Guys: Do you like it when a girl speaks her mind? Girls: Are you the blunt or quiet type?

Question

I've always been very open and honest in general. So much so that it's almost as if I shock people for being real instead of just telling people what they want to hear. I notice that they're are so many people afraid to speak their mind or say how they really feel. I don't understand that, I don't understand the point of holding back. If you're happy, embrace it. If you're sad, say it. If they upset you, let them know. If you're curious, just ask. Life is too short not to speak your mind.

InfoBot · Accepted Answer

The idea that someone will be open and honest is good in principle but whether or not you like it will depend on what's on her mind at the time, obviously. Some things you might want to hear, some things not. It's good that she gives you honesty but her honesty may well be something that pisses you off. Overally though, it's easier to know where you stand with someone who is honest.

I will add that honesty should not negate tact and manners. You can be honest with good intentions or honest with bad intentions. "Yes, you really are very fat and I find you very ugly" is not the kind of honesty that is constructive or helpful. Using honesty as an excuse for being a dick is something that some people do hide behind.

SinghSong · Accepted Answer

Being blunt doesn't necessarily mean that you're not quiet. I'm extremely blunt, but I'm also relatively quiet and reserved. It is possible to be both- if you are being real, speaking your mind and saying how you really feel instead of just telling people what they want to hear or speaking for the sake of speaking, then you should be speaking LESS, not more- A truly blunt and honest person doesn't bother with small talk, and small talk makes up the overwhelming majority of what most people say. Therefore, a truly honest and blunt person should automatically be quieter. And if you're not, then are you truly being blunt, open and honest? Or are you merely being confrontational?

enirikiu · Accepted Answer

I'm so extremely shy. I just can't speak up and always back out at the last minute on speaking up to a guy. About a lot of things. Sometimes I don't want to trouble the guy, or sometimes I just have horrible social anxiety. Either way, I don't have a lot of confidence in my ability to communicate. I'm really introverted, but I can appear extroverted to friends sometimes. I've been trying to overcome it more, so it's getting better.

Thanks for making this helpful question, by the way. It's really gonna help guys and girls understand each other better.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Guys can dig outspoken girls... if she has a little bit of TACT about it. No one likes the person who says the totally UNFILTERED things that people say - because that often comes across insulting and crass. Yes sometimes it's necessary but it's rarely effective.

You can be blunt, but smart. Know how to word things to get the best results, know how to put things to minimize the drama without losing the impact of you statement. And, when need be: unleash the beast.

Getcha a girl like dat. ^

witherwing · Accepted Answer

I'm the quiet type. I only speak after carefully evaluating what to say and mostly just observe and listen. But this doesn't apply, when I'm with people I know very well. I don't choose my words as carefully then, but still am in no means the most talkative.

karahiri · Answer

I think I'm both. I'm blunt when I need to be, more tactful if someone needs to be carefully managed.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The girl who I have been dating for the past month is quite blunt and candid and I absolutely love it!

Lancaster4201 · Answer

Both are fine and have their own advantages and disadvantages. In regards to being blunt, it depends on how blunt are you, are you a jerk about it, and do you know when to curb your bluntness. Someone who isn't considerate of others and who speaks every thought as soon as it enters their head isn't attractive.

I don't care if you are blunt or not (both are attractive in their own way). I do care about being polite with the bluntness and not being a jerk.

Wonderer89 · Answer

I'm a bit of both... if I have nothing to contribute that adds some kind of value (helpful, kind, true etc) then I stay quiet.
If it's around my people though it's generally whatever pops into my head

Gracefulhippo · Answer

If a girl never feels she can be honest or speak up about what she thinks or how she's feeling, a dude can get blindsided by problems in the relationship he never even saw coming. I guess a shy girl who doesn't have any issues could work, but it'd just be boring, in my opinion.

rjroy3 · Answer

"Guys: Do you like it when a girl speaks her mind?"

With the caveat of her being caring and respectful yes I do. If she's just in a bitchy mood and vomits that bullshit on me. No... no I do not like or prefer that over her calming down first and speaking later lol.

