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Would you give him/her another chance if you don’t feel any spark on the first date? (Page 2)
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Personally I have a 3 date rule. If I don't feel anything after 3 meetings, it's done. If the first date is absolutely repulsive, like my last one, then move on immediately of course. You are questioning it since you are asking, so give it another 2 dates and see how you feel then.
The 3 strike rule is very effective
However it's not concrete
Usuaully even before the 1st date I've already talked to this person on several occassions on the phone, I can normally tell by the end of the date if it's worth another one or not. I can understand being nervous at the beginning of a date but if you are still nervous at the end and still awkard, then the people just don't click and I am not going to waste my time or theirs on another date that will have a high probability of being like the first one.
As long as it was just a missing "spark" I would give it a second chance because of all the factors that you mentioned. If there were other signs that you were really not a compatible match then not necessarily but a lack of "spark" wouldn't be a deal breaker for a second date.
In the essence of any relationship you can’t jump from one to the next it will cause conflict but with that being said everyone deserves a second chance
I don't think basing a relationship off of whether you feel a "spark" is a good idea. So yes. What is a "spark" by the way? Everyone uses this word but I've never felt it so I don't understand it.
Chemistry.
But wouldn't compatibility or "chemistry" be better if it were based off of tangible things like shared interests and values, rather than a fleeting and temporary feeling?
Sometimes you just feel it. I have. But good point.
Thank you. Maybe I'm aromantic or something, because I've never felt anything romantic towards anyone lol.
I remember meeting a guy back then and feeling the spark, or maybe it’s cos he was really touchy-feely. I went for a “date” today and didn’t feel the spark at all. It felt like he was just a Friend. But then I’m taken, so maybe that’s why!
It could be. I don't know though, I don't understand anything to due with romance or love lol.
Sorry! Unfortunately I don't give second or third chances. If a person messes up the first time, I tend to back away!!! I only talk to people that impress me and those who give off a good vibe.
The one week date rule. You test them with your interest. First date is the splashing waters. Second your favourite movie of all time. Third you order your favourite food, and have a surprise at your house date. Fourth your favorite thing to do when your bored date. Fifth is your favourite restaurant, and second favourite movie. Sixth date is your choice movie marathon. Seventh is simple the carnival test.
If she had glorious hair like that girl then of course I would try to make s connection
I want those luscious red locks spread over my tummy when we are curled up in bed
Everyone deserves a second chance. Unless they were disrespectful or portrayed views that you found to be offensive. Then try again, just act natural try not to force anything; if its natural it will work out.
Maybe I would, that's called "Not being too quick to judge" lol 😂 but really not sure since I'm not a fan of that saying or having a lot of patience (hopeless patience) but this case doesn't seem 'hopeless enough'.
Im a very unemotional person when it comes to meeting new people, so i tend to always just see where it goes and i dont mind discarding them afterwards if it doesn't go well
I think (in my limited experience) that you need that spark. Chemistry. If you aren't excited about the person when you first meet imagine how it will be down the road.
I sometimes met people and changed my opinion the next time we met drastically. So giving another chance is worth it.
I agree completely, actually, I think 3 is a better magic number (of given chances) than 2 in order to have some insight about the person, you never know if you two will click because there are various factors involved around you also...
it is just stupid just to give one only chance to something and it's even better to give it at least three
this is why i dont like dates. takes me much longer than as date to get an idea of a person as well as open up.
I picked A I told the girl who I took out on a date that I was nervous and she said she could tell we chatted she told me she didn't see a romantic connection I feel our talks as "friends" have way more volume then the first date it sucks most people think she's just being nice but I don't fully just think its done and over with..
You don't get a raging inferno right from the start, you have to make a spark and temper it, build it up to the raging fire.
Point being sometimes you have to give things a bit of time you can't expect to build something meaningful during a first encounter. First impressions exactly that a first impression, you got give yourself time to see what's there.
the 3 date rule is good thing to go by, if you don't feel anything by the 3rd date then usually there isn't anything there.
I would, if I knew there was something there that I couldn't unearth the first time around. I am a persistent guy. I won't drag things on for too long as things would become a real drainer after a while.
If there were any real, serious problems in the beginning, probably just stay out of it.
If I went on a date with a girl I met through a dating site or any other manner and we didn't have a spark, perhaps I thought she was boring or just didn't feel anything from the date. Then no, there's no reason to try for a second date.
I would need to feel some sort of intellectual or personality attraction to her during the first date, to consider a second date.
I don't think you can really get to know each other based on one date. I have been on a date where I thought we were getting along well enough to go on a second date or more. After she got home she text me and told me to loose her number and never to contact her again. I really have no idea why? So I did what she asked.
I usually give it a second chance to see if things are better the second time since we both may have felt awkward on that first date and confused it with having no chemistry but sometimes you just know that first time