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Cause a lot of men disguise themselves as the “good guy” and manipulate/gaslight their way to us. The “good guy” is only used when the toxic “alpha” wants to validate himself whenever he’s wrong. “Good” guys don’t verbally say they’re the “good” guys they just show it.30
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I think they are impatient, real love takes time and the rejection of inferior relationships and they are so eager to hatch their eggs, they bind to the first red square they find.10
I would say two main reasons:
1. As others have said - good doesn't mean interesting or engaging or compatible. I know plenty of good, decent guys that I just am not interested in because they have different hobbies or different goals in life or live a different life than I do and it just wouldn't work.
2. A lot of guys who claim to be "good guys" are not actually good guys at all. They expect sex, they expect a relationship, they feel entitled and when they don't get that they whine and say "But I was so nice, I'm such a good guy, see, I did all these things for you and you won't date me", often times "good guy" is a cover for men who are not nice, not kind, not compassionate and not a good guy at all. Which means that for guys what are actually good, it gives that concept a bad name.41
Who says who a girl chooses is the wrong person to date? Maybe it’s a life lesson. Or trial and error. Or we just pick the person to see what it’s like to be with the? “Good guys” aren’t all good. We are all as humans shades of grey. We all have emotions and tempers, good days and bad days. Likes and dislikes. Plenty of men on here claim to be ‘good guys’, but aren’t so perfect when you screen their own Q and A’s. And boy can they kick and scream when hurt… also just like the rest of us.21
I don’t think anyone chooses a wrong person or wants this. If we knew they would be wrong we wouldn’t be with them. A person doesn’t show their true controls until after weeks or months of getting to know them. As for , trusting a good guy trust is built over time in general. This is why having standards are important if you’re a woman.0
It’s not like we purposely go searching for bad guys. It’s not our fault when a guy pretends to be nice and it turns out he’s a jerk. “Why do girls choose the wrong guy” more like why do men like you blame women for problems you caused. You put all the blame on the women who get hurt rather than the men who are actually doing something wrong.50
My therapist told me that one of the reasons people choose the wrong person is because it's safer. Many people are afraid of commitment and they don't have to worry about that if they pick the wrong person.41
First of all, some of us aren't ready to date.
Second of all, most "nice guys" aren't as nice as they think
I hope this answered your question. Now quit thinking all women are the same and look in the right places11
because a woman is looking for more than just a good guy. he has to be interesting, can make her laugh, entertain her. He must be someone she enjoys talking to. Anyone can be a "good guy". but it won't mean i look forward to talking to you31
Speaking from personal experience - the guys I’ve dated know what I want and then put up an act embodying all the traits I’m attracted to. I fall because I think they’re the perfect guy. A few weeks (not months because I’m no bitch lol), the facade fades away and I find myself dating a douchebag.10
Personally I was gaslight so much growing up by my father I can’t notice a toxic guy If he was standing right in front of me (literally)30
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Good lord, I've seen this question way too many times.
First off, not all girls are the same. Remember that. Just like not all men are the same. All of us want different things and have different expectations.
Some girls, especially, high school girls like toned, good-looking guys, who are "bad" because they like the idea of being the "fixer-uppers" They think they can change them. Also, not all guys are "good" as they claim to be. I had an ordeal with a "nice" guy who became my stalker and made my life miserable. I do not have social media/ my phone anymore. Some guys just pretend to be nice, and some others are simps. Genuinely nice guys are very hard to find. You are 16. You can ask a girl out who goes to your school. Girls do trust good guys. You just have to put yourself out there. Be more charming, more confident. Be polite to people.