Guys: Do you like it when a girl speaks her mind? Girls: Are you the blunt or quiet type?

Question

I've always been very open and honest in general. So much so that it's almost as if I shock people for being real instead of just telling people what they want to hear. I notice that they're are so many people afraid to speak their mind or say how they really feel. I don't understand that, I don't understand the point of holding back. If you're happy, embrace it. If you're sad, say it. If they upset you, let them know. If you're curious, just ask. Life is too short not to speak your mind.

InfoBot · Accepted Answer

The idea that someone will be open and honest is good in principle but whether or not you like it will depend on what's on her mind at the time, obviously. Some things you might want to hear, some things not. It's good that she gives you honesty but her honesty may well be something that pisses you off. Overally though, it's easier to know where you stand with someone who is honest.

I will add that honesty should not negate tact and manners. You can be honest with good intentions or honest with bad intentions. "Yes, you really are very fat and I find you very ugly" is not the kind of honesty that is constructive or helpful. Using honesty as an excuse for being a dick is something that some people do hide behind.

SinghSong · Accepted Answer

Being blunt doesn't necessarily mean that you're not quiet. I'm extremely blunt, but I'm also relatively quiet and reserved. It is possible to be both- if you are being real, speaking your mind and saying how you really feel instead of just telling people what they want to hear or speaking for the sake of speaking, then you should be speaking LESS, not more- A truly blunt and honest person doesn't bother with small talk, and small talk makes up the overwhelming majority of what most people say. Therefore, a truly honest and blunt person should automatically be quieter. And if you're not, then are you truly being blunt, open and honest? Or are you merely being confrontational?

enirikiu · Accepted Answer

I'm so extremely shy. I just can't speak up and always back out at the last minute on speaking up to a guy. About a lot of things. Sometimes I don't want to trouble the guy, or sometimes I just have horrible social anxiety. Either way, I don't have a lot of confidence in my ability to communicate. I'm really introverted, but I can appear extroverted to friends sometimes. I've been trying to overcome it more, so it's getting better.

Thanks for making this helpful question, by the way. It's really gonna help guys and girls understand each other better.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Guys can dig outspoken girls... if she has a little bit of TACT about it. No one likes the person who says the totally UNFILTERED things that people say - because that often comes across insulting and crass. Yes sometimes it's necessary but it's rarely effective.

You can be blunt, but smart. Know how to word things to get the best results, know how to put things to minimize the drama without losing the impact of you statement. And, when need be: unleash the beast.

Getcha a girl like dat. ^

witherwing · Accepted Answer

I'm the quiet type. I only speak after carefully evaluating what to say and mostly just observe and listen. But this doesn't apply, when I'm with people I know very well. I don't choose my words as carefully then, but still am in no means the most talkative.

karahiri · Answer

I think I'm both. I'm blunt when I need to be, more tactful if someone needs to be carefully managed.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The girl who I have been dating for the past month is quite blunt and candid and I absolutely love it!

Lancaster4201 · Answer

Both are fine and have their own advantages and disadvantages. In regards to being blunt, it depends on how blunt are you, are you a jerk about it, and do you know when to curb your bluntness. Someone who isn't considerate of others and who speaks every thought as soon as it enters their head isn't attractive.

I don't care if you are blunt or not (both are attractive in their own way). I do care about being polite with the bluntness and not being a jerk.

Wonderer89 · Answer

I'm a bit of both... if I have nothing to contribute that adds some kind of value (helpful, kind, true etc) then I stay quiet.
If it's around my people though it's generally whatever pops into my head

Gracefulhippo · Answer

If a girl never feels she can be honest or speak up about what she thinks or how she's feeling, a dude can get blindsided by problems in the relationship he never even saw coming. I guess a shy girl who doesn't have any issues could work, but it'd just be boring, in my opinion.

rjroy3 · Answer

"Guys: Do you like it when a girl speaks her mind?"

With the caveat of her being caring and respectful yes I do. If she's just in a bitchy mood and vomits that bullshit on me. No... no I do not like or prefer that over her calming down first and speaking later lol.

Mexicoman101 · Answer

I appreciate bluntness and frank honest, as long as they're not just being blunt about their bitchy or critical impulses. I can actually enjoy that as long as it comes with her being sincerely forward with me about what makes her happy, how she feels about my music, etc. It opens doors to communication, where being too silent closes them & leaves me guessing in ways that can amount to grasping at straws.

Cosytoasty · Answer

Tactful and witty is what i like, you can be blunt but skilled with words so that it doesn't sound blunt you can even turn things into a joke while still being blunt.

