let's define stringing along as staying involved with you but not making the full effort to be in a relationship. perhaps it is nearly acting like a couple but not being exclusive or official. or perhaps it is one of those hot and cold, on and off, here-then-not-then back again type things.
it's "stringing along" because it's that gray area where you feel caught on a string, you don't know what you are or where it's going and it isn't something solid or official, so you don't know if you should just cut the string and be done or not.
why do guys do it to girls?
they like the attention, they like having an option but for whatever reason they don't want to commit to you, they want to have sex with you, they have other options or perhaps an official relationship they are hiding from you.
i was in that situation. it really broke my heart. didn't end up having sex because I figured either way he was going to dump me so I didn't want to give it up because I knew I would feel worse if I had sex with him.
all I can say is to be fair both genders do this. I am not good at faking relationships even though many girls are. if I don't like a guy that way I don't lead him on.
however, guys have accused me of leading them on but for a different reason-i wasn't letting them have sex with me. but, he wasn't giving me a relationship, he was stringing me along because he wanted to have sex with me and liked my attention, I was a younger chick who looked good on his arm. so, he was pretending he liked me and keeping me around with enough attention to keep me interested and make me feel like there's hope for a relationship, but not giving enough to ease my insecurities and doubts. and I was letting him, and not cutting the string and moving on when logically I should have, because I liked him a lot and hoped his shallow attempts, where it was obvious he was just stringing me on but I ignored it, would turn real. they don't, let me tell you.
you learn from experience, it's hard until you've been burned and it will hurt. but a girl just has to be smart. don't have sex until a relationship. period. when it comes up tell the guy that you only have sex in an exclusive relationship. many guys will run, yes. but they just would have strung you along. I guarantee that the guys who truly like you enough to be in a relationship won't run 99% of the time, if you say you'll only have sex in a relationship. the guys who run from this are not the ones you want.
honestly most of the motivation guys have for stringing a girl along is sex or at least some action. you have a good he wants and you have an interest of self respect and being in a happy relationship. the guys who truly value you will pay the "price" because they like you for MORE than the sex and want to be in a real relationship. the ones who string you along are just playing, they don't want to pay up, they are trying to cheat you. don't give in!
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"If a guy really wants you, he will do everything he can to make you his girlfriend."
Not true. Nice that you think so, though. It means you're one of those that can be strung along, because you hold such silly ideas about men.
I'm not looking for a relationship is pretty damn clear. How is that stinging someone along? If he's not looking for a relationship, how in the world do you think you have a chance? =S
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lol, I could say the same thing about women...men do it for the same reason women do it. They like the attention
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