Whatever is your deal-breaker should be mentioned before or during first few dates. At least that is what I would appreciate exactly as you said "to not waste my time" with someone I wouldn't want to spend my future with.
It's okay to bring your long term goals, romantically or otherwise, but keep in mind that anyone who isn't seeking the same will just lie to you anyways. Dating has always kind of sucked for those looking for a life-mate, not a hookup.
I don't think you should press the issue, if you find a way to bring it up casually then it's fine but first dates are about getting to know the other person.
Bring it up after the 3rd date. If he’s really into you it won’t scare him off by then. Your goal in the beginning is to get to know each other to see if you like one another or are compatible.
You should do so on the first date if you never had a long conversation online - Just ask him what he's looking for - If it doesn't suit you it is what it is - he ain't changing his mind suddenly..
I feel that what works best Is to just meet someone for at least a month before bringing up labels. You went on 1 date seems like a red flag if you start bringing up marriage lol but I don't know better to be honest I guess
I definitely don’t think it’s too early. It means you know what you are looking for and you aren’t there to waste time away with someone that isn’t even looking for a relationship to begin with
Absolutely. Something like that is important for the people you want to date to know right off the bat. I'd let them know when you first start messaging each other.
Bring it up before or on the first date. Don't waste this man's time. I've had women bring things up on the 2nd or 3rd date that I didn't agree with and I felt trapped.
I would want to know. I think of he is of a kind to have an exclusive relationship, he’ll appreciate your honesty and if he isn’t, he’ll leave and won’t waste your time.
In my view, the first and second dates are for negotiating the deal. I said first, but second is fine. Before the first date is presumptuous and sounds insecure.
I think it depends on how you bring out the topic. I personally prefer to bring out this conversation after a few dates and see if we have any potential and are compatible with each other.
You tell him when you trust him first understand what personality he has then tell him but be clear with no sex rule and no hookup in the beggining itself like at the end 9fvfirst date or if you are using dating apps mention it in bio
Say it from the jump, don't get caught up in falling for people that don't want similar things. Not worth it, you can't get that time back, so make that decision matter.
No later than the first date. Last thing you want is to wonder where this is going and you can weed out people a lot faster. The right person will want the same thing as you want.
don't start putting limitations on someone on a first date. you need to get to know the person first. date them for a few months before doing anything like that. don't get so worked up about things. just have fun.
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Whatever is your deal-breaker should be mentioned before or during first few dates. At least that is what I would appreciate exactly as you said "to not waste my time" with someone I wouldn't want to spend my future with.
It's okay to bring your long term goals, romantically or otherwise, but keep in mind that anyone who isn't seeking the same will just lie to you anyways. Dating has always kind of sucked for those looking for a life-mate, not a hookup.
I don't think you should press the issue, if you find a way to bring it up casually then it's fine but first dates are about getting to know the other person.
Bring it up after the 3rd date. If he’s really into you it won’t scare him off by then. Your goal in the beginning is to get to know each other to see if you like one another or are compatible.
Are you serious? Many guys want to fuck on the first date.
With your advice she'll be wasting their time and money
You should do so on the first date if you never had a long conversation online - Just ask him what he's looking for - If it doesn't suit you it is what it is - he ain't changing his mind suddenly..
I feel that what works best Is to just meet someone for at least a month before bringing up labels. You went on 1 date seems like a red flag if you start bringing up marriage lol but I don't know better to be honest I guess
I definitely don’t think it’s too early. It means you know what you are looking for and you aren’t there to waste time away with someone that isn’t even looking for a relationship to begin with
Absolutely. Something like that is important for the people you want to date to know right off the bat. I'd let them know when you first start messaging each other.
Bring it up before or on the first date. Don't waste this man's time. I've had women bring things up on the 2nd or 3rd date that I didn't agree with and I felt trapped.
I would want to know. I think of he is of a kind to have an exclusive relationship, he’ll appreciate your honesty and if he isn’t, he’ll leave and won’t waste your time.
In my view, the first and second dates are for negotiating the deal. I said first, but second is fine. Before the first date is presumptuous and sounds insecure.
I think it depends on how you bring out the topic. I personally prefer to bring out this conversation after a few dates and see if we have any potential and are compatible with each other.
You tell him when you trust him first understand what personality he has then tell him but be clear with no sex rule and no hookup in the beggining itself like at the end 9fvfirst date or if you are using dating apps mention it in bio
If you know what you want, and there's no compromising it, then yes lay it out there. Don't waste his time or yours.
Not at all. I always make sure to mention that I'm polyamorous and won't be exclusive either on or before the first date.
Say it from the jump, don't get caught up in falling for people that don't want similar things. Not worth it, you can't get that time back, so make that decision matter.
Either prior or during the first date. Don't waste time because a lot of guys will freak out and run.
Wait then is it bad to bring it up or not on the first date
Definitely bring it up
Bring it up before a first date. That's how I roll and that's all I'll roll with. Casuals get the boot and hook ups get ghosted.
No later than the first date. Last thing you want is to wonder where this is going and you can weed out people a lot faster. The right person will want the same thing as you want.
don't start putting limitations on someone on a first date. you need to get to know the person first. date them for a few months before doing anything like that. don't get so worked up about things. just have fun.