Anonymous · Answer

i speak my mind
Well honestly, my ex... I would ask him to lick my cooch because I loved it and saw it in porn videos. He would be so hesitant and insist on a shower. He even told me to shave because he doesn't like hair. so I told him that he literally has issues and that i deserve better and broke things up.
My new boyfriend however eats everything and he even, begs me to lick it. I came back from the gym once, and he licked me right away without ever asking for a shower because he tells me i taste the best... he doesn't care about me shaving and told me that as long as i spread my lips and he can get to the clit that is all that matters
SO glad that i was open and honest!!!

Anticipation · Answer

I want a woman who can speak her mind,,

Being blunt is fine by me, she can even be a tiger, because a tiger will always have my back.

Being blunt isn't bad even if there is a disagreement.

It is possible to being blunt and not verbally collide, as lovers pursue compromises.

The only time I'm not into bluntness is when lovers are being disrespectful or rude, or when they are force feeding their will on one another.

DeeperMeaning · Answer

Not saying this is you, but too often people confuse being rude with being "real" you can still deliver the honest message across in a firm way without disrespecting the other person. For me personally, I am both and I voted the quiet type. I am a shy person, I keep to myself, I am soft spoken, however that doesn't mean I am not honest and afraid to speak the truth. The biggest trait I value in another human being is honesty, and I refuse to make myself a liar on behalf of someone else.

IncognitoX · Answer

I am honestly happy if the girl is quite open about her views. Personally I switch according to people around so I would speak out with certain set of friends and hold myself back when I feel the crowd isn't a quite understanding one for me.

Anastasiya00 · Answer

I voted that I am the blunt type. But there is An in between I think everyone should work on. I am blunt cause I want to make things simple without games, but I am also prudent. Like speaking your mind shouldn't be an excuse for being rude either and saying uncalled for things, even if they are true. So I just know when to be quiet and when to be blunt.

Kurgiflurgen · Answer

Yeah pretty much same. I mean, personally, I'd rather hear the truth even if it hurts than be told something fake. If you're getting fat, you're getting fat, honey. I'm sorry. Enough said.
But at the same time, you kinda have to filter so that you don't completely crush them and/or make people hate you. There's a very delicate way of going about this.

Giacomanzo · Answer

There are way to say stuff. I like to have constructive conversations about problems. The important thing is that by the end she will understand my logic and will make me understand hers, without starting yelling and acting all crazy about small stuff.

BLOODYBEAST · Answer

Blunt? Yea right. From experience Most girls who say they're "blunt" only use that as an excuse to be a bitch. No one likes a bitch. Be blunt alright but you can be blunt politely. Most people who hear "blunt" automatically think "ratchet" or "wide mouthed" girl. But really it's just speaking your mind (as politely as possible, often respecting the other person.) Being blunt is different from being a rude bitch. I hope you're the right one.

Underduress · Answer

I don’t mind if she speaks her mind as long as she can handle the response without some unilateral inequality on her part. If she dishes it out, she has to be able to take it. No exceptions for gender.

Lucasday · Answer

It's important to speak the truth, I would want someone to tell me the truth then feed me lies, cause if there's a problem and I'm not told about it how can I fix it, so yeah I prefer it when a girl is honest to me and speaks her mind

V01D_Entertainment · Answer

This binary choice between extremes is false. What everybody wants is someone who is honest about their needs, annoyances and at the same time expresses it gracefully, politely.

ShortCircuit · Answer

I do appreciate honesty, but usually "I speak my mind" is code for "I'm a tactless bitch with no manners".

You can be honest without being ruthless. Being "blunt" is really just being too lazy to consider people's sensitivities. There's no excuse for that.

bingbaddaboom · Answer

I don't like them.
Overly competetive, overly standoffish, always complicate shit.

I ditto that comment. I like my women to be submissive... that's not to say that she can't talk but don't let on like your Rapunzel in the high castle or anything. Hot introverted women are better than hot extroverted women because they are chill and are not typically high maintenance headaches.

Schnikies · Answer

I don't read people very well so it's far easier for you to be blunt than me try and over analyse everything you say and body language etc. But I'm not great at being blunt with other people

Wingedz · Answer

I would love to have her communicate with me instead of keeping it in her mind and start crying on the back. "Just speak to me already, tell me everything you know! Who are you? Are you a spy? Are you from the future? Where is Sarah Connor?"

MackFreeze · Answer

I like a girl who speaks her mind repsectfully and constructively. Some shy people don't speak up and that alone can cause a lot of issues especially when the matter is important.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

I'd say open, but meh. The only part of it that's actually important to me is *what* you say. If it's insane, then it doesn't matter, you are ugly on the inside and that's a problem for me. Whether you like to rant or prefer to stay quiet and enjoy your own thoughts, it's the content of what you say that's important to me. It doesn't bother me if you don't speak that much, as long as we can get along.