Mexicoman101 · Answer

I appreciate bluntness and frank honest, as long as they're not just being blunt about their bitchy or critical impulses. I can actually enjoy that as long as it comes with her being sincerely forward with me about what makes her happy, how she feels about my music, etc. It opens doors to communication, where being too silent closes them & leaves me guessing in ways that can amount to grasping at straws.

Cosytoasty · Answer

Tactful and witty is what i like, you can be blunt but skilled with words so that it doesn't sound blunt you can even turn things into a joke while still being blunt.

Anonymous · Answer

i speak my mind
Well honestly, my ex... I would ask him to lick my cooch because I loved it and saw it in porn videos. He would be so hesitant and insist on a shower. He even told me to shave because he doesn't like hair. so I told him that he literally has issues and that i deserve better and broke things up.
My new boyfriend however eats everything and he even, begs me to lick it. I came back from the gym once, and he licked me right away without ever asking for a shower because he tells me i taste the best... he doesn't care about me shaving and told me that as long as i spread my lips and he can get to the clit that is all that matters
SO glad that i was open and honest!!!

Anticipation · Answer

I want a woman who can speak her mind,,

Being blunt is fine by me, she can even be a tiger, because a tiger will always have my back.

Being blunt isn't bad even if there is a disagreement.

It is possible to being blunt and not verbally collide, as lovers pursue compromises.

The only time I'm not into bluntness is when lovers are being disrespectful or rude, or when they are force feeding their will on one another.

DeeperMeaning · Answer

Not saying this is you, but too often people confuse being rude with being "real" you can still deliver the honest message across in a firm way without disrespecting the other person. For me personally, I am both and I voted the quiet type. I am a shy person, I keep to myself, I am soft spoken, however that doesn't mean I am not honest and afraid to speak the truth. The biggest trait I value in another human being is honesty, and I refuse to make myself a liar on behalf of someone else.

IncognitoX · Answer

I am honestly happy if the girl is quite open about her views. Personally I switch according to people around so I would speak out with certain set of friends and hold myself back when I feel the crowd isn't a quite understanding one for me.

Anastasiya00 · Answer

I voted that I am the blunt type. But there is An in between I think everyone should work on. I am blunt cause I want to make things simple without games, but I am also prudent. Like speaking your mind shouldn't be an excuse for being rude either and saying uncalled for things, even if they are true. So I just know when to be quiet and when to be blunt.

Kurgiflurgen · Answer

Yeah pretty much same. I mean, personally, I'd rather hear the truth even if it hurts than be told something fake. If you're getting fat, you're getting fat, honey. I'm sorry. Enough said.
But at the same time, you kinda have to filter so that you don't completely crush them and/or make people hate you. There's a very delicate way of going about this.

Giacomanzo · Answer

There are way to say stuff. I like to have constructive conversations about problems. The important thing is that by the end she will understand my logic and will make me understand hers, without starting yelling and acting all crazy about small stuff.

BLOODYBEAST · Answer

Blunt? Yea right. From experience Most girls who say they're "blunt" only use that as an excuse to be a bitch. No one likes a bitch. Be blunt alright but you can be blunt politely. Most people who hear "blunt" automatically think "ratchet" or "wide mouthed" girl. But really it's just speaking your mind (as politely as possible, often respecting the other person.) Being blunt is different from being a rude bitch. I hope you're the right one.

Underduress · Answer

I don’t mind if she speaks her mind as long as she can handle the response without some unilateral inequality on her part. If she dishes it out, she has to be able to take it. No exceptions for gender.

Lucasday · Answer

It's important to speak the truth, I would want someone to tell me the truth then feed me lies, cause if there's a problem and I'm not told about it how can I fix it, so yeah I prefer it when a girl is honest to me and speaks her mind

V01D_Entertainment · Answer

This binary choice between extremes is false. What everybody wants is someone who is honest about their needs, annoyances and at the same time expresses it gracefully, politely.

ShortCircuit · Answer

I do appreciate honesty, but usually "I speak my mind" is code for "I'm a tactless bitch with no manners".

You can be honest without being ruthless. Being "blunt" is really just being too lazy to consider people's sensitivities. There's no excuse for that.

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