies besides women. Video games and making chain mail pass the time nicely.
... if your under 18 years old, then you still have a loooooong time before you might end up alone. If this is an observation youve made about other older nice guys, then I would ask, Are they really nice? Are they grown up? Are they mature? Do they respect themselves? Nice guys dont finish last, they just dont come in first, but they usually end up with the best partners and sweetest relationship!
There's nice and then there's genuine. Nice guys tend do nice things in return for something special which isn't nice at all. And nice guys barely make a move and then they call the guy who did make a move a jerk or douchebag. Genuine guys don't kiss up to the girl and don't try and act like somebody they're not in hopes of getting in a girls pants. The nice guys often complain when things don't go their way and they develop a negative attitude towards women rather than fixing and improving in certain areas. And yes girls do like nice guys, just not ones trying to act nice. Hope i helped 😊
The reason why is because women do not value things like loyalty, empathy, faithfulness, honesty, emotionally sportiveness, moral integrity, sensitivity, and willingness to compromise.
Nice guys usually are all of this and or strive to be all of this.
Women go for stuff like skin tone, height, social status, and noticability.
Nice guys do not try for these sort of things.Because y'all think we owe you something for being decent human beings. Sorry, you're not entitled to shit.
If you're only being nice to get sex and relationships then news flash: you're not actually a nice guy.
They don't. The ones that constantly complain because "no girl wants them" do, but the majority do.
"Why do nice guys end up alone?" because usually, they lack the balls to make moves on women #ItsJustThatSimple because Plenty of girls find me to be cool as fuck to talk to and or hang out with (big plus/I'm a generous guy).
Now when ya mix that with the fact that most girls find me to be funny yeah, i don't even worry about being alone nor do i ever think I'm not going to get ___'s number when i ask for it haha.Because they tend to be the ones who are generous to females in the beginning. They will give the female anything they want and they usually dont really have backdone. I kind of feel sad for guys who are nerds and who noone really talks to.
Actual nice guys (good decent guys) don't, they get swooped up and generally fast but they are few and far between. The "self proclaimed nice guys" usually do though but that's usually for a good reason.
because they mess with the wrong girls.
also because they are too depented and too needy.
also because they need more balls and pursuit things they want in life.
no social skills knowledge.
no confidenceMy man is a nice guy and he has me so you're wrong. 😑🙂
Because they're only nice until they get what they want. You're not 'nice' if you're only act that way to get in a girl's pants.
That's not true. I have dated both nice guy kind of type and bad guys. My "bad boy" exes were fun to be with, new things to discover and have fun with but their rotten personality made me feel disgusted. My current boyfriend in the other hand is very nice, I consider him as a gentleman. He respect me even though I'm quite opposite than him, and for me that is a turn on. I think nice guys who ends alone are those who have no confidence in themself or maybe lack color in their personality.
Because "nice guys" are insecure guys and aren't truthful. They do what they can to please others so they are liked and want to be considered as nice or good. They don't do it because they want to without anything in return. It's just attention seeking because they can't be honest with themselves.
Those 'alone' guys usually don't have enough confidence to connect with a woman. If you have confidence in YOURSELF, it gives a woman confidence in YOU.
i would say no balls, a lot of men are guilty of this but at some point they go for it, seriosuly nice guys who never want to offend avoid these situations and they never go for the prize so they end up alone cause of lack of trying , of course if you're rich you will always find someone but if you're not you need balls, you need to talk to girls and get them no other way.
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