Daltron · Answer

I am really bad at reading hints, I like to be told clearly what I need to know, otherwise I'll misread (that happens lots).

Robsinsf53 · Answer

I like a woman to tell me whats on her mind. I am not a mind reader nor do I pretend to be. If we all have the same opinion, life would be fucken boring.

Psychlopic · Answer

I always appreciate honesty, but there are more ways to be honest than blunt.  There's a saying in Norwegian that translates to "Honesty lasts the longest". Be honest and communicate, people!

art84 · Answer

Being blunt means your aren't afraid to speak up or voice your opinion. I actually would prefer a girl who speaks her mind as I myself am the quiet type that won't say anything.

Taco80 · Answer

depends. people should have some type of filter. there are things that are better left unsaid. and if you can't figure that out and always blurt stuff out just because you can. it will become annoying.

Wolframium · Answer

I like direct, honest and truthful approach. No lies, no fuckin' arround, no BS. Straight to the point. No games. Rational conversation.

Drifter83UK · Answer

I think it's best when people speak their minds. so long as one is polite, it shouldn't matter.

OMNIQUAKE · Answer

I like open and confident, but there is a line you can cross that becomes rude or negative.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

I'm the quiet type mostly, mainly cause I don't have any real issues with anyone. I'm sure if issues arise I might say something or let the other person address it when they feel they are ready to speak on it.

slutsdontgetoral · Answer

I like opinionated women who are articulated and when they are educated on the subject matter. When they simply parrot the media or worse yet just throw out uneducated bs its like STFU.

ubique13 · Answer

Who the fuck wants to be in a relationship with someone they can't talk to? 😒

DelilahNoelle · Answer

I'm quiet and shy most of the time but I can be blunt and outspoken when I need to be. I do tell it like it is for the most part but I try to be considerate of others feelings when I do.

madhatters4 · Answer

i prefer anyone speaks freely. i'd hope their bluntness would be measured depending on the situation

Lack_Of_A_Name · Answer

fuck yeah, it's a nice change of pace from all these girls who love playing games and shit

loveout · Answer

honesty is important, but so is the delivery of it.

Patriot357 · Answer

I don't mind unless she's being rude or a hypocrite. I've dated a girl who was blunt but also a hypocrite, I don't mind the bluntness because she told the truth but she was a fucking hypocrite too

drago85 · Answer

If girls were more blunt then shit would be easier than there bullshit mind games.

Harlock2045 · Answer

guys don't read between the lines too well, we need the idiots guide version sometimes

Marsha003 · Answer

I choose different times to be blunt, because not every situation deserves a blunt answer or statement... otherwise I might come across as a B*tch... so I cautious with my words

kelvinmed · Answer

I don't mind it. I think women in general need to speak their mind more often and without worrying about men's opinions

meganz621 · Answer

I'm blunt, not afraid to share my opinion even if it may offend some people. Just the way I am, I would never change even if some stupid guy didn't like it

BreeJM · Answer

I'm usually quiet, I like staying in the background, away from things that have nothing to do with me. But if I'm trying to prove a point, nobody can keep my opinion quiet. I will get my point across!

mooky06 · Answer

I'm the girl who is both depending on my mood. If i need to be blunt i will be blunt. If i don't feel like saying much i will be that quiet type of girl

Meewwmeewwmeeww · Answer

I like to be honest but not a complete asshole. I always speak the truth but sometimes I don't need to say my opinion if it's simply hurtful or unnecessary.

FrenchyRomain · Answer

here is the real question : why is it that when we ask "yo baby what's wrong" and we get "nothing" (but we know SOMETHING is wrong) OR we get a "you should know"...
IF WE ASK --> WE DONT FUCKING KNOW !

zagor · Answer

Blunt, yes. Tactless, rude, inconsiderate, no. There is a line and she should know it.

cdmist · Answer

Why not have both. For me a girl that has quiet demeanor and speaks honestly is the best mix.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as she has a sense of decorum, I would think a girl who speaks her mind is enjoyable company.

Ahmidouse321 · Answer

It's ok, guys like girls who can expreess their emotions

MakingMeHiiiigh · Answer

I'm blunt myself. Not quiet, I only speak when need to

FrenchiFresh · Answer

I'm more of the shy quiet type but I can definitely be blunt when needed...

DontTouchMe · Answer

I'm always straight up when I speak. I try to be considerate of other peoples feeling though. My biggest pet peeve is when people won't speak up for themselves!

PrincessBunBuns · Answer

I'm both. I don't wanna make anyone feel bad if they don't look good. But I also won't let someone walk over me.

akadatank44 · Answer

Bit of both. Knows when to be blunt and has a filter when she should.

Bella_562 · Answer

I can be blunt but I try not to be in a rude way but then again I'm also quiet so I guess it depends for me

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